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The things you said you wouldn't do VS the things you really aren't doing
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As an expecting mom there were a lot of things I swore I would never do and would never allow my child to do. Lots of tv time or "screen" time, formula feeding, and allowing the series of Junie B Jones books to be in my LOs possession are examples of things I said I would never allow. While I'm absolutely positive about not having the Junie series in the house- even though it's far off- I have had the tv on more than ever since being home with LO and will have to start FF when I go back to work. On the flip side, I said I would read to LO everyday, get my body back into shape, allow her grandparents to watch her whenever they want and not be an overly obsessive mom but none of those things have happened yet.
So what about you ladies? How are you going about your not-to-do's and good-to-do's?
Edited because I managed to misspell inside the title.
So what about you ladies? How are you going about your not-to-do's and good-to-do's?
Edited because I managed to misspell inside the title.
Re: The things you said you wouldn't do VS the things you really aren't doing
I also said I would sing lullabies to her which I do occasionally but not as much as I thought. I also said I would allow my mom to watch her, but I have only allowed her to "watch her" when we visit and I'm just outside.
I also planned to read, do tummy time, and talk to LO way more than I do. The first, I generally make it through half or a very short story daily (LO always seems to want to eat whenever I start story time).
Tummy time is the hardest! LO must be alert, not hungry, can't have eaten recently (to avoid spitting up), in a generally good mood, and at home. Once in tummy time, there's often a ten minute or less window before he gets too frustrated. I don't get six windows matching all of those criteria in a day to do the recommended amount of tummy time.
I do make a sincere effort to talk with LO, but never feel like I'm doing it enough. Ugh!
Other than that I really can't think of anything I said I'd never do... I was the last of my friends to have kids and I've been a teacher/ worked with families in early intervention for a decade, so I had a pretty clear-eyed view of the realities and compromises of parenthood. And just by personality I'm a pretty practical/ not very idealistic person so it's not really in my nature to say that I'll "never" or "always" do something.
The only thing I can think of that I've said I'll never do is that I'll never spank my kids (I have a terrible temper and I know that if I allow myself to go down that road I'll do it out of anger, plus research shows that it's not an effective disciplinary tool), and so far I have not spanked them! Although people say age 3 is worse than 2 so who knows what fresh hell next year will bring.
One thing that I'm surprised at myself for is for changing her diaper on my bed and then walking away. I never left either of the twins on my bed, even for a second. On the other hand, she, unlike her sisters, might be more at risk on the floor. Her curious sisters might step on her or poke her eyes when I'm not looking.
Mama to Three Girls:
Twins born March 2014 at 26 weeks due to preterm labor
and our 37weeker born May 9th, 2016!
A friend recently called me out on that ... Whatever ... She's due in November and has a whole list of never evers... Muahaha
DS: Born 5-17-16