Weekly Pregnancy Chatter 8/15

TheJerilu · August 2016

This is the weekly chatter thread to... you know... talk about pregnancy and stuff. Wondering what everybody's opinion on doctors vs midwifes vs doulas? Find a good cure for something that's been ailing you? Just had one of those "holy smokes I'm GROWING a HUMAN like it's a potted plant or something, but INSIDE MY BODY" moments? Have a rando ask when the baby is due and you're like, "Wait, I'm not even showing yet, not sure if I should be polite or rude at this point"? Whatever comments or stories or questions or etcetera you got that don't quite fit into the other organizational threads, this is probably the spot.

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MrsBakes · August 2016

I think we will be announcing this weekend. I'm legitimately showing already! So we are taking DD to my nurses appointment on Wednesday (we have no sitter) and we will be telling her at that time. (I'm still hoping for a doppler or something to "show" my DD) Then we will let our parents know. This weekend we are also probably visiting some family out of state so it would be a perfect opportunity to tell them. Then next week I tell at work. I just want to get it out there so I don't have to be so sneaky, even though I'm pretty sure a few people have noticed at work. We are 95% women in the office so it's hard to hide it from them.

ivy_leaf85 · August 2016

Have a rando ask when the baby is due and you're like, "Wait, I'm not even showing yet, not sure if I should be polite or rude at this point"?

So - Funny story -

On the exact day my period was due to start, before I had any inkling the this would be the month, three days before taking a test, I bought vegetables from a vendor at a flea market. While chatting with the vendor he commented. "These are very good vegetables; and good for the baby". As he had a bit of an accent, I first thought the politest & least awkward thing I could do at that point was to pretend I didn't understand the second part & simply agreed that the vegetables all looked delicious.

Nope. He repeated with unmistakable clarity, and a gesture toward my belly. "And good for baby, right?"

"Oh, no" I said, "There's no baby; it's just too much grabbing cookies rather than vegetables, I suppose."

If I ever see him there again, I'll have to tell him that it turns out he was actually on to something. And probably get some more vegetables...for baby!

Magheeta · August 2016

We ended up telling our families this weekend. I feel really relieved for some reason. Everyone took the news well, and now I don't have to make up excuses as to why I'm grumpy.

I wasn't thinking today and wore a form-fitting shirt. I feel like I'm really obvious because I'm short, so my belly looks big from the bloat. Everyone who says you show earlier with your second is right. They are so right.

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ChaoticWolf · August 2016

*Lurking from J17 to keep up with all my TTGP peeps*

@MrsBakes I wasn't going to say anything, but... Are you really under the impression that your 7 week old embryo (that's the size of a blueberry) is really making you "legitimately" show? I know second time around means you show earlier, but when they say that they mean in the early 2nd tri/week 14ish. Your uterus won't even start rising out of your pelvic cavity until sometime between week 11 and 13.

So...

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MrsBakes · August 2016

PaukMeKiande said:

*Lurking from J17 to keep up with all my TTGP peeps*

@MrsBakes I wasn't going to say anything, but... Are you really under the impression that your 7 week old embryo (that's the size of a blueberry) is really making you "legitimately" show? I know second time around means you show earlier, but when they say that they mean in the early 2nd tri/week 14ish. Your uterus won't even start rising out of your pelvic cavity until sometime between week 11 and 13.

So...

I assumed I would get "the look" lol But I was actually showing at 7 weeks even with my first. I know it's hard to believe based on some very logical explanations, but if I posted a pic here, you'd see it. I've always had a very flat stomach. Now, there is a pointy, very obvious bump in my lower abdomen, so not just the bloat (which shows up at the end of the day and then I look nice and round. I'm not BSing I'm serious.

At 14 weeks, I looked as big as my friend, who was 25 weeks. So it just all depends.

But I totally get the questioning look.

OK I was able to attach this pic. This is me at 6w3d. if I'm crazy, please do tell me, but I think I'm showing LOL

ChaoticWolf · August 2016

MrsBakes said:

PaukMeKiande said:

*Lurking from J17 to keep up with all my TTGP peeps*

@MrsBakes I wasn't going to say anything, but... Are you really under the impression that your 7 week old embryo (that's the size of a blueberry) is really making you "legitimately" show? I know second time around means you show earlier, but when they say that they mean in the early 2nd tri/week 14ish. Your uterus won't even start rising out of your pelvic cavity until sometime between week 11 and 13.

So...

I assumed I would get "the look" lol But I was actually showing at 7 weeks even with my first. I know it's hard to believe based on some very logical explanations, but if I posted a pic here, you'd see it. I've always had a very flat stomach. Now, there is a pointy, very obvious bump in my lower abdomen, so not just the bloat (which shows up at the end of the day and then I look nice and round. I'm not BSing I'm serious.
At 14 weeks, I looked as big as my friend, who was 25 weeks. So it just all depends.
But I totally get the questioning look.

