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hjmommaplus1 · July 2016

Happy Friday, ladies!

JBing131 · July 2016

1.) I'm regretting not finding out the gender for two reason - sick of people asking me if I know and then asking why I didn't find out and can they call the doctor to find out (um, no sit down and shut up) and also because I thought it was a girl at first (I was always using female pronouns) but now everyone is guessing I'm having a boy which I have mixed feelings about. Above all, I want my baby to be healthy and happy, but my fiancé and I both kinda wanted a little girl. So I have mixed emotions about that, and feel like a terrible person.

2.) Fiance and I are trying to figure out guardianship in case of the worst, and godparents. We settled on a godfather (my cousin who was always supportive of us) but are having a hell of a time on a godmother. I know my mother will pressure me to have one of my sisters, but until I got pregnant, no one in my immediate family wanted anything to do with my fiancé and I and we're both just having whiplash from the change in the past 2-3 months.

WWLD??? (what would lorelai do? haha)

kgrisham18 · July 2016

Well here it goes. I found out last Friday that we're having a boy. I was totally cool with it until I went to bed that night and started crying. I proceeded to cry for half the day on Saturday too (luckily DH was golfing so he didn't know). I really thought I was having another girl, I envisioned dd#2 in all of dd#1's cute clothes and accessories. I tried to get myself excited by looking at nursery ideas and boy's clothes. Didn't help. I kept thinking of all of the superhero clothes, sports, etc. that would take over my future. I eventually got over it on Saturday but I'm still not nearly as excited as I would have been. And then I obviously feel terrible for having these feelings. My husband is SO excited. I feel like when I told him I took some of that excitement away from him. But slowly getting used to and excited for baby boy to come.

MrsMaryK2016 · July 2016

@kgrisham18 I kind of had the same feelings because I really wanted a girl. But when I stepped back and looked at how extremely excited my husband was to have a son, that made me really glad it was a boy. I'm not going to say I don't still wish our nursery was going to be pink and frilly but the joy on my husbands face when he talks about his son makes it worth it. Try taking comfort in that, it helped a lot for me.

Greencows4812 · July 2016

@kgrisham18 gender disappointment is real and normal. Don't beat yourself up. We as women can get very clear pictures in our head of how we imagine something to be and when it doesn't work out its normal to be disappointed. When I found out my first was a boy, I cried. And then I cried because I was crying and disappointed when my son was perfectly healthy. I know have two sons and pregnant with my first girl. The boys are amazing and complete mamas boys. The connection we have is more than I could ever hope for. Now that I'm having a girl, I'm totally nervous. My life has been controlled by race cars and airplanes, trains and trucks. I have no idea what I'm going to do with a girl. My point is, is that it's normal and allow yourself time to grieve the girl you thought you were having. But also keep in mind that mamas boys are amazing in their own right and your relationship will be different than dd but just as special.

MrsMaryK2016 · July 2016

I have so much to do at work. Like an unbelievably huge amount of work and a huge mid year financial meeting on the 16th for which I am not at all prepared to present. And yet.... All I care about is decorating the damn nursery and checking baby stuff off of my to-do list.

Rationally, I know that this is super dumb but I Can. Not. Stop.

SandNStarsNJ · July 2016

JBing131 said:

1.) I'm regretting not finding out the gender for two reason - sick of people asking me if I know and then asking why I didn't find out and can they call the doctor to find out (um, no sit down and shut up) and also because I thought it was a girl at first (I was always using female pronouns) but now everyone is guessing I'm having a boy which I have mixed feelings about. Above all, I want my baby to be healthy and happy, but my fiancé and I both kinda wanted a little girl. So I have mixed emotions about that, and feel like a terrible person.

2.) Fiance and I are trying to figure out guardianship in case of the worst, and godparents. We settled on a godfather (my cousin who was always supportive of us) but are having a hell of a time on a godmother. I know my mother will pressure me to have one of my sisters, but until I got pregnant, no one in my immediate family wanted anything to do with my fiancé and I and we're both just having whiplash from the change in the past 2-3 months.

WWLD??? (what would lorelai do? haha)

Can't be of much help on #2, but as far as #1, we didn't tell people what we were having during our first pregnancy and I was getting serious girl-vibes. Lo-and-behold at our a/s it was confirmed we were having a girl, yet everyone insisted I was having a boy. My point is, what do they know? Our intuition is something worth trusting... have faith and resolve in your decisions!

serenaxo84 · July 2016

@kgrisham18 I feel you! I was convinced this baby was a girl- even ordered fabric swatches had my nursery all decided! Turns out we are having another boy! I actually really wanted another boy but was a little disappointed. I'm a little sad I won't have the mother daughter relationship down the road... But what can you do! I plan on being close to my boys!

hjmommaplus1 · July 2016

@kgrisham18- I completely understand. I have a DD and I was hoping this LO would be a boy because I know DH really wanted a boy. Realistically, I believe we're done having kids after this one so I'm sad we'll never know what it's like to have a son.

atcwag · July 2016

We're in the midst of potty training DS who's 2.5. We only have 1 bathroom (upstairs), so he has a potty chair downstairs. I was seriously too damn lazy to walk upstairs to dump pee 1000 times today, so half the time it got thrown off the back porch and 1/2 the time it got dumped down the drain in the (empty) kitchen sink.

BabyTaylor88 · July 2016

I am currently freaking out over the cost of childcare. I have no idea what to do or if I will be able to afford everything that a new baby costs along with childcare

Greencows4812 · July 2016

atcwag said:

We're in the midst of potty training DS who's 2.5. We only have 1 bathroom (upstairs), so he has a potty chair downstairs. I was seriously too damn lazy to walk upstairs to dump pee 1000 times today, so half the time it got thrown off the back porch and 1/2 the time it got dumped down the drain in the (empty) kitchen sink.

I saw a thing on Pinterest that a lady used coffee filters so when/if LO pooped she didn't have to scrub it. I totally understand your position, I'd probably do the same.

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