Guys I can't bring myself to be excited about this baby. I keep forgetting I'm pregnant, and when I went to my appointment this week I was just so disinterested. It was not like this at all last time around. And, I mean, it's not like this was a surprise or unplanned - we wanted this.
I I also feel super inconvenienced by not being able to drink or eat what I want.
I'm gonna go with: it's my body expressing to me that this is the last time around.
I'm grateful for the mold remediation (not dangerous black mold!) we're doing meaning that we can't afford to go visit DH's family next month. Thanks, damp basement!!!
I originally planned to take all day off today to go to my sister's graduation. Through various circumstances (mainly a toddler who wouldn't do well in a 4 hours one way car ride) I am not going which makes me sad BUT I told my coworkers I could only work til one now. Totally going to pick up DS and take him home to nap so I can nap too! Not sorry at all!
I overexaggerated my morning sickness this morning so that DH would take our son to daycare for me and I could lay in bed. As soon as I heard them drive off I shot out of bed and drove to McDonalds to get a McGriddle. No regrets.
I haven't felt too bad this pregnancy, but some mornings I'm tempted to pretend I'm as sick as I was last time just so I can stay in bed all day and have people bring me treats and sympathy...
DH brought me donuts this morning at work... he thought there were two left in the bag but there were three. I ate them all... will probably deeply regret that later, but for now:
Mine isn't pregnancy related. Yesterday I realized that I just don't really like my BIL. I don't dislike him, but I don't like him. YKWIM? Like, if I weren't married to his brother we would never interact ever. Also I hate his girlfriend's politics. Cannot stand them.
DD #1: April 2017 DD #2: May 2020 Baby #3: EDD May 2023; MC October 2022
People using the first trimester genetic screening for no reason other than to find out the sex really irritate me. Like, if you don't need the testing, you're jumping in line ahead of people who actually DO need it, so their wait time is longer. Some insurances aren't paying for them anymore (or aren't paying as much for them anymore), so even though you're cool with shelling out a couple hundred bucks to find out the sex for funsies, you're driving the price up for other people who may not be able to afford it so easily and actually need it.
People using the first trimester genetic screening for no reason other than to find out the sex really irritate me. Like, if you don't need the testing, you're jumping in line ahead of people who actually DO need it, so their wait time is longer. Some insurances aren't paying for them anymore (or aren't paying as much for them anymore), so even though you're cool with shelling out a couple hundred bucks to find out the sex for funsies, you're driving the price up for other people who may not be able to afford it so easily and actually need it.
Okay, end rant.
I don't see anything wrong with an adult using their own money to do genetic screening. Just because someone is considered "low risk" doesn't give you the right to judge them for taking the test. You can still have a child with chromosomal abnormalities even if you don't have risk factors. And so what if they want to find out the sex early? That is their prerogative.
I don't see how MORE people getting tested drives up the price. The more common these tests become, the less expensive they will become. As more and more people begin requesting genetic testing, more companies will pop up and offer better competitive pricing. The company by OB's office is recommending now is totally different from when I had the testing done with my son in 2014. These companies charge your insurance thousands of dollars to take the test, if your insurance denies the claim, then you are only charged a few hundred dollars.
We did genetic screening with my son and we will do it again this pregnancy.
People using the first trimester genetic screening for no reason other than to find out the sex really irritate me. Like, if you don't need the testing, you're jumping in line ahead of people who actually DO need it, so their wait time is longer. Some insurances aren't paying for them anymore (or aren't paying as much for them anymore), so even though you're cool with shelling out a couple hundred bucks to find out the sex for funsies, you're driving the price up for other people who may not be able to afford it so easily and actually need it.
Okay, end rant.
I don't see anything wrong with an adult using their own money to do genetic screening. Just because someone is considered "low risk" doesn't give you the right to judge them for taking the test. You can still have a child with chromosomal abnormalities even if you don't have risk factors. And so what if they want to find out the sex early? That is their prerogative.
I don't see how MORE people getting tested drives up the price. The more common these tests become, the less expensive they will become. As more and more people begin requesting genetic testing, more companies will pop up and offer better competitive pricing. The company by OB's office is recommending now is totally different from when I had the testing done with my son in 2014. These companies charge your insurance thousands of dollars to take the test, if your insurance denies the claim, then you are only charged a few hundred dollars.
We did genetic screening with my son and we will do it again this pregnancy.
I don't think you got the point of "Flame Free" confession, but thanks.
As someone who had to wait weeks to get critical information for the health of my child while people were bragging about taking the test just to find out the sex, I'm allowed to be annoyed at those who clog up the queue because they're too impatient to wait a few more weeks.
I don't think you got the point of "Flame Free" confession, but thanks.
As someone who had to wait weeks to get critical information for the health of my child while people were bragging about taking the test just to find out the sex, I'm allowed to be annoyed at those who clog up the queue because they're too impatient to wait a few more weeks.
