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Just For Fun: MBTI vs. Parenting style

SunnySurpriseSunnySurprise member
edited June 2016 in April 2016 Moms
Now that we've all had a chance to somewhat settle into this parenthood thing, I thought it would be fun to see if our MBTI types accurately predict our parenting style (as many claim they do). I'm interested to see if you think your type description applies to you!

I'm an INTJ, which means I tend to give my child space and need "me-time" as well (very accurate), encourage imagination and observation in my LO (hard to say with a baby, but I can see it being accurate), tend to be firm and want to raise independent children (accurate), and value structure & organization (very accurate). 

DH is an ENFP, so he likes to actively interact with his child (accurate, he's the baby hog between us), encourages imagination and observation (accurate), is warm, supportive, wants to raise an empathic child (accurate) and tends to live inside the moment (very accurate). 

Looks like for us there is something to this theory. What about you?

<3 Welcome, Baby Lola!  <3
Lorenza Justice, born 04/24/2016, 34w6d, 4lbs 8oz, 17 inches
Home, healthy & happy :)

~ A., A. & L.J. - our family is complete ~
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Re: Just For Fun: MBTI vs. Parenting style

  • linzoirvlinzoirv member
    edited June 2016

    I just took an online test and I am also a INTJ.

    I identify with the same parenting style.

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  • ladylolly89ladylolly89 member
    So interesting that we are all three INTJ, considering how rare this type supposedly is in women! My parenting style is very similar to what is described, however I find myself being a little more affectionate and softhearted than I expected. It's certainly very accurate, however. 
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  • MissingchampagneMissingchampagne member
    Which test are you using to determine this?
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  • ladylolly89ladylolly89 member
    Missingchampagne said:
    Which test are you using to determine this?
    I have taken all of these at various times for the past ten years and have yet to test as anything but an INTJ. :smile:

    https://www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/jtypes2.asp

    https://www.16personalities.com/free-personality-test

    https://www.myersbriggs.org/my-mbti-personality-type/mbti-basics/
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  • SunnySurpriseSunnySurprise member
    ladylolly89 said:
    So interesting that we are all three INTJ, considering how rare this type supposedly is in women! My parenting style is very similar to what is described, however I find myself being a little more affectionate and softhearted than I expected. It's certainly very accurate, however. 
    Ditto on the affectionate part! I think saying that INTJ's appear cold-hearted towards their children isn't fair at all. Sure, I'm firm and consistent in my parenting, but once the boundaries are set and respected, I'm as warm and loving towards children (or dogs, or misbehaving husbands :wink:) as the next person. Just because we expect (and enforce) good behavior, doesn't mean we don't show them affection and make them feel loved. 
    <3 Welcome, Baby Lola!  <3
    Lorenza Justice, born 04/24/2016, 34w6d, 4lbs 8oz, 17 inches
    Home, healthy & happy :)

    ~ A., A. & L.J. - our family is complete ~
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  • JayeSkylarJayeSkylar member
    I am INFP personality type. Which means I will most likely give mychildren the freedom they need to do this, keeping an open mind and letting their children gain their own sense of understamding but will try to provide a backdrop to this freedom and experience, establishing a set of morals and values that guide that liberty with a sense of personal responsibility. I think that's fair. That's what I see myself doing.
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  • RoseShadow873RoseShadow873 member
    I'm INTJ too. I'm unsure of what this implies in regard to parenting.
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  • crazylibladycrazyliblady member
    edited June 2016
    I'm an INFJ. Here's what it says about me:

    INFJs usually make warm and caring parents. Their goal is to help their children become adults who know the difference between right and wrong, and who are independent, growth-oriented individuals.

    Along the path to that goal they are generally very warm and caring, and are likely to treat their children as individuals who have a voice in family decisions. They want their children to be able to think for themselves, and make the right decisions. They also can be quite demanding on their children, and may have very high expectations for their behavior. Although they are generally soft-spoken and gentle, they may become stubborn and sharp-tongued at times when their expectations aren't met, or when under a lot of stress.

    INFJs take their parenting role with ultimate seriousness. They will make sacrifices for the sake of their children without a second thought, and without remorse. Passing on their values to their children is a serious priority in their lives. Children of INFJs remember their parents fondly as warm, patient, and inspirational.


    We'll see how Erik remembers me, but this feels right to me.  When I can't calm my baby boy, I sometimes remind myself that it isn't my job to shield him from all bad experiences, it is my job to strengthen and support him through them.  Though I really try to be "soft spoken and gentle" my husband can attest I have a very sharp tongue when I choose to use it.

    Jana Lynn
     Happily married since 5/24/2015  Momma of a baby Viking since 4/16, expecting #2 in 5/18
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  • ivyvines6ivyvines6 member
    JanaBonfield said:
    I'm an INFJ. Here's what it says about me:

    INFJs usually make warm and caring parents. Their goal is to help their children become adults who know the difference between right and wrong, and who are independent, growth-oriented individuals.

    Along the path to that goal they are generally very warm and caring, and are likely to treat their children as individuals who have a voice in family decisions. They want their children to be able to think for themselves, and make the right decisions. They also can be quite demanding on their children, and may have very high expectations for their behavior. Although they are generally soft-spoken and gentle, they may become stubborn and sharp-tongued at times when their expectations aren't met, or when under a lot of stress.

    INFJs take their parenting role with ultimate seriousness. They will make sacrifices for the sake of their children without a second thought, and without remorse. Passing on their values to their children is a serious priority in their lives. Children of INFJs remember their parents fondly as warm, patient, and inspirational.


    We'll see how Erik remembers me, but this feels right to me.  When I can't calm my baby boy, I sometimes remind myself that it isn't my job to shield him from all bad experiences, it is my job to strengthen and support him through them.  Though I really try to be "soft spoken and gentle" my husband can attest I have a very sharp tongue when I choose to use it.

    I just took the test and I'm an INFJ as well. This perfectly sums up my parenting style (so far) with Jackson!
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  • K&ElizabethK&Elizabeth member
    I am an INTJ-T. The description fits my personality really well and mostly describes my parenting style, but I do like to think I'm a little more affectionate. 
    DD-10/3/12
    DS-4/14/16 
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