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Yours, Mine, Ours

kittykatiekittykatie member
edited July 2016 in Blended Families
My hubby and I have 3 kids combined with one on the way. So far we each have one child and we have one together. I get along good with step-daughter and he is all my 3 year old has ever known. Step daughter does good with our son together, but she has some jealousy issues with my daughter, and I'm a little concerned about if this baby is a girl.  Hubby and I have had issues recently and I am even more worried how she would treat our baby if we were to seperate.  Has anyone had a blended family that seperated? how did it work out? 
Me&DH married 04-04-14 
A- Stepdaughter - 3-30-2008 
K-Mine 02-04-2013 
S- Ours 12-21-2015 
New babies Feb 4 

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Re: Yours, Mine, Ours

  • sgoodselsgoodsel member
    edited July 2016
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  • kittykatiekittykatie member
    Thank you so much for your response :)  
    My husband and I's issues stem from his ex wife alot. They recently(6 months ago, I found out about it a few weeks later) had an affair which has deeply hurt me. I am trying my best to let them work it out and not be crazy about it for my step daughter or our babies together.   
    Step daughter has been stealing things from my daughter, and destroying her toys and things. I think it is jealousy and I do the best I can to ease her fears about my 3yo and I try and facilitate their bonding, and give step her space when she asks for it, but Step's mom does not care, and my husband just gets angry and punishes her instead of trying to help the situation.  Step does not destroy our son's items, or things that all three children use. Only things that are my daughter's.  Now that I will have my hands full, I am very concerned about step's feelings towards this and how she may feel ignored. I try and spend one on one time with her once a month, but maybe that is not enough? We get her every weekend. 
    Thank you for the link, I will check that out :) 
    Me&DH married 04-04-14 
    A- Stepdaughter - 3-30-2008 
    K-Mine 02-04-2013 
    S- Ours 12-21-2015 
    New babies Feb 4 

    Lilypie Pregnancy tickers
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  • mrsncmrsnc member
    You're an amazing woman! I can't imagine being under that kind of stress! I have an almost 10 SD and a 5 month DD. The age gap, and SD's maternal nature, gives them a wonderful relationship. But we are going through a messy custody battle with SDs mom. She got divorced from her second husband whom SD had a great relationship with. SD has expressed conflicted feelings about her ex step father and is starting therapy to help her cope with her crazy life. How is your personal relationship with your SD? She may be pushing your DD (and you) away because she harbors some hope that her bio parents will get back together? 7 year olds are super intelligent. She has probably caught on that if you and your husband separate (which it sounds like a possibility) she will still see her half siblings. Sorry I don't have any solid advice, just maybe some food for thought. Good luck. 
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  • ElspethplaidElspethplaid member
    edited August 2016
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