MIL texts me and says "4 more weeks! I better be ready to go at a moment's notice! Packing a bag too" Cue my freak out - why does she need a bag? The current plan is if my hubby is at work, she will drive me into town because we are about an hour from the hospital. I guess I assumed she would go home and come back later to meet the baby? So I text H and said this was stressing me out because I'm confused about the current plan. He said "she was going to come with us in case I pass out" (he's pretty convinced that he wont be able to handle seeing me in labour. I think as long as he's sitting down and stays well hydrated he'll be fine ) I said "Oh, I guess I forgot that was the plan. Well if you do pass out, I'd rather just the nurses. I dont want other people there" so he is going to talk to her. Good H. But then she tells me she had a dream that the baby was born and she forgot to write the time down which was very upsetting for her. So she needs to pack a pen and paper. I said "well they will tell us all that info" and she says "sometimes they don't write the time down right away so its not exact. Being an astrologist, I need to know the exact time". So now I'm thinking that she thought she was going to be in the room? Frig. Glad we are talking about this now at 36 weeks.
Edited because now I do remember that all being part of the plan and I feel bad for bitching about her since thats just what she thought the plan was and she didn't know I'd changed my mind
BIL is a TW. My mom is planning our baby shower, and asked that everyone RSVP by yesterday (the party is on Sunday). The only person who hadn't was BIL who lives about an hour away. So DH called him last night, and had to sit there listening to him complain about his new job and how they're holding back a week of his pay for some reason or another, and then he beat around the bush for 10 minutes about why he might not be able to make it (mainly money, understandable). DH was finally like "Look dude, are you coming or aren't you", and BIL is like "Well I can if you can send me some gas money, otherwise niece and I won't be able to come and she's really looking forward to it...and everyone else is going so obviously we want to go" So he basically tried to guilt trip us into paying $50 in gas money to get him up here. No dude, it's a party, you were invited, you're not being forced to come, so either come or don't, if you can't afford to, that's too bad. Which is basically what DH said, and also called out BIL for being a selfish dick and putting his FOMO above the fact that we're expecting a baby in the next month.
I am in L&D for my twice weekly NST and this is the third time I've been in for an NST and someone set the baby snatching alarm off! So whoever got too close to the door with a baby is a TW today. I'm gonna be late for my prenatal appointment
DH sent a text to his fam (MIL, SIL, BIL) and told them that it would be nice (did not demand) if they all got the TDAP shot if they are going to be around the baby a lot. Well apparently MIL went off about how she would never ask someone to do that and basically that he was rude. So obviously she does not plan to get it. I don't mind too much since I don't really plan to see her all that often but I worry that her all organic/vegan free spirit lifestyle will probably cause some parenting issues in the future.
Me: 32 DH: 31
TTC #2 since January 2018
Baby #1 DD Born 8/25/2016 BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
My parents' Doctor is saying that she won't give them a tdap shot because they got one in 2010 and it's good for 10 years and is refusing to hear anything else about it. My parents will be the main care givers for this baby and my mom works with old people and my dad works with kids. I'm sorry those are the two biggest disease carrying populations. What does she care if they get a booster shot?
tw #2. My internet is being a dick and keeps stalling which is making my Olympics watching and bumping difficult
@kosmo86 I would tell her that I don't mind if she doesn't get the shot, but I find it rude she assumes I'm going to let her hold my baby without being vaccinated. Just because I can.
@marikkita12, have them call their insurance and see if they can get this at a pharmacy, or the local health department. that's extremely odd that their doctor is being such an asshole about it. most doctors encourage vaccination/boosters for this sort of thing.
@racklerooo They have kaiser so she spoke to another doctor or nurse who just gave them the shot with no issues. Apparently this doctor is kind of a bitch
@marikkita12 Im so glad they could get it from another doc, the original sounds like she's not up to date on recommendations. When my dad came over from overseas to see DS his doctor was giving him issues too, saying he only needed it once in his lifetime. So annoying! We had to have my OB fax his doc a recommendation and he ended up paying for a shot (unusual since they have free healthcare) but I was freaking out because he would be spending a week with us.
Me. I am the twat waffle. My patience and my temper are both on a short fuse lately and the littlest things set me off anymore. I can't handle more than an ounce of stress. I can't clean, I can't cook. I try to focus on one task at a time so that I don't end up taking out my frustration on the people around me. Work is hard because I deal with people all day, and I've caught myself snapping at customers more than once now when I really shouldn't have.
My coworkers did something incredibly sweet and amazing for me. The company as a whole has decided to stop doing going away/baby shower/etc parties because I guess the last few people they threw them for were super ungrateful. I was kind of happy about this, because I REALLY hate having a lot of attention on me, but I was a little bummed because I love all of my coworkers and would have liked to see all of them in one place one last time before I go. But instead, they got me a little gift basket with baby stuff and a super sweet card. This may seem unrelated, but it made me feel like a huge twat because a few days before they gave it to me I had been complaining about gifts and people getting us stuff we don't need because nobody asks us. Whoops. (I loved all the gifts, I'm just a giant bitch right now.)
And then last night, same vein. My husband was asking what kind of baby soap I want because I'm allergic to everything. I said I didn't know yet and would pick when we go shopping this weekend. He says no, he wants a brand name because someone wants to buy us a gift. I basically had a huge fit about it for no reason, and then I cried because I was mean to my husband, and I don't know why I can't just accept the things that people do for me/us and be grateful. I am the worst. I'm thinking about sending out apology/thank you for putting up with me cards after the birth. Lol.
Re: TW Tuesday
Cue my freak out - why does she need a bag? The current plan is if my hubby is at work, she will drive me into town because we are about an hour from the hospital. I guess I assumed she would go home and come back later to meet the baby? So I text H and said this was stressing me out because I'm confused about the current plan. He said "she was going to come with us in case I pass out" (he's pretty convinced that he wont be able to handle seeing me in labour. I think as long as he's sitting down and stays well hydrated he'll be fine
But then she tells me she had a dream that the baby was born and she forgot to write the time down which was very upsetting for her. So she needs to pack a pen and paper. I said "well they will tell us all that info" and she says "sometimes they don't write the time down right away so its not exact. Being an astrologist, I need to know the exact time". So now I'm thinking that she thought she was going to be in the room? Frig. Glad we are talking about this now at 36 weeks.
Edited because now I do remember that all being part of the plan and I feel bad for bitching about her since thats just what she thought the plan was and she didn't know I'd changed my mind
BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
tw #2. My internet is being a dick and keeps stalling which is making my Olympics watching and bumping difficult
My coworkers did something incredibly sweet and amazing for me. The company as a whole has decided to stop doing going away/baby shower/etc parties because I guess the last few people they threw them for were super ungrateful. I was kind of happy about this, because I REALLY hate having a lot of attention on me, but I was a little bummed because I love all of my coworkers and would have liked to see all of them in one place one last time before I go. But instead, they got me a little gift basket with baby stuff and a super sweet card. This may seem unrelated, but it made me feel like a huge twat because a few days before they gave it to me I had been complaining about gifts and people getting us stuff we don't need because nobody asks us. Whoops. (I loved all the gifts, I'm just a giant bitch right now.)
And then last night, same vein. My husband was asking what kind of baby soap I want because I'm allergic to everything. I said I didn't know yet and would pick when we go shopping this weekend. He says no, he wants a brand name because someone wants to buy us a gift. I basically had a huge fit about it for no reason, and then I cried because I was mean to my husband, and I don't know why I can't just accept the things that people do for me/us and be grateful. I am the worst. I'm thinking about sending out apology/thank you for putting up with me cards after the birth. Lol.