Social Media announcement after you find out sex

Carly79 · July 2016

Anyone waiting until they find out the sex at 20wks to do a social media announcement? I'm still trying to figure out what I'm going to do. With my son we announced around 14 weeks once everyone that we (or our parents) wanted to tell in person was told. I had a friend who waited until they knew sex to just do one announcement. I am not one that posts daily (or even weekly) to social media so it doesn't bother me to wait, and in my mind, 7 weeks doesn't seem like a long time but when I think about it being the end of August that seems like forever.

edited to appease people because I can't figure out how to delete the discussion

Vivi20 · July 2016

I had a friend do that. She waited to announce on Facebook that they were expecting until she found out they were having a boy, then just announced both. I'm not announcing on Facebook at all. I don't have an account any more. I hold the unpopular opinion that Facebook is just another obnoxious tool utilized by our narcissistic society (for the most part. I realize it can be used for good purposes, too).

susykat77 · July 2016

You re going to be waiting a long time to announce if you want to know your child's gender for sure.

I do like the idea of announcing once the sex has been determined but 20 weeks does seem so far off. I am not a regular poster on social media either but we will announce that way as well. We are waiting for the results of our NIPT before we announce as that gives me some piece of mind that we'll actually stay pregnant. The added side bonus is that we also will learn the sex of our babe early as they test for sex related genetic abnormalities.

TinaBelcher · July 2016

SEX, please, it's the sex. Also this is a great post for randoms.

LoneStar21416 · July 2016

We will likely not be finding out the sex, but I still will not be announcing on social media until that point regardless. That is based on my level of comfort. It doesn't feel that long for me, TBH. We have told our friends and family. If someone is only finding out via social media, then it likely means I'm not super interested in whether they know about my pregnancy or not, so it doesn't seem like that big of a deal to me to wait until 20 weeks. I also do not post frequently either.

cjs260 · July 2016

TinaBelcher said:

SEX, please, it's the sex. Also this is a great post for randoms.

What she said...

johnnydro · July 2016

Wifey and I also want to wait until 20 weeks to find out gender but we won't be telling anyone we'll leave it as a surprise.

Carly79 · July 2016

@Tinabelcher Thanks for the suggestion about posting something like this in Randoms but that discussion isn't for me, too many things to read through.

cjs260 · July 2016

@carly79 I wouldn't think you'd have to read through everything if you're uninterested in giving support to others posting in the randoms thread (which is fine, of course). Just post a question there and come back for responses. Everyone seems to be good about tagging the person who asked a question/told a story, etc.

katesmama0706 · July 2016

I'm not crazy about the randoms thread either. I feel like it's too congested and questions get lost in the shuffle. As for announcing I had considered waiting until after my anatomy scan but the bump is pretty obvious and I didn't want to field questions at DDs birthday party this weekend so I went ahead and went social media official with our news last week.

adorebella · July 2016

I've already made the post on Facebook about this pregnancy and I'll make another when we know the sex. Everyone has been thrilled with the news and for me it was no secret as I've been telling friends and family since I found out.

sagoon · July 2016

We will probably announce the sex on FB after we've told grandparents etc in person. In my experience, once the news gets out it spreads like wildfire, so there is no reason not to at least have the pleasure of breaking the news yourself.

hayhay2501 · July 2016

I don't plan on telling coworkers (besides my boss) till its awkwardly obviously so I think I'll probably do my Facebook "reveal" at 20 weeks too. I'm telling the rest of my friends after my 12 week scan on Friday (all going well!!!). Plus 20 weeks gives me time to plan something cute...

cmcoy267 · July 2016

I am also waiting for gender to be known at 20 weeks to share on facebook. One post! And I think it's kinda nice to only have important people know up until then.

SunsetSky · July 2016

By the time 20 weeks rolls around and you go to announce the sex you will be probably be showing anyway, so most people will know.

We are waiting until 20 weeks anyway to even tell family and friends we are pregnant. I think, for us and them, it will be more real and exciting to find out then and there whether it will be a boy or girl. Way back in the day there was a baby born on my side of the family with a chromosomal abnormality, so we want to know baby is healthy before we get people excited.

