Missing out on summer

ThursdayMorning · July 2016

Is anyone else struggling wth boredom? I've really felt like this summer is flying by and this pregnancy is making it difficult to enjoy. Normally I'd be taking in the long days. Traveling. Late nights wth friends. Etc. but I can't seem to stay awake passed 9 and haven't taken a babymoon due to Zika fears.

Its been especially hard because my husband may have Zika (he travelled to a Zika area a few months ago) so we've been completely abstinent for months (I haven't even kissed him!) it's added an extra challenge to our relationship and made us both feel distant from one another.

Im not trying to complain and obviously this is all a very small sacrifice to make for my baby. Just curious if anyone else is feeling like this.

Stephanie7693 · July 2016

I don't feel like I'm missing out on summer, but it does seem to be dragging when I want it to go faster! I want baby to be here, I've been so tired and cranky lately that having the kids home all day is not fun most of the time. I try to do our usual fun stuff, but I still end up being crabby

and it's bothering me that I can't do things like weed the yard and keep up with the outside. It drains me to just sit in the sun and watch my kids in the pool. I know I'm going to be tired when baby gets here, but at least I'll have my body back. Hoping fall is better for us!

Edsilva14 · July 2016

Oh I feel I am missing out on summer. It seems everyone is able to go on vacation, but we can't because doctor has told me to rest as much as I can and take it easy. Work and home is about all I will be doing up to delivery. And still preparing things to buy. I wish I could go to the beach and just chill and hear the waves.

bearsandbeets7 · July 2016

I am so ready for fall. I love summer but that's when we go to the beach and get to do fun summer things. I absolutely love the fall so from my birthday which is 9/11 through Christmas, that's my jam. My favorite time of year! I'm hoping that recovering from this LO will be easier than with DD. I want my body back but pre both babies. I let myself go after I had DD but I really want to whip my butt into shape once this little guy is here.

Whitmore1027 · July 2016

I try to head to the pool multiple times a week to get my summer fix. This is in fact the best summer I have had since I am unemployed right now. The only thing is that I definitely wish I could travel, but hubby has to work, and we don't really have the funds. But the pool has made my summer fun! Especially going with the fam.

Curls919 · July 2016

We've had a fun summer so far. But what I'm sad about is that we had a few weekends away in mind but since my doc is worried about preterm delivery we aren't going on the trips. But we are spending some weekends at the beach (it's only about 40 min from the hospital) which is nice. And we're going to the town pool a lot. So it still feels like "summer"

TCUFrog08 · July 2016

I think this is whats been wrong with me!! I have been missing Summer. I usually go out to the pool, have some cold beverages on Friday nights on the lake... but nothing so far!!

Car0liiine · July 2016

I'm definitely missing the summers of yore. When we had friends over almost every night to play cards and beer pong until the wee hours. Sitting by the pool with a drink and a smoke. Concerts and music festivals. Trips to the beach and the mountains and the lake and my parents' vacation house in the marsh.
This summer I frequently go days without so much as stepping outside. We've been swimming once at night. Since we got pregnant and we aren't drinking and smoking and getting high anymore, many of our friends have disappeared. Nowadays the only time we socialize is dinner with our parents.
I'm hoping we can take one or two short trips once baby gets here. I'm really anxious about finding things to do with baby every day so I don't lose my mind being a SAHM. Definitely looking forward to next summer when we can take our little to the beach and stuff!

AliKay20 · July 2016

I got past the fact that I won't be floating around on those big swan tubes this Summer.

Now I just want a bit of Fall - PUMPKIN SPICED LATTE & days leading up to Christmas!!

gadzooks_3 · July 2016

Now this is stuck in my head.

Bookhousegirl · July 2016

I definitely feel like I'm missing summer. I'm doing all the fun summer things like going to the beach, going to outdoor restaurants, just being outside, but mentally I feel like I'm rushing the summer along. My head is so focused on when LO gets here, that it's really hard for me to just be present!

kristynmac · July 2016

@AliKay20 same! I gave up on summer already and have lived in air conditioned bliss. I started shopping for fall clothes and dreaming of cool walks with the baby and a pumpkin spiced latte.

SkiChic626 · July 2016

I feel like I've been missing out on summer ever since DD came along lol. Days at the pool or beach are MUCH different than they used to be, and I don't spend nearly as much time outside or basking in the sun as I used to. I also used to be a lifeguard (i.e. getting paid to get a tan) and spent my summer's down the shore once I graduated college, so life has changed quite a bit. I'm looking forward to next week when I'll plop myself in a beach chair and let my family chase DD around the beach since I legit won't be able to do it. I'll take in as much of it as I can for 10 days and then DS will be here and it'll be back to sitting in the AC until October.

jamiesc58 · July 2016

I feel like this is the second summer I have been missing out on. Our dd was born last year in April so there was not really "outside time" for me as I didn't want to expose her to too much sun and heat. Now she is old enough to play outside but it is way too hot for this pregnant girl! The humidity makes it so much worse. I feel like I stick together in places I never knew existed. We have gone camping a few times but I have not been swimming once this summer yet.

