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September 2015 Moms
vibarra27
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I am LIVID
vibarra27
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Okay ladies, some of you might know & some might not know that my MIL is an ugly person.
Well long story short. My BIL has been in jail for a yr & a half now. MIL is trying to get my husband & my other BIL to give her money to send to her son. She is trying to obligate them to a certain amount & obligate them to give it to them on Saturday. She says they "HAVE" to because thats their brother.Well my BILs wife told her not to be asking people for money & we all give what we can when we can. She had the nerve to tell her that how is it that we have money to be making our kids a birthday party, but not have money to send HER son.!
I am pissed! I am not gonna sacrifice my kids party & what i need to pay for because she wants us to send money to her son whos in jail. I didnt put him there, its not my fault hes where hes @. If we have money & he needs something we will give him 20 or 40 here & there. But im not going to give u more than a 100$ for your son.
Am i being wrong for peing so fucken mad! Like who would tell her son not to spend money on her grandbabys party just so her other son whos in jail can have extra money.? Wtf! Wheres her head @.? My kids are not gonna go without so my BIL can have money in there. Im sorry, the way she hurts for her son & wants for her son i want for my kids. I just dont understand how someone can be like that!
Well long story short. My BIL has been in jail for a yr & a half now. MIL is trying to get my husband & my other BIL to give her money to send to her son. She is trying to obligate them to a certain amount & obligate them to give it to them on Saturday. She says they "HAVE" to because thats their brother.Well my BILs wife told her not to be asking people for money & we all give what we can when we can. She had the nerve to tell her that how is it that we have money to be making our kids a birthday party, but not have money to send HER son.!
I am pissed! I am not gonna sacrifice my kids party & what i need to pay for because she wants us to send money to her son whos in jail. I didnt put him there, its not my fault hes where hes @. If we have money & he needs something we will give him 20 or 40 here & there. But im not going to give u more than a 100$ for your son.
Am i being wrong for peing so fucken mad! Like who would tell her son not to spend money on her grandbabys party just so her other son whos in jail can have extra money.? Wtf! Wheres her head @.? My kids are not gonna go without so my BIL can have money in there. Im sorry, the way she hurts for her son & wants for her son i want for my kids. I just dont understand how someone can be like that!
Re: I am LIVID
There is nothing wrong with you saying no to giving money to your BIL. I think your husband and his other brother need to talk to your mom about boundaries and how she has no say in how they spend their money and that guilt trips are not tolerated. Obviously if her 3rd son is in jail he needs to learn to go without since it's punishment.
@mrsmctaggart6 exactly! Like i said my kids are bot gonna go without for no one! My kids deserve anything & everything. Apparently he needs/wants a stove to make himself food when hes transferred to the state prison. The stove is like 500$. The thing is she told him "i got you son, me & you grama are gonna get it for u we have the money once you need it tell your wife & ill send it to u." bitch hasnt worked in a year so now that he asked her for the money shes trying make his wife, my hubby & BIL pay for it. No no no! U said you had it taken care of then take care of itm she barely started a new job yesterday. If it urges her that bad she can send him her checks cus im not doing it.not to mention his wife is a single parent right now and no one but my husband and i help her when we can with my nephew. She doesnt ask her what her grandson needs. Or how he is. Shes self-centered. & thanks for being mad for me! Means alot!
@gollygeeitsamy if only she knew english id personally buy it for her lol. & she does guilt trip them saying that they dont love him nor care for him. & thats exactly what his own wife, MY mom & i say. Hes in jail being punished for a crime why is she trying to make things easy for him? i get it thats her son but he committed a crime, hes living & eating for free & then hes still gonna get free money from his family who works for a living. No hes never gonnablearn his lesson because mommy keeos nailing him oitbof everything. Thats why hes wheres hes @ because she would always bail him out of his troubles. Now its too late & now shes trying to make uo not being able to bail him out by sending him money.
@AiramJ right? Crazy lady! Ive been dealing with her shit for 10 years! & she BARELY got a job yesterday after not working for a year. She better save up & send him moneymy husband always says "i work for you & our kids so you can be home with them raising them the way we like & so you guys can have everything & anything." so tell me why shes upset because he works to provide for our children.? Damn right we have money to spend on our kids & to go on vacation because MY husband works his as off for us to be able to. Because my husband doesnt settle just for anything, & shes not gonna make us feel bad for being able to. my BIL couldve & shouldve been like thatvfor his wife &bmy nephew but he decided to take the other route & its not anyonrles fault but his.
Funny thing is ladies, that my BIL isnt even the one asking us for money..
My DH has a drug addicted sister who has been in lots of trouble and constantly needs money. His parents have given her tens of thousands of dollars, and my DH has also given money, but he knows it is not our responsibility. She has been cut off for a while unless she agrees to go to a real drug treatment program and fix her life. She has not made this step though, and may never. It's a horrible weight to have in your life, but sometimes tough love is the best teacher. His parents would never ask us to give her money, honesty we all hope she ends up in jail because she would have to get clean. I hope your BIL learns from his experience, stove or no stove...
See i firmly believe in tough love. You had it easy you decided to keep fucking up deal with the consequences & he is. But his mom doesnt want him to. My BIL isnt asking for money but his mom is asking because she doesnt want her son to be without.
& about your SIL thats so crazy! My other BIL & his wife & i say its better hes in there than out here doing stupid shit