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Oh we all know that FFFC is never truly "Flame Free"
Plus.... are you thinking that the labs are only working on pregnancy genetic test only.... You need to be upset with every person that is getting blood drawn for anything, to clog up the system.... There may be some labs that ONLY do pregnancy related genetic testing... but I would assume most of them do more than that.... Waiting sucks... but that's not a reason to say someone else doesn't have the same right as you to take the test...
Mine isn't pregnancy related. Yesterday I realized that I just don't really like my BIL. I don't dislike him, but I don't like him. YKWIM? Like, if I weren't married to his brother we would never interact ever. Also I hate his girlfriend's politics. Cannot stand them.
I really don't care for my one Bil either. And he always wants to travel with us and I'm like NO! I can barely get through dinners with him. He's not mean. He just is so negative and also very cheap.
And also, @SnarkasaurusRex we all know it's called flame-free but anyone on the bump generally knows the standard "not always flame-free" tag line. Not saying whether I agree or disagree. Just saying it's going to happen. And that definitely wasn't a flaming.
TTC1: May 2015
Primary IF May 2016; Failed HSG; Scheduled Lap Sept. 2016
I don't think you got the point of "Flame Free" confession, but thanks.
As someone who had to wait weeks to get critical information for the health of my child while people were bragging about taking the test just to find out the sex, I'm allowed to be annoyed at those who clog up the queue because they're too impatient to wait a few more weeks.
Edited for spelling.
Oh we all know that FFFC is never truly "Flame Free"
Plus.... are you thinking that the labs are only working on pregnancy genetic test only.... You need to be upset with every person that is getting blood drawn for anything, to clog up the system.... There may be some labs that ONLY do pregnancy related genetic testing... but I would assume most of them do more than that.... Waiting sucks... but that's not a reason to say someone else doesn't have the same right as you to take the test...
Except I didn't say that they don't have the right to. I just said it was annoying.
And immediately telling someone (essentially), 'shame on you for feeling the way you do' is basically a flame. I've been on TB long enough to know the FFFC isn't truly flame free, but that still irked me.
ETA that, for me at least, it does go to a separate lab for pregnancy related testing, or at least a separate 'pregnancy' branch of a bigger lab that does genetic testing. I know that's not the same for everyone, though.
My confession is I got totally lazy today and drove my truck down to the bottom of my driveway to pick up my son from the bus stop. Now in my defense it is an extremely long driveway that is a fairly steep hill. But this is the first week of school and I totally planned on using it as part of my exercise routine. But it was so hot this morning it took me like an hour after I came back up to not feel like I was on fire anymore...so I drove down and back up to pick my DS up after school today.
I don't think you got the point of "Flame Free" confession, but thanks.
As someone who had to wait weeks to get critical information for the health of my child while people were bragging about taking the test just to find out the sex, I'm allowed to be annoyed at those who clog up the queue because they're too impatient to wait a few more weeks.
Edited for spelling.
Oh we all know that FFFC is never truly "Flame Free"
Plus.... are you thinking that the labs are only working on pregnancy genetic test only.... You need to be upset with every person that is getting blood drawn for anything, to clog up the system.... There may be some labs that ONLY do pregnancy related genetic testing... but I would assume most of them do more than that.... Waiting sucks... but that's not a reason to say someone else doesn't have the same right as you to take the test...
Except I didn't say that they don't have the right to. I just said it was annoying.
And immediately telling someone (essentially), 'shame on you for feeling the way you do' is basically a flame. I've been on TB long enough to know the FFFC isn't truly flame free, but that still irked me.
ETA that, for me at least, it does go to a separate lab for pregnancy related testing, or at least a separate 'pregnancy' branch of a bigger lab that does genetic testing. I know that's not the same for everyone, though.
So it is annoying to you that other people who you believe aren't taking the test for the right reasons or may not be deemed high risk enough take the same genetic testing as you?
You should be annoyed at the lab who took your test, not at other families who found out they are having healthy babies. Genetic testing usually takes at least a week to get the results. Those families had to wait to find out their results too. I have had to redo labs too, but I don't put the blame on the other people getting labs done. It was the company's fault for screwing up.
Maybe not completely fffc worthy, but one of the kids at my job asked if I had a baby in my tummy. Knee jerk answer in .5 milliseconds "no". Not that I'm pregnant enough to tell the world or a five year old, but I feel bad for denying that I am pregnant. I have always felt like it's bad luck to deny it.
@elplocho I also feel bad for denying that I'm pregnant as well! Its a guilt thing. Like I've wanted and wished for this baby and now its here and I'm denying it...
@elplocho, in the last 2 days I've been asked by 3 different people if I'm pregnant. Firstly, none of your business! Secondly, now I had to lie to you!! Thanks a lot. And these were adults who should know better than to ask!
