February 2016 Moms
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Things I never thought I'd ever..
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Okay so we're all coming up on that 1/2 year mark, if not already, and I thought it'd be fun/interesting to see the things we swore we wouldn't do before that little bundle of joy came. Also please let this be a judge-free zone, I need to vent and I'm sure you do too.
I thought I'd never:
Let my girl cry it out… but man, she really loves to fight sleep, and will not nap without.. so yeah, I let her cry for like 3-5 mins at a time and after a few check ups she finally succumbs to sleep. This is a big one for me because I always feel guilty doing it but for me, it is the only way.
Rely on my MIL. She's kinda weird, as is my FIL and their whole house of weirdos (rents room to other people) but since they live close by, they have been so helpful for always wanting to watch her whenever.
Be 'that mom' on Facebook/Instagram.. crap, I realized I post photos of her almost every day. But it's so hard not to when they're so cute!
Now your turn
let's all get it of our chest together!
I thought I'd never:
Let my girl cry it out… but man, she really loves to fight sleep, and will not nap without.. so yeah, I let her cry for like 3-5 mins at a time and after a few check ups she finally succumbs to sleep. This is a big one for me because I always feel guilty doing it but for me, it is the only way.
Rely on my MIL. She's kinda weird, as is my FIL and their whole house of weirdos (rents room to other people) but since they live close by, they have been so helpful for always wanting to watch her whenever.
Be 'that mom' on Facebook/Instagram.. crap, I realized I post photos of her almost every day. But it's so hard not to when they're so cute!
Now your turn
let's all get it of our chest together! Married: 8/25/12
Started TTC: 1/1/14
BFP: 6/1/15
Baby Girl Athena Born: 2/7/16
Re: Things I never thought I'd ever..
let my LO sleep in our bed. It's the only way for me and him to get sleep and I LOVE the cuddles.
I also never thought I'd ever let him nurse to sleep as much as I do, but it's a part of his bedtime routine and honesty I love the cuddles and bonding.
Never thought I'd ever lose my libedo, but alas that too has happened after much discomfort/pain.
- Adapt as well to lack of sleep as I have. Functioning on 2-3 hours of sleep is rough, but mostly when it's first time to wake up and pull yourself out of bed. I've been pleasantly surprised by how OK the rest of the day is.
- Let my baby cry. I'd pretty much decided based on what I'd read that it's borderline abusive to let your baby cry it out. My opinion on that has changed drastically. Now I think it depends on the baby. My little guy used to scream out of anger/frustration when it was time to sleep, because he wanted to be asleep already and thought it was ridiculous he wasn't asleep yet. As a tiny little thing, I was able to nurse him to sleep, but as he got older (2 months +) that just wasn't working anymore. He totally needed to figure it out for himself, and that meant letting him cry it out. Once I stepped back and gave him the chance to cry, he solved the issue himself and sleeps great now. Also, the more I think about it, the more I also believe babies have negative emotions just like the rest of us. By not "letting" them cry, are we telling them it's not OK to be sad or upset? I don't know. But I do want him to be "allowed" to experience the negative emotions, and to teach himself to bounce back. Never thought I'd have this opinion!
I never thought I would enjoy breastfeeding! The first 8 weeks or so were so so hard! I was in pain and counting down til 6 months when I could cut down! But now it is so easy and love the bond and cuddles. I'm really gonna miss it once she starts dropping feeds!
I never thought I would use a dummy. I was always so disapproving of them (naive FTM!) But they are a life saver!
It doesn't have to be that way! Go see a Pelvic floor physio! I was having excruciating pain with sex and they helped me get it all sorted out
sorry I know it's kind of unrelated but I just wanted to offer some help
I had a rough 8 weeks of really painful breastfeeding and just as it started to get easy, she sprouted 2 teeth and now their pained again ugh!
Also, I never thought I'd lose my libido either being that I've ALWAYS had the dramatically higher drive. But now, who wants to have sex when you could be eating or sleeping during that free time? I'll pass.
@middy411 I actually told my fiance that if he wants it, he's going to need to let me know before I crawl into bed because I haven't slept a full night in a year so given the choice between sleep and sex...sleep wins.
On another note I didn't think I'd need so much help from my other 2kids just to make meals for everyone! !!my lil man seems to go into cranky mode every night as soon as I start making dinner,I tried moving dinner time around, keeping him entertained w toys,letting the other two play w him,nothing works he just wants me!!!
Oh my gosh how the hospital changed my sense of privacy! I went from trying to stay all clean and covered up when I arrived to just not caring . . . if someone dared to be in the room they were going to see what they see!
And I totally had the higher drive for all of the past eight years my husband and I have been together, I feel really bad for him. In fact, LO just woke up from a peaceful nap just in time to stop mommy and daddy time only hours ago!
Ever since getting pregnant I knew I'd breastfeed in public, but with a cover.
I never thought I'd ever use daycare. We really wanted to have ourselves, family, and friends be his sole caregivers, but almost all our plans fell through in that department. MIL watches him Tuesday and DH watches him Friday, but the other three weekdays he's in daycare
I swore we'd room share until she was 6 months and we lasted until 4.5--no one was sleeping longer than 3 hours and while I cried for the first couple of nights because I missed her next to me, but she was fine. I also didn't think I'd freak out about her flipping to sleep on her tummy, but I do. And I go in and flip her over. Last night she growled and swatted at me!