I think it's only appropriate if the parents are finding out at the same time as everyone else. I appreciate the fact that it's not a separate party, but I still think it is kind of AWy to make such a big deal about how the baby will pee.
Major eye roll. You really think the only point in finding out the sex is to know how they will pee?That's awfully negative.
Do you really not have a problem with a party to reveal baby's sex where the parents already know? Honestly wondering.
I do think it's lame if the parents already know but that's not what Negative Nancy above is saying. I hate when people rip on others for being excited over the sex of their unborn baby or act like they are too cool to care (that's exactly how it comes across). Finding out the sex is pretty fun for lots of people, for many different reasons. It's cool if you don't care, but don't claim people just want attention because they get excited over it.
Boo to your name calling. @PocketFullofShells wasn't saying you should not be excited or that people who are excited are not cool. She was saying throwing a huge party for it is over the top for what it is. See the difference?
My sister in law and brother revealed the sex at their shower and I didn't for one second even consider that they were trying to manipulate people's gifts. I didn't hear anything negative about it from any family or friends either. Just the innocent "oh no i don't know what to buy" joking comments.
there was someone who said she is finding out the sex because family is pressuring her. I got this alot too with my first. We chose not to find out with our son and I loved the surprise when i gave birth. With this pregnancy I'm getting it a lot again. I've actually had to ask my husband to back me up on our decision (which we aren't even sure of yet!) because a few people are telling ME I HAVE to find out (not approaching my husband). We have a few reasons we don't want to find out, and a couple reasons we do want to find out.Ultimately it's your and your husbands decision to make. No one elses.
Right now I'm leaning toward having it be a surprise again. We have lots of family that REALLY want it to be a girl, but in all likelihood (based on husbands family) it's probably a boy and I really don't want to celebrate a sex reveal if i think that our family is going to show disappointment. Plus it really doesn't matter to us. We just feel blessed to have another child and only want him or her to be healthy
Everyone needs to stop judging other parents. I don't want my children thinking there are gender specific colors or toys. I loved blue and green when I was a kid. I cried when my mom put me in dresses or pink. Now I love heels and I've been buying a lot of blush pink dresses. There is no reason you have to reveal or not reveal gender before a shower. I have 12 nieces and nephews (6 of each) and hopefully will have no need for anyone to get us anything gender specific anyway. But I probably wouldn't find out the gender until later in the pregnancy anyway since my man is pushing hard for boys and I would be crushed if he reacted negatively, just like the way I'd feel if people were reading into the timing of my gender reveal. My body, my baby, my decisions.
It's funny how it's the little things in life that mean the most...not where you live, or what you drive, or the price tag on your clothes... There's no dollar sign on a piece of mind, this I've come to know! *ZBB*
I don't understand all the negativity here. DH and I know the sex of our baby but we are keeping it a secret until they are born. Is it manipulative? No. Will we necessarily get less gender specific crap? Yep. But we are doing it because it is something special that we can both share together and we want to keep it to ourselves. I agree with @NYTino24 stop judging other parents!
Me: 38, DH: 36 Married Jan 2008 DD Baby Bells born Dec 2016 5 lbs, 12 oz, 18" so in love Due with #2 Baby Arya EDD February 2020
So since this has pretty much stayed on the front page of this board and since people keep resurrecting it anyways I figured I'd update on my story from a few months ago.
So my friend did end up announcing the sex of her baby at her shower after she got her gifts. Half the people at the shower already knew because she had told her parents and her H's parents... who inevitably slipped up and told people. My friend herself had slipped up many, many times (accidentally saying the pronoun, therefore giving away the sex) so me and all of my friends already knew. My friend knew the cat was halfway out of the bag and most of the people were just pretending they didn't know at this point. It was definitely not the sort of reveal she had in mind and I think that happened because of how forced the whole thing was. It just ended up being a hallow thud of an announcement.
It's not something I would encourage others to do.
Re: Gender Reveal AT the baby shower?
there was someone who said she is finding out the sex because family is pressuring her. I got this alot too with my first. We chose not to find out with our son and I loved the surprise when i gave birth. With this pregnancy I'm getting it a lot again. I've actually had to ask my husband to back me up on our decision (which we aren't even sure of yet!) because a few people are telling ME I HAVE to find out (not approaching my husband). We have a few reasons we don't want to find out, and a couple reasons we do want to find out.Ultimately it's your and your husbands decision to make. No one elses.
Right now I'm leaning toward having it be a surprise again. We have lots of family that REALLY want it to be a girl, but in all likelihood (based on husbands family) it's probably a boy and I really don't want to celebrate a sex reveal if i think that our family is going to show disappointment. Plus it really doesn't matter to us. We just feel blessed to have another child and only want him or her to be healthy
TTC 9/2016 BFP 12/9/16 EDD 8/21/17 NMC 1/8/16 at 7w6d
TTC 2/2017 BFP 3/6/17 EDD 11/17/17 DS born 11/25/17 via ECS
TTC 12/2018 BFP 6/2/19 EDD 2/12/20 NMC / BO at 7 weeks, low progesterone
TTC 7/2019 BFP 8/21/19 EDD 4/22/20 CP at 5 weeks
TTC 8/19 IUI #1 w/ Clomid + Ovidrel + progesterone BFN, IUI 2 and 3 w/ Letrozole + Ovidrel + progesterone,
IUI 4 Follistim + Ovidrel + progesterone BFP 1/9/20 EDD 9/18/20
AMA, ITP in pregnancy, vWD type II - low Factor VIII, unexplained RPL and secondary infertility
Married Jan 2008
DD Baby Bells born Dec 2016 5 lbs, 12 oz, 18"
Due with #2 Baby Arya EDD February 2020
I think nows a good time to remind people that someone disagreeing, or having a different opinion is not inherently negative or judging you.
And stop raising the dead! Necromancy is bad!
Met: 08/2001 ~ Dating: 07/2004 ~ Engaged: 11/2009 ~ Married: 06/2011
TTC: Since 09/16 ~ BFP 10/28/16 ~ EDD 7/5/17
Team Pink * Canadian Bumpie
So my friend did end up announcing the sex of her baby at her shower after she got her gifts. Half the people at the shower already knew because she had told her parents and her H's parents... who inevitably slipped up and told people. My friend herself had slipped up many, many times (accidentally saying the pronoun, therefore giving away the sex) so me and all of my friends already knew. My friend knew the cat was halfway out of the bag and most of the people were just pretending they didn't know at this point. It was definitely not the sort of reveal she had in mind and I think that happened because of how forced the whole thing was. It just ended up being a hallow thud of an announcement.
It's not something I would encourage others to do.