Snaps816 · July 2016

DH and I went up to the mountains on Sunday, to an area where he likes to fish and we often go camping. There were so many groups of people camping together, or floating down the river in tubes/kayaks. While I appreciated the afternoon we got to spend hanging by the river, I was so jealous of those people doing the more exciting activities! Floating the river looked like so much fun, and the smell of campfires and camp food made me wish we were spending the night, too. I know that we'll be back to camping next summer if we want, but it will be so different with a toddler to look after! Floating the river is probably not going to happen for many years, when this LO and any subsequent siblings can swim.

So I also feel like I'm missing out on summer, but I blame myself for part of that because I'm not really living in the moment. My mind is on my due date and I'm just kind of counting down until then.But also, it's just hard to enjoy the usual activities when I'm so big and it's hard to get around. Like to get to the spot where we were on Sunday, we had to hike up and over a little hill, which normally would not be a challenge, but I was huffing and puffing and had to take several breaks! And the only bathroom was by the trailhead and I refused to make that trek back just to pee, so I held it the whole time. I just feel so out of shape. And not being able to drink kinda sucks, too. Summer to me normally means enjoying a nice cold glass of white wine (or 3) while sitting outside -- not this year!!

But I think this is a good transition year for us, because summers are going to be permanently different from here on out. We won't be spending weekend days out in the sun day drinking or up until the wee hours with friends once we have a kid. Activities like camping, boating, etc will be a lot different when we have to keep our son safe and entertained. So I guess for now I should at least enjoy the quiet time, even if it is indoors with the AC blasting and a non-alcoholic beverage to sip on!

SkiChic626 · July 2016

@Snaps816 Floating the river sounds like such a nice relaxing thing! Maybe you could strap a life jacket on LO next year and do it! That actually sounds like something I would do while pregnant, but maybe it's different than what I'm picturing as floating the river lol. I'm thinking of the times when I'd done it down the Delaware, and it's very tame - you're literally just floating in an inner tube moreorless - totally doable while pregnant!

MamaKSquared · July 2016

I don't feel like I'm missing out much. I actually feel like the summer is flying by. Of course, I would love to go on a vacation, but we took a babymoon when I was 23 weeks and the flight made me miserable. We've taken a 5ish hour road trip to visit friends and the long ride was just as miserable, so I know vacation wouldn't be as enjoyable. Instead, we're planning to do something in the fall once the LO arrives. I'm also just enjoying the AC. It's just too hot to enjoy being outside right now. We're close enough to the beach to take a day trip, but I really don't think it would be very enjoyable.

AliKay20 · July 2016

We did lazy river tubing last 4th of July wknd and while I loved being out in the sun just floating down Shenandoah river, I couldn't imagine being on a tube for couple of hours in the sun while sporting a huge bump. Uncomfortable all around & the heat would literally kill me!!

WinnieLou82 · July 2016

If you mean missing out as in no Summer Shandy - yes, definitely!

MamaKSquared · July 2016

@Snaps816 - a trip to the mountains is something I do really think I would enjoy since it's much cooler than the beach! Unfortunately, that's about 5 hours from us and 5 hours in the car is one of the least relaxing things I can think of right now. :-/ DH and some friends went tubing the day I had my baby shower and I may have been a little jealous.

kwilliams3402 · July 2016

I more so feel bad that husband is missing out on summer. He loves the heat, and as much as I tell him to go outside and enjoy it, he's more interested in keeping me company, so we are both living in the AC. The only thing I am really missing this summer is trips to the beach, but at 3.5 hours away, and the fact that I swell up and feel miserable outside lately, no amount of soaking in the gulf sounds appealing. We're looking forward to taking baby to the beach next summer!

searchingforameaning · July 2016

summer, what summer? I had high expectations. I bought a swimsuit in January that still has the tags on it. this has been my hardest pregnancy yet. Can't take the heat. hurts to walk, move, etc. So sleepy all the time. Summer will be over and it will feel like it was never here.

Stephanie7693 · July 2016

New summer disappointment came up today... Sat out at the pool with my kids for a couple hours today, nothing unusual. Just hanging in my chair with my feet in the water. After a while I realized my feet were super swollen. Had to get in the ac and put my feet up

every day is getting harder to just enjoy being outside. Hopefully we only have a couple weeks left!

Curls919 · July 2016

I will say, being on modified bedrest (aka "limited activity) has actually let me enjoy this summer more. We've gone to the beach several times and DH has basically told me I should just sit in the beach chair and relax while he plays/runs around with DS. I could get used to that!

kiwico14 · July 2016

DH promised way back in March that we would get at least one camping trip in before this baby arrives. Well, we've spent nearly every weekend going yard work, hanging out with family, or cleaning the house. I kept pushing it until the middle of June, when the doctor put me on travel restrictions, so then camping was totally out. Turns out DH had been stalling on purpose because he was afraid I'd pop while we were in the mountains. (Big eye roll.)

Ya Never Know · July 2016

I have been feeling this way too. I took this week off with my daughter (4) because it's the last chance we'll have to hang out and do things before the baby comes. We've been going to the beach a lot and that's been awesome, but I'm cranky most of the time and tire out so fast. I really would have liked to take her camping this year, but I really just don't think I can do it, my hips ache all night long in a comfy bed, can't imagine how sore I'd be sleeping on the ground... I'm just waiting impatiently at this point, I want my body back. So hard to do the things I normally do with my daughter right now.

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