@kcasset I've actually had two really close friends bring it up, and I responded with "Whaaa? Are you?", just trying to deflect, and they both confessed that they are. And so then I fessed up too. One is about 6 weeks ahead of me and the other is just two.
@leslieknope I've asked two of the moms I know at work who their OB/midwife is because I like getting recs from cool ladies that I know (and I'm switching from a midwife group that didn't work for me last time) ... and both asked me if I was pregnant. Whyyyyyyyy??? Like, I know that they know because I'm asking them but don't actually ASK me.
I am getting genetic testing done and will have to wait several weeks for the answer just like most folks. I want to know if this baby has any serious genetic abnormalities. I have no contributing factors in my genetic line and neither does my husband. I want to know because I want to know. Bonus - I get to find out the gender early, which I also want to know. I think my baby is just as important as anyone else's baby, regardless of risk factors. I don't mind the wait or the cost because I think the information is valuable knowledge and I'm thankful that advances in genetic screening allow me to be more in the know than past generations.
Y'all. I'm not passing judgement on anyone who chooses to do genetic testing, whether out of necessity or for funsies. I just expressed my annoyance at my personal experience with it. I can be annoyed about it without thinking people are terrible and/or selfish for doing it and being judge-y, which I feel like some of y'all are taking it.
My food delivery is 20 minutes late. It's my birthday. And I'm starving. They better get here soon or they're going to have a very hangry, pregnant lady on the phone giving them a piece of my mind!
Re: FFFC
I I also feel super inconvenienced by not being able to drink or eat what I want.
I'm gonna go with: it's my body expressing to me that this is the last time around.
Me: 28 & Partner: 32 | Married 2014
BFP 7/29 EDD 4/11
DD #2: May 2020
Baby #3: EDD May 2023; MC October 2022
Okay, end rant.
I don't see how MORE people getting tested drives up the price. The more common these tests become, the less expensive they will become. As more and more people begin requesting genetic testing, more companies will pop up and offer better competitive pricing. The company by OB's office is recommending now is totally different from when I had the testing done with my son in 2014. These companies charge your insurance thousands of dollars to take the test, if your insurance denies the claim, then you are only charged a few hundred dollars.
We did genetic screening with my son and we will do it again this pregnancy.
As someone who had to wait weeks to get critical information for the health of my child while people were bragging about taking the test just to find out the sex, I'm allowed to be annoyed at those who clog up the queue because they're too impatient to wait a few more weeks.
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Actually, she does.
I have no other thoughts to provide on the topic of genetic screenings.
Plus.... are you thinking that the labs are only working on pregnancy genetic test only.... You need to be upset with every person that is getting blood drawn for anything, to clog up the system.... There may be some labs that ONLY do pregnancy related genetic testing... but I would assume most of them do more than that.... Waiting sucks... but that's not a reason to say someone else doesn't have the same right as you to take the test...
And also,
@SnarkasaurusRex we all know it's called flame-free but anyone on the bump generally knows the standard "not always flame-free" tag line. Not saying whether I agree or disagree. Just saying it's going to happen. And that definitely wasn't a flaming.
And immediately telling someone (essentially), 'shame on you for feeling the way you do' is basically a flame. I've been on TB long enough to know the FFFC isn't truly flame free, but that still irked me.
ETA that, for me at least, it does go to a separate lab for pregnancy related testing, or at least a separate 'pregnancy' branch of a bigger lab that does genetic testing. I know that's not the same for everyone, though.
I have nothing but love for organic snacks and those that serve them, but this has been my summer;
Sigh.DS 1: 10/17/10
DS 2: 6/30/13
MMC found 4/2/16 D&C 4/4/16 & 4/10/16
Cautiously expecting.....EDD 4/1/17
You should be annoyed at the lab who took your test, not at other families who found out they are having healthy babies. Genetic testing usually takes at least a week to get the results. Those families had to wait to find out their results too. I have had to redo labs too, but I don't put the blame on the other people getting labs done. It was the company's fault for screwing up.
Not that I'm pregnant enough to tell the world or a five year old, but I feel bad for denying that I am pregnant. I have always felt like it's bad luck to deny it.
Married: 5/30/2013
DSS #1: 5/25/2007
DSS #2: 1/22/2011
DS #3: 7/8/2012
BFP: 3/14/2016 ~ MC: 3/19/2016
DS #4: 4/21/17
We women should come up with a response to that question that goes for whether you are or are not. That way, if you are you aren't lying/denying.
My personal opinion is that the answer should 100% of the time be, "That is none of your business". What do you guys think?
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-- DS 3.8.14
-- MC 9.22.16 at 8 wks
Seriously, you do you.
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No one has asked today thankfully, but my pregnancy paranoia is sure everyone knows. Lol