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Not planning to sleep train

marwaaiadmarwaaiad member
in April 2016 Moms
Anyone not planning to sleep train their baby?

How do you plan on putting your baby to sleep without having them cry their heart out? And at the same time you don't want them to get used to being rocked before sleeping. 

How do you minimize those night wakings which I hear might go on until baby is 2 years old?

Any suggestions for a middle ground would be appreciated.  
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  • yodiggityyodiggity member
    I am not actively sleep training, or planning to. I think my LO has done a pretty good job of figuring it out on her own. I rock her to sleep most nights but other nights she falls asleep after eating. She generally gets sleepy between 8:30-9pm so that is when we start the bed time 'routine' which is bath/pjs and a bottle if she seems hungry. I typically don't feed her right before bed unless she seems hungry.
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  • amandac12581amandac12581 member
    I also am not actively sleep training my LO.  As far as bed time he calls the shots.  He usually gets a bath around 7/7:30 and then I'll read to him and lay with him in my bed until he falls asleep, then I'll move him to his own bed.  He's been pretty good with sleeping at least 9-10 hours, he does have moments when he wakes in the night.  When he does if he's acting hungry I give him a bottle, if he's not I hold him and rock him until he falls back to sleep.  
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  • JayeSkylarJayeSkylar member
    LO isnt necessarily sleep trained. We've always fed him and sleep sack him when he starts acting tired. He's usually in the play pin by 10 at night. If he rolls himself over or a loud noise happens he wakes and we give him back his pacifier and he's back to sleep. We've been doing this since he was about 2 months
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  • g&tlewisg&tlewis member
    We aren't actively sleep training either, but we have a bedtime routine that seems to help LO go to sleep. We start the process around 7:00 with a bath (a few times a weeks), diaper change, pj's, and a bottle. He'll usually fall asleep while eating, but he'll wake up a little when we go to transfer him into his crib. Right now, we're swaddling him again since he's in a sleep regression. We lay him in his crab, swaddle him, turn on the white noise machine, and read to him. He's usually in his crib asleep between 8 & 8:30. Before the sleep regression, he was sleeping 8-10 hours straight. During the regression, he's been waking up crying - sometimes once a night, sometimes 7 times. If he wakes up, I'll go in and give him his paci, and he's usually back asleep almost instantly. If not, I'll shush him for a minute or so until he's asleep again. 
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  • momofmanyinthemittenmomofmanyinthemitten member
    CIO is certainly not the only sleep training/guiding method (and I'm not a fan of it). We used pick up/put down with DD1 and shush/pat with DS1 and DD2.  No crying involved. This one has started sucking his thumb when I put him down and he's able to go to sleep on his own. Prior to this, I'd let him suck on my pinkie finger until he was asleep.
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  • marwaaiadmarwaaiad member
    kielpinskim said:
    CIO is certainly not the only sleep training/guiding method (and I'm not a fan of it). We used pick up/put down with DD1 and shush/pat with DS1 and DD2.  No crying involved. This one has started sucking his thumb when I put him down and he's able to go to sleep on his own. Prior to this, I'd let him suck on my pinkie finger until he was asleep.
    How many times did you have to do the picking up/putting down before they fell asleep? And for how long? 

    I had tried it for half an hour and I probably did it 30 times and she still wouldn't go to sleep. My LO is 4 months old. So I just gave up and went back to rocking/nursing until she fell asleep. 
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  • momofmanyinthemittenmomofmanyinthemitten member
    marwaaiad said:
    kielpinskim said:
    CIO is certainly not the only sleep training/guiding method (and I'm not a fan of it). We used pick up/put down with DD1 and shush/pat with DS1 and DD2.  No crying involved. This one has started sucking his thumb when I put him down and he's able to go to sleep on his own. Prior to this, I'd let him suck on my pinkie finger until he was asleep.
    How many times did you have to do the picking up/putting down before they fell asleep? And for how long? 

    I had tried it for half an hour and I probably did it 30 times and she still wouldn't go to sleep. My LO is 4 months old. So I just gave up and went back to rocking/nursing until she fell asleep. 
    She was 6 mos, so a bit older, but it took at least that long the first couple times. I had dh do it to start so she knew she couldn't nurse. Perhaps try shush/pat? 
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  • ivyvines6ivyvines6 member
    When I was pregnant I never thought I would have to sleep train a baby or ever implement the much dreaded CIO method, and then LO arrived and that all flew out the window... I'm lucky that he loves bedtime and sttn, but day time naps are hell to accomplish. My LO will not go to sleep for me no matter what I try, so it's CIO for us unfortunately. He does a wonderful job of going to sleep at night, and will let anyone else in the universe rock him or pat/shake him to sleep, but he won't go to sleep when I hold him for whatever reason. He just wants to play and wriggle and whatnot. So at night he doesn't cry at all, but for his naps he cries himself to sleep. And it's hard and horrible to listen to, but if he doesn't take any naps then he is inconsolable from about 3-when he goes to bed at about 9. :tired_face:
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  • AGK2015AGK2015 member
    I don't have any plans to sleep train, although theoretically we could always change our minds later on. Current routine is to watch for sleepy cues starting around 8pm, and from there to bathe, change, feed, cuddle,  and then lay down to sleep.  Occasionally,  if we miss our window of sleepiness opportunity, I end up needing to rock her to sleep, and that's okay. I figure there aren't a whole lot of college students out there unable to fall asleep without their mommies, so for now I'm not pushing sleep independence. I enjoy the cuddles, too, so why force a change?

    As for MOTN, while I'm not exactly running to get to her these days, I try to respond to her cries before she has time to wake all the way up, but only once it's been established that she's actually in the process of waking up and not just stirring in her sleep. It doesn't always work, but she's still little. With the number of sleep regressions we have to look forward to, I'm not really that concerned about getting her to STTN just yet.

    We'll reevaluate if and when we get to the point where our current way of doing things feels too cumbersome. Maybe it's because she's a relatively easy baby, but I'm not feeling the pressure to sleep train just yet.
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  • 3dogs_and_a_baby3dogs_and_a_baby member
    We're not sleep training over here and S has started to fall into her own routine that we follow. I bathe her between 6-7 then we play for a little and I watch for her cue that she's tired, rubbing her eyes and yawning. I then feed her and put her down, if she's REALLY tired she falls asleep while being fed, if not we'll put her in the crib and she will fall asleep. It sometimes involves her whining and babbling to herself while sucking on her fist but as long as she doesn't start full blown crying I let her soothe herself to sleep. If she starts crying I pick up, offer the bottle if she didn't finish it and will rock to sleep. I always put on the sound machine and during our MOTN feedings we usually change her sound machine to a different noise and for whatever reason it helps her go back to sleep. 
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  • loveymayloveymay member
    Im not sleep training. LO goes to bed around 7. We change his diaper, put his jammies on and rock him to sleep.Then we lay him in his crib and put the sleep sack on. He wakes up a few times a night, but usually because he has rolled into ppsition/corner of the crib and is stuck. I dont necessarily have to rock him, just hold him and he will go to sleep. I do the same for naps.I wish I could just lay him down and he would go to sleep, but Im not going to CIO to accomplish that. He is little and eventually he will be able to go to bed by himself.  I also figure when he is a little boy, I'll probably sit with him to read bedtime stories so thats kind of the same thing, right?  He doesnt cry when its time for sleep and it only takes a few minutes for himto fall asleep.  So I figure if it aint broke, dont fix it!
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