Nope, sorry, I'm pretty sure that's still bloat/blump/water weight/organs/whatever you want to call it. Unless you can find and palpate your uterus (which you can't do before it rises out of the pelvic cavity) then it's not the baby yet. Usually your midwife or OB will do that for you at your first appointment and tell you where the top of your uterus is, if they can find it.

Edited to add after photo, yep that's still the bloat/blump because it's in the wrong spot for your uterus. Until at least 10 weeks minimum your uterus is still hiding behind the pelvic bone (I was told approximately the top of where your pubic hair starts).

canavara · August 2016

*lurking*

@MrsBakes Yeah, that's bloat. I looked that same way at 7-9 weeks. I'm naturally skinny. The "bump" was pointy. I thought it looked like a bump too. It wasn't and only in hindsight could I be sure of that. This is my second pregnancy as well.

MrsBakes · August 2016

canavara said:

*lurking*

@MrsBakes Yeah, that's bloat. I looked that same way at 7-9 weeks. I'm naturally skinny. The "bump" was pointy. I thought it looked like a bump too. It wasn't and only in hindsight could I be sure of that. This is my second pregnancy as well.

Thanks! well call it what you want, or whatever it is that's showing, my stomach is noticably bigger than usual so even my 4.5 YO said I look like I have a baby in my belly. LOL

So... since something is obviously bulging, and I'm getting the looks we will be announcing. LOL

mylittleirvz · August 2016

Trying to post but stupid thing won't post the whole thing!

cookies754 · August 2016

I need some good excuses for not jet skiing or going on a boat on Friday! Our staff always has a huge party at the lake and I haven't thought of a decent excuse as to why I'm not drinking or boating!

TheJerilu · August 2016

@cookies754
Ear infection; taking antibiotics. BOOM.

cookies754 · August 2016

Are you not supposed to go on a boat with an ear infection? @TheJerilu

TheJerilu · August 2016

@cookies754 If you have an inner ear infection, the doc is usually like, "Can you please just avoid all water?" There's a risk of getting blasted with the spray from the boat which might have some yuck in it, and there's also the risk of somebody tossing you in. Too much water pressure with an inner ear infection can cause a blowout and deafness.

Any reason in particular you're avoiding the boat? Is it a smaller speedboat and they drive with the intent to shake up the passengers on the wakes? If it's a larger boat or just ferrying you should be fine.

cookies754 · August 2016

@TheJerilu that's the perfect excuse then!

Yes, unfortunately it's a smaller boat and the last year I was on it, he went pretty quickly and was hitting all of the wakes. It was very bumpy and I was definitely jostled around, which was obviously fine then, but I read it's not a good idea while pregnant. I may be overly cautious, but oh well. Thanks for the help!

TheJerilu · August 2016

@cookies754
Ah, yeah, smaller and more jostley ones are a bit more questionable (although this early it isn't as bad, some docs will even give the OK to ride roller coasters in the first trimester).

mrsstuessy · August 2016

@MrsBakes I am in agreement with you. I totally get that at 7 weeks your uterus isn't protruding out and you can't feel it. But if. There is an obvious bulge in your belly because you are pregnant than I don't really know why that shouldn't be considered showing. If you were not pregnant there would be no bump. You are pregnant and so there is a bump. People get very concerned about your word choice for some reason. It has always been like that. Blump, bump, bloat. Whatever. Why does the word matter so much.

gardenmama17 · August 2016

@TheJerilu genius! Way better than my thought of saying you're just hungover @cookies754!

Taylor72 · August 2016

I know there is some hubbub going on in the "I have a question about the board" and I am in agreement with the current organization, it makes it easier in my opinion...but I was wondering if we could start a separate board for FTM to learn from STM.....I saw on the December 16(I think) board that they do something similar. The advice and info the moms have shared about pregnancy and labor/delivery was really great. Just a thought for those of us FTMs that are in total freak out mode because I HAVE NO IDEA WHAT I'M DOING!

Neikoda · August 2016

Taylor72 That's a great idea. I've seen and participated on BTDT(Been There Done That) Mom's Q&A for STM+ to FTM so FTM can ask any questions they may have.

clover28 · August 2016

@Taylor72 I think that's a great idea!

Taylor72 · August 2016

@neikoda and @clover28 the one on D16 is absolutely hilarious and definitely helpful. I hope we get one started here!

clover28 · August 2016

@Taylor72 I'll start one! Stay tuned...

TheJerilu · August 2016

6 weeks means we filled out the first page of our baby book tonight! I totally made fun of Seamonkey for currently having a tail.

housewifehobbyist · August 2016

BTDT is awesome and needs to be a weekly thing. I could learn so much from you STM moms.

Speaking of which, how do you keep from going crazy with all the "XXX during pregancy will help/hurt your baby!" news stories that I am now constantly noticing. See below for example-

https://www.cnn.com/2016/08/15/health/acetaminophen-pregnancy-kids-adhd

schef070911 · August 2016

@TheJerilu What baby book do you have? I've been meaning to get one! I have a memory book from our wedding that I love and want to do something similar.

TheJerilu · August 2016

@schef070911
We have "From Pea to Pumpkin", a book my sister got us when she found out we were going to start trying

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