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February 2017 Moms
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Venting
tc415860
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I almost had a complete meltdown last night. Just need a place to vent.
Hubby and I TTC for about a year, and then on Round 3 of Clomid 50mg, it happened. I need to preface by saying that I am so grateful and excited.
Now comes the venting.
I have weaned myself off of my Celexa (anxiety medication). I was only on 15mg (lowest dose is 10mg), so my PCP suggested to start now rather than waiting until the third trimester. I am psyching myself out and anxious that I am off of my anxiety meds. It sounds crazy, but it is true.
I am bombarded with stress right now. I am taking two classes for my treasurer's license, working full time (two combined jobs), and sit on the board of our local animal shelter. We are going through a software conversion at work that will take from now until January when we go live. One of my jobs will be reviewed by the state next year (happens every three years) and I have a ton of leg work to do in order to prepare for the review. I have one more class to take after these two classes, and it only makes sense to take it before the little bambino arrives.
I haven't had any morning sickness, just cranky, emotional, and exhausted. I've told my boss and a few close friends (and hubby obviously). We are telling my parents this weekend. They are going to be SO excited. Which is great, but gives me more anxiety. I've enjoyed having a small circle know. I'm not ready to be bombarded with everyone's opinions, etc. (which sounds super selfish).
Here's a question.... my first appointment with US is next Friday the 22nd. Hubby is out of town, so I thought about asking my mom if she wanted to join me. The closer it gets, the more I feel like I don't want to ask her to join me. What if there is no heartbeat? What if something is wrong? I'm 30 and overweight (5'9" and 235). I'd rather be by myself and deal with it than have my mom there to add to my anxiety. My mom and I are SUPER close, so all of this sounds absolutely terrible to say. And I don't want to regret not having her there if everything is perfect and she could have seen the US.
I'm sure there are more of you feeling the same way.... I hope? Hoping I can relax a little after the first appointment. Ugh.
Hubby and I TTC for about a year, and then on Round 3 of Clomid 50mg, it happened. I need to preface by saying that I am so grateful and excited.
Now comes the venting.
I have weaned myself off of my Celexa (anxiety medication). I was only on 15mg (lowest dose is 10mg), so my PCP suggested to start now rather than waiting until the third trimester. I am psyching myself out and anxious that I am off of my anxiety meds. It sounds crazy, but it is true.
I am bombarded with stress right now. I am taking two classes for my treasurer's license, working full time (two combined jobs), and sit on the board of our local animal shelter. We are going through a software conversion at work that will take from now until January when we go live. One of my jobs will be reviewed by the state next year (happens every three years) and I have a ton of leg work to do in order to prepare for the review. I have one more class to take after these two classes, and it only makes sense to take it before the little bambino arrives.
I haven't had any morning sickness, just cranky, emotional, and exhausted. I've told my boss and a few close friends (and hubby obviously). We are telling my parents this weekend. They are going to be SO excited. Which is great, but gives me more anxiety. I've enjoyed having a small circle know. I'm not ready to be bombarded with everyone's opinions, etc. (which sounds super selfish).
Here's a question.... my first appointment with US is next Friday the 22nd. Hubby is out of town, so I thought about asking my mom if she wanted to join me. The closer it gets, the more I feel like I don't want to ask her to join me. What if there is no heartbeat? What if something is wrong? I'm 30 and overweight (5'9" and 235). I'd rather be by myself and deal with it than have my mom there to add to my anxiety. My mom and I are SUPER close, so all of this sounds absolutely terrible to say. And I don't want to regret not having her there if everything is perfect and she could have seen the US.
I'm sure there are more of you feeling the same way.... I hope? Hoping I can relax a little after the first appointment. Ugh.
Re: Venting
And, as hard as it would be, its worth it to have someone with you if something is wrong. It sucks to be vulnerable, but being vulnerable with fears with your mom is much easier than being stuck with just a strange ultrasound tech.
Or you could explain to her how you're feeling and maybe have her come with you but wait outside. Once you're situated and feel comfortable, then you could call her in.
Big Bro 7/14/13
Little Bro 2/6/17
However, if I did find out something was wrong I wouldn't want to be alone, but that's personal preference. Whatever decision you make just needs to be the right decision for you! Good Luck!
TTC since January 2016
BFP - 3/12/16 - MC 4/5/16
BFP - 6/11/16
If your mom stresses you out don't bring her, if she would be needed support bring her.
TTC since January 2016
BFP - 3/12/16 - MC 4/5/16
BFP - 6/11/16
I'd bring mom if she was likely to be a support but not if she'd be a stressor. I'd be concerned about being alone and having to drive after if I found out something was wrong...
Me: 33 & DH: 33
Married: 07/2006
TTC: 10/2015
BFP #1: 11/2015, MC 12/2015 (7 weeks)
BFP #2: 06/2016, EDD 2/15/2017
*TMI* I had a snail trail of blood to the bathroom after having DD. The nurse didnt put my bandaging on correctly before I stood up for the first time. I cried and the nurse was so nice about it while she was cleaning it up. That was the end of all my hopes and dreams of ever having any dignity.
Not everyone is so open just because they had kids. Even during labour.
Maybe a "at least buy a girl a drink first!" as the tech lubes up the wand?
I like to use awkward humor during awkward moments.
Big Bro 7/14/13
Little Bro 2/6/17
OP: if you and mom are close, I say invite her. Chances are good it'll be a happy day, but it it'd be good to have support either way. Good luck!
It wasn't awkward when my husband was in the room with me, and it wasn't awkward when I was by myself.
There was a cloth covering my private parts. IDK - I'm usually a very private and covered up person in real life, but in medical situations I'm like "gotta do what you gotta do".
** December BMB Siggy Challenge - Animals in Pools **
Me: 31+ H: 32
TTC Since 11/2015
#1 - MMC 6.5 weeks (2/16); #2 - MC due to cystic hygroma at 20 weeks (10/16); #3 CP (2/17); #4 - Due 12.16.17
I'll also say that this is my first pregnancy, and although I was a little anxious about what to expect with the TV ultrasound, I found it not to be awkward at all. I had two, the first one alone and the second with DH, and it was really much less awkward than a pap smear or routine gynecological checkup. I was anxious to see the baby and make sure all was okay, but I wouldn't let the fact that it's TV be an extra cause of anxiety.
Big Bro 7/14/13
Little Bro 2/6/17