Well I started spotting on Tuesday and by last night it was heavy and red and I was having (bad) cramps. Midwife had me come in this morning. She did a pelvic exam and was pretty reassuring. Then she had me go for an ultrasound for dating and to check the heartbeat.
The ultrasound tech put the probe on my tummy and moved it around a bit. Then she goes "are you sure you're pregnant? there's nothing in there" (her tone was SO RUDE!!) Cue the ugly crying. I was like yeah, I had an ultrasound at 8 weeks and we saw the heartbeat and saw it moving around. It was there. I'm so pissed about her lack of compassion. But yeah, I lost it.
Anyway it's been fun chatting with you all. I wish you and your babies nothing but the best!
31 years young from Seattle(ish) 5 years married FTM and PGAL EDD is 12/23/17 -- It's a BOY! ---
Oh @moonlady I'm so very sorry. I know there are no words of comfort but you're in my thoughts. I will tell you that the Miscarriage/Loss board and Trying to Conceive after Loss board here on the bump are an amazing resource with some of the absolute best women contributing. Please take care of yourself. Hugs your way.
I am so so sorry @moonlady - both that you lost your baby and had such an asshat of a tech. I wish I had something I could say something that would help but I know from experience there really isn't anything except this sucks and I hate it for you. My advice is to just let yourself grieve anyway that helps. Don't give in to pressure to feel a certain way or to "be over it" until you feel better. It may not seem like it now, but it will get better.
@moonlady so very sorry for your loss, and that the U/S tech wasn't more compassionate. Thoughts and prayers are with you to help you and your loved ones during this time.
@moonlady I'm so sorry And what an awful way for someone to deliver that news. Sending good thoughts your way, seconding @cjs260's suggestion too--the Miscarriage/Loss board is an incredible community as is TTCAL.
@moonlady, you are in my thoughts and prayers, and I am so, so sorry you had to deal with that insensitivity this morning. May you find peace and solace in the other resources mentioned, and be kind to yourself in these days to come. xo
What devastating news.. I am so sorry for your loss! I'll be praying for you to heal from this, physically and emotionally, and that you'll have lots of support & be able to find resources to help you through this difficult time. When you're ready, report that awful tech to her superior for her demeaning and insensitive attitude. You didn't deserve to be treated so horribly, and neither does anyone else!
I am so, so sorry for your loss and the treatment you had to endure @moonlady. I also recommend the loss boards; the people over there are incredibly compassionate and wonderful to talk to during such a difficult time. Sending you lots of positive thoughts and hugs.
@moonlady I'm so incredibly sorry for your loss and that you had to deal with not only that but also an incredibly rude person. My thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time.
I am so sorry to hear this, and to see how you were treated. Hugs to you.
Married 10/4/2014 (10-4, good buddy!) Baby Boy #1 born 1/9/17 Baby Boy #2 EDD 11/4/18
"It's when you know you're licked before you begin, but you begin anyway and see it through no matter what. You rarely win, but sometimes you do." -Atticus Finch, To Kill A Mockingbird
Re: Bad news (tw, loss)
BFP1 12/24/14 - EDD 09/07/15 (D/C 8w1d)
BFP2 6/12/15 - EDD 2/22/16 (D/C 10w3d)
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Diagnoses and Treatments
PCOS (myo-inositol, excercize)
Indeterminant levels of APS IgM antibodies (baby aspirin)
Sub-septate uterus (hysteroscopic septoplasty 12/18/15)
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BFP3 05/02/16 EDD 01/09/17 DS born 01/05/17
BFP4 01/28/19 EDD 10/?/19 🤞🙏
Due 1/21/17
Me: 26 DH: 29 Married 8/4/2012
BFP #1 8/20/2013 | EDD 5/4/2014 | MMC 10/2/2013 9w3d | D&C 10/8/2013
BFP #2 2/8/2014 (kinda) EDD 10/29/2014 | DS Born 10/8/2014
TTCAL 11/2015 BFP #3 5/12/16 | EDD Jan 2017
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DS1 - 03/31/2006
DS2 - 12/31/2008
DS3 - 06/26/2012
DS4 - 08/07/2014
***TW****MC mentioned & BFP mentioned***
TTC#1 since July 2014
AMH 0.1, DOR, Poor responder
Moved to Prague, Czech Republic for IVF
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March trip to Prague canceled due to Pancreatitis.
Headed to Prague April 30
3 different donors resulted in 1 PGS tested embryo and 1 fresh embryo
BFP on 5/15/16 at 5dp5dt
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DS born 9/4/12
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Baby Boy #1 born 1/9/17
Baby Boy #2 EDD 11/4/18