I'm new to all this, but I need to get this out. It's a bit long. My father in law completely irritates/ creeps me out. He thinks entirely too high of himself, and his own wife has described him as a "male chauvinist pig". When I first met him, we lived in different states and I went with my man to meet them. We were only dating a few months at this point. My FIL, M, picked me up from the airport and started asking all these questions. "How many kids do You want", "what first attracted you to my son?" I tried to answer politely, but it was strange. He went on and on about how everyone thinks his son is so much like him. Everyone loves him. He decides to take me to his work place (he works at a university) to show me the campus and tell me all about his job. While staying at my in laws house He and I would usually be the early birds, so we would sit and have coffee. No big deal, I thought. Until he started referring to us as "coffee buddies". After the visit he would email me a few times a month telling me how much he missed his coffee buddy. Or the subject line would say "thinking of you". I tried to talk to my man about it, but he idolizes his dad and it was almost impossible for him to see my side. At my SILs wedding M got very very drunk and while we were sitting next to each other he leaned over and started playing with my hair, rubbing my back, and being genuinely creepy. I was so uncomfortable and kept looking around the room for someone to acknowledge what was going on, but no one seemed to notice. I excused my self from the group and went to my room where I immediately took a shower. The next day my SIL made a comment about how she was about to "save" me from M, but then she said "that's just dad being dad". When I brought it all up to my man about how uncomfortable I was he began defending his dad. The whole situation almost ended our relationship. Eventually he admitted he was embarrassed by his dad's actions and would talk to him. Ever since then I keep my distance. He still emails and texts, but I try to keep it as short and to the point as possible. We have now moved back to my husbands hometown and his parents live down the road from us. I don't see them often, but with a baby coming, and it's a girl, I'm nervous about how he will be with her. He is already saying she will be the homecoming queen because she will be so beautiful "just look at her mother" and all this stuff. He even sent me an email recently stating (in bullet points) how he will be as her grandfather. All these outings and things he would like to do with her. It's just so weird, who does that?! I'm not sure how to handle all of it, but it's becoming harder and harder not to lose it at family functions when he starts creeping me out. If anyone has any advice or has been through a similar situation, I will take all the help I can get!