The things you said you wouldn't do VS the things you really aren't doing

1mae2016 · July 2016

As an expecting mom there were a lot of things I swore I would never do and would never allow my child to do. Lots of tv time or "screen" time, formula feeding, and allowing the series of Junie B Jones books to be in my LOs possession are examples of things I said I would never allow. While I'm absolutely positive about not having the Junie series in the house- even though it's far off- I have had the tv on more than ever since being home with LO and will have to start FF when I go back to work. On the flip side, I said I would read to LO everyday, get my body back into shape, allow her grandparents to watch her whenever they want and not be an overly obsessive mom but none of those things have happened yet.
So what about you ladies? How are you going about your not-to-do's and good-to-do's?
Edited because I managed to misspell inside the title.

sarawifenow · July 2016

I'm pretty much doing everything that I said I wouldn't do. FF, screen time, pacifier, napping with me in bed, the list goes on and on...

baby-2-due · July 2016

I swore no pacifier and no FF and have done both. The FF started bcuz she lost too much weight and also had to do the bili lights and it has been hard to get my milk to catch up. I introduced the pacifier but she almost always refuses it unless her daddy is holding her (it's like she knows he can't give her what she wants).
I also said I would sing lullabies to her which I do occasionally but not as much as I thought. I also said I would allow my mom to watch her, but I have only allowed her to "watch her" when we visit and I'm just outside.

proudparent2b · July 2016

My major one was no tv time. I'm still trying to keep it limited (1-2 hours max most days) though.

I also planned to read, do tummy time, and talk to LO way more than I do. The first, I generally make it through half or a very short story daily (LO always seems to want to eat whenever I start story time).

Tummy time is the hardest! LO must be alert, not hungry, can't have eaten recently (to avoid spitting up), in a generally good mood, and at home. Once in tummy time, there's often a ten minute or less window before he gets too frustrated. I don't get six windows matching all of those criteria in a day to do the recommended amount of tummy time.

I do make a sincere effort to talk with LO, but never feel like I'm doing it enough. Ugh!

lalala2004 · July 2016

I didn't say never to anything except that I wouldn't let him play football. So far, so good

Bellodomani · July 2016

lalala2004 said:

I didn't say never to anything except that I wouldn't let him play football. So far, so good

Haha same! Although he's 2.5 and OBSESSED with all sports, football in particular, and he tells people all the time "When I get bigger I'm gonna play football like my Uncle Mac!" I figure we'll cross that bridge when we get to it

Other than that I really can't think of anything I said I'd never do... I was the last of my friends to have kids and I've been a teacher/ worked with families in early intervention for a decade, so I had a pretty clear-eyed view of the realities and compromises of parenthood. And just by personality I'm a pretty practical/ not very idealistic person so it's not really in my nature to say that I'll "never" or "always" do something.

The only thing I can think of that I've said I'll never do is that I'll never spank my kids (I have a terrible temper and I know that if I allow myself to go down that road I'll do it out of anger, plus research shows that it's not an effective disciplinary tool), and so far I have not spanked them! Although people say age 3 is worse than 2 so who knows what fresh hell next year will bring.

JennyS86 · July 2016

I said I would take more naps...I need to take more naps!

One thing that I'm surprised at myself for is for changing her diaper on my bed and then walking away. I never left either of the twins on my bed, even for a second. On the other hand, she, unlike her sisters, might be more at risk on the floor. Her curious sisters might step on her or poke her eyes when I'm not looking.

kp90 · July 2016

I let her sleep with us. I have the TV on a lot. I don't read to her as much as I wanted to but it's getting easier now that I can prop her up in her pillow. I do talk to her a lot though.

itsbrookejones · July 2016

Have the tv on (all the time) and the other night we discovered we could set her in front of cartoons while we had a quiet dinner! At this point any quiet time in the evenings is amazing! I'll take it!

gracesmama · July 2016

I swore up and down that I would never ever - EVER have baby in bed with me.... But most mornings after her 5:30am feeding ( and since DH has left for work by then) I just lay her next to me

A friend recently called me out on that ... Whatever ... She's due in November and has a whole list of never evers... Muahaha

vinerie · July 2016

I also am on my screen more than I hoped I would be. We don't have cable TV, so we don't have a ton of TV on but I am watching some Netflix shows. It's hard to be here all day with no other stimulation other than baby. Like others, I said my son will never play football and so far I've been able to keep that one!

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