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SSminnow426
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TTC---ready but not ready and interested on other peoples thoughts
SSminnow426
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Hello!!
This is more of a conversational type of question I suppose versus advice (but hey I'm open to whatever is constructive).
DH and I have been married for coming up on two years---together for a total of eight and in our mid and later 20's. For some background I've ALWAYS wanted kids and always thought I would ideally be done with the child birthing years by 30. (Not ridged but just as an ideal world idea). We have good friends of ours that are trying for a baby and another that will welcome their first child in a few months (YAY!).
So naturally we have been bringing up the subject more about actually TTC. We've obviously had the discussions previously but since we got together so young---16 & 19. It was always a future conversation. Now that we are older and somewhat settled---or as much as anyone ever is we are trying to decide on when we want to TTC.
We are ready but of course both of us are nervous and hesitating on pulling the trigger. I know that I will have to get off the Pill for 2-3 months before we can TTC. My yearly is coming up next month and I've debated on getting my checkup and not refilling my Pill. I have adopted more of a natural life style and don't like to take too many meds anyway so I like the fact of "detoxing" my body.
The above is my long winded way of explaining my thought process of getting off my pill with the intention on getting baby ready without commiting to TTC. We would obviously need to use another version of protection but I also am smart enough to know that the potential of a OOPS is greater than when I'm on the pill.
Has anyone else done the above and have any tips/thoughts to share? Truthfully I know I'm probably overthinking the whole thing but hey baby is a big step so I figure if I overthink anything in my life then this is a good thing to do it with LOL.
In my head it seems like a good idea to get my body ready and get it back to its natural rhythm but I do battle with the thought of it being irresponsible since an OOPS could happen. Then again my overthinking could prevent us from taking the leap---maybe an oops in a couple months wouldn't be terrible. We can afford a child and already have a realistic plan of how we will work around our schedules and work life for when the time comes. Only thing holding us back is our own nervousness really.
Thoughts and comments? As always if we could keep it constructive I would appreciate it!!! Not dumb to either side of the argument but looking for some helpful banter :
Re: TTC---ready but not ready and interested on other peoples thoughts
I understand the nerves - I have them a bit, too, but I also feel really ready for this. It's a big step! I hope this helped. I'm running on not much sleep and very little caffeine today, so I'm not sure I answered anything, or if I just rambled.
Punk's birthday: 3-28-17
And it will be easier/faster to make a decision once y'all finally have a timeframe in mind!
I am currently not of hormonal birth control and doing FAM. I chart and we use condoms during my fertile period. It has been effective for us for almost two years. I have a pretty regular cycle and ovulate within the same 2-3 cycle days every month. Using a barrier method and charting until you figure out what your cycle is going to do is always an option.
Good luck with whatever you decide!
DD 1 10/2012
CP 9/2013
DD 2 6/2014
CP 3/2016
BFP 12/8/2016
Ya'll are awesome! I appreciate the kind words and advice. I'm more on the yay baby side than not and from what other people as well as you guys said everyones body is different. It could take 2 months to get back to "normal" or it could take longer.
I am a little afraid of having issues TTC as well so I think the extra time will help my nervousness. Half of my anxiety comes from getting off any taking the leap so I'm hoping getting off will ease me into it and then it doesn't feel so "Ok I'm getting off get pregnant now"
Like dfulton808 said if I happen to get a blessing a little early then even happier
It took me 1.5 years to get pregnant with my first and 3 months with my second. It could happen at any time you are off BC!
Like someone else said, you'll never go for it if you let nerves get in the way. It's scary but at some point you just have to bit the bullet. Good luck to you. It's a wild ride
I haven't officially stopped taking my BC yet, but the idea is SCARY, even though my DH and I both want kids and have set a timeline that works for us.
Good luck to you!
Mama to Rowan Sebastian and baby boy coming in April!
H and I are seriously considering going off BC (we use non-hormonal) within the next few weeks to a month, and I just started taking prenatals. Honestly, with how long we've been talking about this, I should have started taking prenatals a couple months ago, but oh well. I always knew you should start taking them before TTC, but just spaced.
If you're interested, I found these two links very helpful in picking a prenatal.
https://www.whattoexpect.com/preconception/health-and-wellness/foods-to-enjoy/prenatal-vitamins.aspx
https://www.m.webmd.com/baby/guide/prenatal-vitamins
I am so relieved everyone has been positive on this. It makes me feel like I'm not crazy. I am getting nervous a bit just because this will be my last week on the pill. Now to decide on how we are going to handle the whole making sure my body adjusts and protecting against having a oops for a few months to let my body chill----doctor said 3 months off before we should TTC. I'm totally fine with a oops but would like to extra safe guard for the 3 months so I dont chance anything bad.
I know I could temp, pull out and all that. I'm thinking of condoms but I am allergic to latex so I need to find an alternative. Anyone know of a good hypoallergenic brand?