STM+ - When are you telling your kids?

chrlyr · July 2016

When do you plan to (or when did you) tell your children that you're pregnant? I have a 4 1/2 year old and I'm afraid of telling him too early because it would be hard to explain if something were to happen. I'm thinking of maybe waiting until 2nd tri, but I don't know.

nursemama-2 · July 2016

I have a 3 year old who knows and is beyond excited. I didn't mean to tell her so soon, but I did and it's been fine. My son is 16 months and has no clue.

maebee87 · July 2016

My son is only 20 months so he doesn't get it yet. With older kids I would wait to tell them until second trimester. Something else to consider is, will they let it slip to anyone else? I know my 7 year old nephew is a chatter box, so if you are keeping it a secret from others make sure you let them know that lol

hippiemama-2 · July 2016

She says that the baby is in my "belly" by she has no idea what this really means for us ... Or her.

Robi1 · July 2016

We will tell our kids just before we tell the rest of our family, whenever that is. We're still undecided, but sometime close to 2nd trimester. I know my 3yo can't keep a secret so I'll hold off on telling her. I've told the 15mo but she obviously isn't telling anyone.

librarymom917 · July 2016

I'm not sure. I'm gonna announce it online after I hear the heartbeat , after the rest of the family knows. The older two go home to their moms August 18th, so they'll have to know by then, however the both have facebook and I don't want them finding out that way. DH won't be home for the ultrasound... we may tell them before he leaves for work because I want to tell them together , ugh I just don't know.

Scarlett830 · July 2016

We told our LO, but he's not even a year old yet, so of course he doesn't understand.

kaylaef · July 2016

Charles knows. But he's 9 months soo
Haha

Bluebird2318 · July 2016

I'm waiting until the first ultrasound, so another three weeks at least. I'm excited to tell my daughter; she's finally at an age that she would understand.

jmacd22 · July 2016

*TW*
My daughter is 8. I'm pretty sure she has already figured it out. I told her and my hubby at the same time with last child but that ended in a very late 38 wk loss so then we had to explain death. Going to wait until 12 wks but she's probably just going to ask me if I am pregnant earlier than that.

wintersong · July 2016

My son is very young, but if he were older is wait until I was getting bigger. Eight months is so long for them to wait!

MrsNap_515 · July 2016

she's very perceptive, and this morning in front of her preschool class, rubbed my belly and asked if I had a baby in it, so I just whispered to her not yet, we're trying...if I tell her now, the whole world will know, so I'm trying to wait until we have a few more u/s under our belt to feel comfortable going public, probably once RE gives me the thumbs up to schedule an appt with my ob

milanjayla · July 2016

My daughter is 11 and has been begging for a sibling for years. I don't think we will tell her before 12 weeks unless she picks up on it sooner which there is a high possibility it could happen.

chrlyr · July 2016

Confession: when I asked this question, I guess I didn't really think it through. Hello, not everyone waits like 50 years between kids. There are going to be some kids who are too young.

My son will blab to everyone he knows -- probably even strangers he sees on the street. So, in addition to the worries about having to explain a loss, there's that.

DarkSerendipity · July 2016

I have a 9 year old and a 3 year old, I'm not sure when I want to tell them. I know my son, he'll blab, and I'm not quite sure how the mini minion will react. But I may wait until I have some definitive proof to show them - like an u/s picture.

Mack2342 · July 2016

kaylaef said:

Charles knows. But he's 9 months soo
Haha

Same my 10 month old delivered the message to my family since they live in another state. He wore a big brother tshirt on FaceTime. It was cute. Haven't told anyone but family yet.

Luckycharm1068 · July 2016

I told our almost 2 year old but not the older two! Ha, she can't really rat me out and doesn't get it. Although the other night she was pointing to my belly and kept saying "baby!" Luckily our other kids didn't hear her! I won't tell the older ones until 12 weeks.

Shazzie116 · July 2016

It'll depend on if we take her to my appointments or not. She's almost 4 and incredibly smart and inquisitive. I am hoping to hold off until her birthday in September and maybe tell her as a present. Once we tell her, she'll tell the world.

And I'm waiting another few weeks before telling family.

