The hairdryer is magic for my kiddo and calms him when nothing else will. (He also loves getting his hair blow-dried after his baths! Puts him right to sleep)
Mine loves being worn, it's the only way I can get him to sleep when he's in the midst of an overtired screamfest. He also really likes being bounced, especially when I put music on. For some reason even when nothing else can get him to stop yelling if I put on a song and dance him around he will always stop and listen to the music.
I feel bad because you haven't got a response. I have no clue how to help. I just want to encourage you to hang in there. If you need a break, sit LO somewhere safe and scream, cry, breathe, pray, whatever you need to do in order to stay healthy and sane yourself. Mom life is challenging but it'll get better. We swaddle, sing, dim the lights, play white noise, and rock when our LO is fussy.
We often do some combination of what @Charla1224 suggested. If it doesn't work, sometimes going outside helps. Try different bouncing/swaying/rocking motions for a few minutes at a time. You might stumble upon one that your baby likes.
When he's really upset and not wanting to nurse either, mine tends to like being held close with his head on my shoulder and either bouncing or with me rotating my torso side to side with rhythmic shushing like: shu-shu-shu-shu-shuuuu pause then repeat.
Lurker from July, but with my son, we used this white noise we found on YouTube called Baby Got Colic. It is absolutely obnoxious to our adult ears, but he LOVED it and would settle down. Look it up; it's worth a try!
If the crying is happening often and regularly and inexplicably, it might be purple crying. Which means it is going to suck for a few months, and then disappear, but there is nothing wrong with your baby or you. All you can do is try to soothe the baby (it helps, even if the baby is still crying), and to recognize that it is not your fault. Take time for yourself, even if it means just letting her cry in another room; get other folks to watch her during her bad times; and remember, sometimes babies just cry. If there is nothing wrong, she might just need to cry.
We learned about the "period of PURPLE crying" in my childbirth/newborn basics class, and it sounds like this might be your situation.
Hold in different positions (ours currently prefers to be held with his tummy against our chests (has some gas issues that this helps resolve)), try feeding (is LO gaining enough? We had to switch to pumping and bottle feeding -LO wasn't eating enough by his efforts at breastfeeding and was fussing frequently), the loud sushing works well, pacifiers, swaddling, carry baby around, take LO for ride in car (my dad swore by this for me), distracting LO with favorite toy, etc.
You might also want to reach out to your doctor to ensure that there are no underlying medical issues causing this.
I'm so sorry though! I can only imagine how you're feeling! I start getting horrible headaches when mine cries for more than 5 min. straight and I'm not typically prone to headaches.
Baby wearing and running the vacuum works for us (or the app I have that plays the vacuum noise). Either actually vacuum or pat LO's butt while the noise is going. Something about movement and obnoxious noises!
My LO is colicky also but is finally starting to get a bit better with how long she cries and we are finally finding ways to cope or to help her. Colic Calm ( as suggested to me by @doozer1345) has been helpful about 50% of the time. Gripe water and Infacol gas drops didn't do a thing. She loves to be propped up on my shoulder while I cup her butt in my hand and bop her up and down swiftly. Loud white noise has been a godsend. Sometimes just having that on will keep her from screaming. And of course sometimes none of these works. Usually when I'm about to explode I decide to take a shower to calm down and I put her in her bouncer seat and bring her in the bathroom with me. For some reason that always gets her to stop for the full duration of the shower. She will sit there calmly waiting for me to finish matter how long I take in there. Hope you find some things that work for you soon. It can be extremely frustrating to deal with.
Colic Calm, wearing, dance parties (in or out of the bouncer...and right now specifically to Grease music), shushing, white noise, bouncing, paci, and swaddle. Fortunately, there's a huge list of things to do. Unfortunately, only a few work and you won't know until you try them. Hugs!
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Re: Colicky baby fussy
I just want to encourage you to hang in there. If you need a break, sit LO somewhere safe and scream, cry, breathe, pray, whatever you need to do in order to stay healthy and sane yourself. Mom life is challenging but it'll get better.
We swaddle, sing, dim the lights, play white noise, and rock when our LO is fussy.
DD: 05/14/16
When he's really upset and not wanting to nurse either, mine tends to like being held close with his head on my shoulder and either bouncing or with me rotating my torso side to side with rhythmic shushing like: shu-shu-shu-shu-shuuuu pause then repeat.
Hugs! Hang in there!
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If the crying is happening often and regularly and inexplicably, it might be purple crying. Which means it is going to suck for a few months, and then disappear, but there is nothing wrong with your baby or you. All you can do is try to soothe the baby (it helps, even if the baby is still crying), and to recognize that it is not your fault. Take time for yourself, even if it means just letting her cry in another room; get other folks to watch her during her bad times; and remember, sometimes babies just cry. If there is nothing wrong, she might just need to cry.
We learned about the "period of PURPLE crying" in my childbirth/newborn basics class, and it sounds like this might be your situation.
You might also want to reach out to your doctor to ensure that there are no underlying medical issues causing this.
I'm so sorry though! I can only imagine how you're feeling! I start getting horrible headaches when mine cries for more than 5 min. straight and I'm not typically prone to headaches.
Been married since 2009.
Unicornuate Uterus (yes I menstruate glitter)
Several MCs
DD born 2013 (our miracle "you can't have babies" baby!)