10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery 11/2/17 Twin A & B born 11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU Benched 6 months BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
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DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery 11/2/17 Twin A & B born 11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU Benched 6 months BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery 11/2/17 Twin A & B born 11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU Benched 6 months BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
So we just moved across seas and I know this is hard on my parents. HOWEVER, they kept insisting on watching the birth of the baby via skype. I kept telling them no and they kept bringing it up over and over telling me that they will be quiet. I can put them on mute. Just put us in a corner. Etc... I really wanted this moment to be between my husband and I. I don't want to have to worry about setting up skype while in labor. I also think it is kind of creepy them just watching. Finally after them asking AGAIN and me saying no AGAIN, I got my sister involved and she finally got through to them but they were really hurt. My sister also told me that she told my parents she didn't want them in the room when she was pushing during her labor and my mom sneaked in the room anyway. My sister told her to get out. My mom said she will just sit in the corner and be quiet. My sister told her to get out again and my mom almost cried. Then they left the room but stood as close as they could on the other side of the door during delivery. Then we discussed when they could come visit after the baby was born. My husband gets 2 weeks off from work and that is it. He has a demanding job so I was hoping for the two weeks just us three. I told them to come about 3 weeks after my due date. Apparently plane tickets were more expensive then and before I knew what I was agreeing to they booked the tickets for exactly 2 weeks after my due date. They are expensive so they can't be changed now. Every woman in my family has gone late and this is my first baby I know I will probably have to be induced late and now we are over lapping my intermediate family time and my parents time with the baby. I wanted time for us to bond before they got here. It doesn't help that everyone keeps saying that they can't wait for the baby to get here so I can hold her and do this and that with her. I feel panicy because I feel like I won't be able to see her between my husband and my parents all wanting to see her. I also feel like my parents are going to get in the way of my husband bonding with her because they flew from so far away and only have 3 weeks here. My mom also tries to be helpful but she gives advice I don't need or don't want to hear. I know she is excited and is just trying to be helpful but I feel like she thinks I am incompetent and I don't want to hear how wrong I am right after I give birth. My sister had a baby and my mom still 2 years later will bring up how dumb her husband was for how he gave her a bath one time and how uncatering he was to her and how he wouldn't let my mom do what she wanted when she came after the birth to help my sister. Then to top it all off my mom keeps saying that she hopes I go late because she wants to see her as soon as possible after she is born. This really frustrates me because I am already as huge as a bus, uncomfortable, and she knows I am doing everything possible to get the baby out well before they come because I don't want them here during mine and my husband's time. I know I am just super hormonal but I am getting so stressed out because they keep getting hurt so easily by everything I say and everytime I tell them no. I just know I will do something wrong or offend her in some way and my mom will talk bad about me to my siblings just like she does about my sister and her husband. Am I over reacting and just super hormonal? Any advice on how to cope?
Also if anyone has any home induction ideas let me know. I know the baby will come when she is ready but a little push wouldn't hurt
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery 11/2/17 Twin A & B born 11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU Benched 6 months BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
You are my hero for QFP! I always miss the good stuff. Also, what's with all the crazy mom/MIL's this group has to deal with?! I hope everyone makes it through the month without ending up on an episode of Snapped: Pregnancy Hormone Edition.
@texasmama2014 my heeeroo! I saw this and was praying someone remembered to QFP even though I haven't read the ridiculous novel yet stupid work getting in the way of my bumpin
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aaaaand I'm a tool and thought I was on my January BMB :foot in mouth: haha carry on...
I made it through but I started skimming toward the end. But I think that was our first dirty delete! These snowflakes seem to be coming more and more often now that we've reached our birth month.
@izzetoot are you in the FB group? We're much tamer now..
No, but i'll look it up on FB! We are very tame on Sept16 I go looking for snark these days, lol! But prob bc Im about to pop so im extra b*tchy and need some good 'ol noobs to poke fun at I live in TX too!
@izzetoot PM me if you want in, I have to get 2 people to vouch that they remember you, which I'm sure won't be a problem! We were super super tame until about a week or 2 ago when all the SS showed up.. September will blow up soon enough!
@texasmama2014 I just looked all over the old board to try and find a FB link, lol. But yes add me! @RedMar is also in Sept16 and was a J14er too, she may already be on the FB page?
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https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12686088/monday-bfest-8-8-16#latest
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
BFP #2 8/22/12 | EDD 5/5/13 | DS1 born 5/9/13
BFP #3 4/25/15 | EDD 1/7/16 | MMC 7/2/15 @ 13w1d | D&E 7/8/15
BFP #4 12/9/15 | EDD 8/22/16 | DS2 born 5/18/16 at 26w2d
Just keep swimming.
I agree with @bananers. Set your boundaries and stick to them. Learning to set limits is a valuable parenting skill.
BFP #1: 08/17/2012 DD1 born 05/01/2013
BFP #2: 07/31/2015 M/C 09/23/2015 (11.5 weeks)
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
Rouch.
BFP #2 8/22/12 | EDD 5/5/13 | DS1 born 5/9/13
BFP #3 4/25/15 | EDD 1/7/16 | MMC 7/2/15 @ 13w1d | D&E 7/8/15
BFP #4 12/9/15 | EDD 8/22/16 | DS2 born 5/18/16 at 26w2d
Just keep swimming.
(We had a lot of speshul snowflakes asking about induction methods and if pineapple actually worked... June 14 was pretty feisty.. )
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
Also, what's with all the crazy mom/MIL's this group has to deal with?! I hope everyone makes it through the month without ending up on an episode of Snapped: Pregnancy Hormone Edition.
Baby #2: Emmeline Grey - August 2016
Baby #3: BFP 9/7/18 | EDD 05/24/19
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aaaaand I'm a tool and thought I was on my January BMB :foot in mouth: haha carry on...
Seriously...edited to a period. At least it's nice and short to read.