Vivi20 · July 2016

sagoon said:

We will probably announce the sex on FB after we've told grandparents etc in person. In my experience, once the news gets out it spreads like wildfire, so there is no reason not to at least have the pleasure of breaking the news yourself.

So this reminded me of when I went into labor with our daughter. We didn't tell anyone I was in labor except for our parents and siblings. We certainly didn't announce on Facebook that we were headed to the hospital.
WELL....somehow, someway, a person that my husband and I know announced on his Facebook that my husband and I were at the hospital having the baby, and congratulating us. Tagged us, put the name of the hospital, EVERYTHING. Mind you, we did not inform this person we were in labor. This isn't a person we have weekly dinners with or even talk to on a regular basis. We didn't even SEE him or talk to him at the hospital. We didn't even know he was there! It was like, 6:00 in the morning or something. I believe what happened was that he was there for something health related on his part, and he happened to see us arrive. I don't know. But imagine my fury when I logged onto Facebook to see this announcement that he took upon himself to post. I. was. PISSED. I let it go and didn't say anything, but believe me...if something like that occurred again, there would be hell to pay.
Another reason I loathe Facebook. People have no sense of privacy or consideration.
Edited to add: this is how I imagine celebrities must feel when there is a major violation of their privacy. It's so rude.

katesmama0706 · July 2016

@jlea05 oh hell no. I'd be so mad. Like demand that it be taken down and delete them forever mad.

Vivi20 · July 2016

@katesmama0706 that's what I wish I had done. I'm mad at myself that I just let it go. I was so much more of a pushover before. I think becoming a mother has made me more fierce!

cjs260 · July 2016

@jlea05 There. Would. Be. Blood. You are a more patient woman than I.

mommywesley · July 2016

That is so over the line! Never would I consider sharing something that intimate without the parents REQUESTING that I do!! That is insane!

We announce on FB when labor starts, but that's us, my husband usually posts some snarky little comment to see how many can figure out what he means lol. One year it was "Ground control to Major Tom..." and that was it hehehehehe.

Dinozaur · July 2016

@jlea05 Reason #479 I hate Facebook.

I do have a Facebook to keep up with people, especially since we move around a lot, but I still hate it. I honestly haven't given much thought to announcing on there, and it really doesn't even excite me to think about it because we're already telling our family and close friends anyways. I don't want people asking me, "when are you gonna finally have that baby??" whenever I'm a week past my due date, and absolutely nobody is welcome to visit at the hospital until we've had some bonding time with the baby. Maybe I'm just a grouch, but I love my privacy and Facebook may just suddenly be surprised with baby pictures one day.

poetryandoceans · July 2016

@Dinozaur I totally agree - I feel like social media invites people to be even more up in your business than people USUALLY are with pregnant women, which totally sucks. I've seen more than one girlfriend do a "oh, hey Facebook, btw, here's my baby" without even mentioning a pregnancy, which I am always super impressed by. @jlea05 your story has me seeing red on your behalf. That person would be dead to me. And maybe dead to everyone else, too, depending on how hormonal I was feeling...

SunsetSky · July 2016

@Dinozaur, 100% agree. If we had it our way we wouldn't be telling my MIL until after our kids are 18. Those first few weeks are the time we will bond with them. I really don't want to have people ripping my baby from my arms.

I only use FB to follow my family's photos, so there will be no social media announcement. People close enough to use will know.

emilyn2012 · July 2016

So I think do what you want to do! If you want to wait til 20 weeks do it!

also I hate the concept of the randoms thread. I get it if you want to say something like oh man I am craving marshmallows, but if every topic is supposed to go there I'll never keep up bc I can't read it bc it's such total random out of sorts theme.

sagoon · July 2016

@jlea05 Holy shit, I would be livid. What kind of psycho even does that?

Renee1105 · July 2016

I won't announce on social media at all. I may post a picture of myself but only if it occurs organically. We did the same with DD.