Burrberrymum · July 2016

My LO is 3, and a couple of her daycare teachers have grown a belly and had a baby, so she kind of grasped the idea so she's been OBSESSED with babies these days! We are not telling her until 2nd tri, she will spill the beans, she's a talker and she has the memory of an elephant lol! I want to make sure all is good and well before getting her excited.

jmacd22 · July 2016

@jlotero

Minger86 · July 2016

My daughter just turned 4 and I plan to tell her after I hear the heartbeat (so 10-12 weeks). I think she'll be very excited and I don't want to disappoint her if something goes wrong. Plus, she has a big mouth and I'm not ready for the world to know.

kelizr · July 2016

My almost 3 year old DD knows. She randomly comes up and talks to it and kisses-all on her own. We had talk about it for awhile, trying to get her used to the idea with her baby doll and having a brother or sister. She's super into the mommy stuff right now. Only persons she's mentioned it to is my mom. We don't talk to her much about it now and that seems to help her keep quiet around others.

ihateusernames* · July 2016

My 3 year old knows. Today he asked me how my baby is and I said that I was feeling sick, so he kissed my tummy and said, "feel better baby".

that kid melts my heart

mrsnc · July 2016

**TW**

In Dec. 14 I had a very early on miscarriage. I had the positive test earlier that week so we didn't tell anybody yet. When we got back from the ER, we made the decision to share the loss with then 8yo SD. She was very understanding and appropriately upset. I'm glad we shared that with her, because unfortunately death and loss is a part of life.

We we told her about DD when I was 6 weeks, she was almost 9 then. She was able to kept it secret because we told her that the news should be something that comes from us, as the babies parents.

Since this pregancy is so soon after DD (6months) we are waiting until the ultrasound to tell SD. Sometimes it's still a shock that we having another little one. For some reason it's harder to believe that it's real, I think that's why DH and I both need to see the baby before telling anyone.

When we were trying it felt important to share. Since this is a surprise, it's taking some adjusting time before sharing.

Jen524 · July 2016

We will wait until 2nd tri with our kids. The older two are 6 and 4 so they will definitely know what's going on. When we had our 18 month old, the older two were 4 and 2 at the time and waited until after our first appt in the 2nd tri when the midwife heard the heartbeat with the Doppler.

jlotero · July 2016

We have an ultrasound next week, and are planning on tell them after that if everything goes as planned.

OctoberLove13 · July 2016

We don't have any children of our own DNA yet but we are raising my 6 year old niece and she's been talking about having a "brother" for several months now. We've decided to wait to tell her until the first ultrasound (8/15). We're going to let her announce it to most of our family

I think she'll enjoy that and our family will love that she's a part of the announcement. Brother or no brother, we'll love it all the same.

chickii2008 · July 2016

We told our 2.5 year old. But I know he doesn't really get it. It was fun an exciting for us though!

AnonnAni · July 2016

My 6 yr old has the biggest mouth everrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr so we don't plan on telling them till I tell the world which wont be until we hit viability same as with all my pregnancies. Plus my almost 4 yr old wont have a clue what I am talking about and neither will my almost 2yr old lol.

Liss_37 · July 2016

my son is almost 7 and I can't wait to tell him, we bought him a "big brother" shirt and are going to give it to him as a gift and see if he figures it out. But I'm thinking of waiting a few more weeks. I'm just 6 weeks along now and am still full of new pregnancy worries

ladameperdue · July 2016

I guess we're going to have to tell DD (2.5) because we plan on doing the big sister shirt thing with my parents next week. We just realized though that this also means telling HER she's going to be a big sister.

howdthathappen · August 2016

@chrlyr I'm in the same boat as you. DD is 4.
I know this post is old but i just stumbled upon it....and almost wish I didn't read it. There is no way I can wait much longer.
We are going to start announcing to more people soon and I want her to know first. Plus, I think we are going to announce with a big sister shirt. She's going to start telling everyone she sees I'm sure but I think I'm ready to take that risk.

chrlyr · August 2016

@howdthathappen I think we will probably wait until the NT scan (assuming we make it that far -- my appointment to see the heartbeat isn't until next week) and until after our first tri genetic screenings (I'm 35) to tell him. He's already noticed my bloat ("Mommy, your tummy is sticking out!"), so hopefully we actually make it that long.

howdthathappen · August 2016

chrlyr said:

@howdthathappen I think we will probably wait until the NT scan (assuming we make it that far -- my appointment to see the heartbeat isn't until next week) and until after our first tri genetic screenings (I'm 35) to tell him. He's already noticed my bloat ("Mommy, your tummy is sticking out!"), so hopefully we actually make it that long.

Good luck! Now i'm really second guessing this...

KyCade3013 · August 2016

Planning to tell them around Halloween. We have old them early the last time and I had a miscarriage at 10 weeks earlier this year. They are 4 and 2.5 now.

kevinsgrl · August 2016

Being that this is my 6th pregnancy and with the last one I popped so fast (in maternity clothes by 12 weeks) if it goes the same we will probably tell them when I am around 8 or 9 weeks. 6yo DD knows, thought it would be fun for her to share the secret with us for a bit since DS knew last time!

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