ElleMF728 · July 2016

We waited until we knew the sex of the baby to announce with DS2. Our reasoning was that there were a lot of FTMs and moms who had been trying for a while that were pregnant at the same time. I had just had DS1 and so while I know logically that one pregnancy doesn't "take away" from another, I didn't want to step on anyone's toes for no reason. We decided one announcement would be better in that situation. By 20 weeks however, it was really obvious and the only reason I could hide it that long was because it was the middle of winter. I show early.

hayhay2501 · July 2016

@jlea05 WOW I am so mad on your behalf. It sounds like that person has no clue about social etiquette on and off social media.

ThePax89 · July 2016

With my daughter I announced the pregnancy and then the sex later. For this one, I already announced the pregnancy, but I doubt I'll be overtly announcing the sex of the baby. A male or female pronoun may slip out. I just don't think it needs to be a big ordeal.

BrennansMom2012 · July 2016

@Carly79 I'm in the same boat as you. We haven't announced the pregnancy on FB but all the important people in our lives know. I'd like to wait until we know the gender/sex but by then I'll be back in school and if the last week and a half is any indication I will not be able to hide it. These hips have been expanding and my boobs are huge! Lol which after them going to saggy water balloons after nursing my son I'm not too upset about! Lol

sorry if TMI! I'd say do what you want but I don't even know what I want to do!!!

MaryNog · July 2016

We won't announce on Facebook at all, and will refrain (and politely ask our family also) from posting pictures of the baby. I know we miss out on some of the benefits of Facebook (keeping up with friends and family spread all over the world), but we're very mindful about privacy, especially when it comes to minors. This is no judgment AT ALL on people who chose to share, I'm sure your families and friends will be much happier than mine will! Still thinking of ways we can include our families without using Facebook...maybe texts?

Dinozaur · July 2016

MaryNog said:

We won't announce on Facebook at all, and will refrain (and politely ask our family also) from posting pictures of the baby. I know we miss out on some of the benefits of Facebook (keeping up with friends and family spread all over the world), but we're very mindful about privacy, especially when it comes to minors. This is no judgment AT ALL on people who chose to share, I'm sure your families and friends will be much happier than mine will! Still thinking of ways we can include our families without using Facebook...maybe texts?

My SIL has an emailing list for family, and every once in a while she'll send out pictures and videos of her kids to all of us. That might be an idea, we always enjoy it. We all live so far away and rarely get to see them, so it's nice to be able to see their kids growing and all.

xinran · July 2016

@carly79 personally we aren't doing any social media announcements (we don't use facebook) and on top of that we arent finding out the sex but I think it's totally your choice to wait until your scan and you know the sex or before. Isn't it weird how counting weeks and months make the amount of time sound so different.
@Marynog we set up a WhatsApp group for close family.
I must admit I don't like the random thread either or some of the epic mixed threads. It's when hubby is about and I want to show him something or refer to something and I can't remember where it is. I also think it causes more repeat topics not less. It's easier to check if there is a thread clearly titled about a particular topic than it is to check if it was covered in one of the epic long weekly threads.

Vivi20 · July 2016

MaryNog said:

We won't announce on Facebook at all, and will refrain (and politely ask our family also) from posting pictures of the baby. I know we miss out on some of the benefits of Facebook (keeping up with friends and family spread all over the world), but we're very mindful about privacy, especially when it comes to minors. This is no judgment AT ALL on people who chose to share, I'm sure your families and friends will be much happier than mine will! Still thinking of ways we can include our families without using Facebook...maybe texts?

We ban all photos of our daughter on the internet, too. Anytime we go somewhere, I remind people not to post pictures online. It's annoying I have to even do that. You'd think people would have the common courtesy to ask first. But then I'm reminded of my SIL who took it upon herself to post pictures of my daughter on her Facebook and instagram. Pissed me heck off.

MaryNog · July 2016

@jlea05 ugh I'm so sorry that happened! Especially since she knows it's important to you. It'll probably be an uphill battle for us too, we'll see how it goes!

sarahmsoda · July 2016

@MaryNog I have a few friends who just send private messages or texts with pictures be cause she won't put her children on Fbook either ...she is also extra good at sending Christmas cards and birth announcements

MaryNog · July 2016

@Dinozaur @xinran @sarahmsoda thanks, guys! It's encouraging to hear these examples!

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