Share Your Irrational Pregnancy Fears!

WinchesterGirl · June 2016

DH was laughing the other night, because he says I worry about all the wrong stuff. Surely I can't be the only one!

They can be silly or far out, what are your irrational pregnancy/delivery fears?

I'll start - yesterday, I was worried not that we might have twins at all, but that we might have twins of the same gender... because we can only agree on one name for each gender.

Xstatic3333 · June 2016

Mine is episiotomies, which is probably actually a pretty rational fear. It's probably the #1 reason I want to try for/prepare for unmedicated. In my head, this makes it less likely to occur unless absolutely medically necessary. I know I could be wrong about that, but it is what it is.

varimama · June 2016

I'm pretty scared that at my first ultrasound they'll tell me there is nothing there and that being pregnant was all in my head. Then I'll look at the pictures of my pregnancy tests on my phone and see they are all white and I was just delusional.

I'm also pretty worried about what will happen to my bajingo (I love Scrubs) after child birth. Sorry if this is TMI but I'm really tight and worried it either won't stretch or that it will stretch too much and DH won't want to have sex anymore...

WinchesterGirl · June 2016

@marriedhamstermom along the same lines of stretching, that whole "hip bones opening" thing kinda freaks me out. I am a very small person. There is not a lot of room down there!

MrsDramaK · June 2016

marriedhamstermom said:

I'm pretty scared that at my first ultrasound they'll tell me there is nothing there and that being pregnant was all in my head. Then I'll look at the pictures of my pregnancy tests on my phone and see they are all white and I was just delusional.

I'm also pretty worried about what will happen to my bajingo (I love Scrubs) after child birth. Sorry if this is TMI but I'm really tight and worried it either won't stretch or that it will stretch too much and DH won't want to have sex anymore...

Image: https://img.ifcdn.com/images/cc87c92b09da8ab12dde9a2426e0a9ef0772f7ab989b6d6cdb2118a41c7eff83_1.jpg

Love me some Scrubs, my Bestie and I call each other Gizmo and Chocolate Bear because we aspire to be JD and Turk every day of our lives.

varimama · June 2016

@WinchesterGirl yea that is also really scary. I know my mom's hips didn't turn out ever for me so she had to have an emergency C-Section because my heart beat stopped. We ended up both being OK but it's a scary thought. I have no clue if that is genetic or not. I hope not b/c if it is I probably have it. I basically got all the bad traits of both parents... haha

WinchesterGirl · June 2016

@marriedhamstermom My only hope is that I was a little 6 pound baby at full term... hopefully mine will likewise be non-gigantic.

varimama · June 2016

That is awesome @MrsDramaK!

ohstars · June 2016

I was on bed rest from 30w-34w last time and it made me feel so helpless. I go for my first appointment on Monday and I'm afraid they are going to put me on bed rest immediately. Even though nothing is wrong with me and I'm pretty sure people are rarely put on bed rest at 7w6d. I know I'm crazy but I can't be less crazy.

Vastra · June 2016

I have a cold right now and every time I sneeze I worry I'm squishing the (too small to be squishable) baby.

fourPsinapod · June 2016

I'm afraid that my snuggly cat is squishing the baby when he is kneading me.

momousekee · June 2016

I'm convinced I'm going to miss all of my OB appointments.

I was re-organizing my day today so that I could get to my afternoon intake appointment even though the fella has the car. That appointment is on Monday.

CherryBananas · June 2016

marriedhamstermom said:

I'm pretty scared that at my first ultrasound they'll tell me there is nothing there and that being pregnant was all in my head. Then I'll look at the pictures of my pregnancy tests on my phone and see they are all white and I was just delusional.

I'm also pretty worried about what will happen to my bajingo (I love Scrubs) after child birth. Sorry if this is TMI but I'm really tight and worried it either won't stretch or that it will stretch too much and DH won't want to have sex anymore...

Stuck in Box:

I could have typed this myself! I saw an episode of Law & Order SVU the other day where a lady had a huge belly and all the signs of being pregnant but it was all in her head. She thought she was pregnant so her body acted that way! Freaked me out.

Babymakes5! · June 2016

Add me to the fear of hysterical pregnancy list. I wanted a bfp so badly, and the first one was so faint and I was so desperate for it to get darker and be real. I'm worried its all in my head. And maybe I spotted because my body was like "time to have your period" and I willed it not to be true. I'm also worried about twins because I stupidly googled beta hcg by dpo, and mine was almost exactly the average for a twin pregnancy, and significantly higher than a singleton. But I realize, logically, beta #s really tell you nothing other than doubling time being a good indicator of what's going on. But that stupid chart is haunting me. I think the av at 18 dpo for twins was 1200 and mine was 1170. Not that twins would be awful, just more risk for complications.

CallMeLauraJane · June 2016

That my Zoloft usage is going to screw up my baby. Totally irrational.

migdala · June 2016

I have so many irrational fears ... starting with, I took Ella (didn't work, obv) and I'm scared it'll affect the baby even though NOTHING indicates that it will.

Plus for some reason I keep almost-convincing myself that this is either an ectopic pregnancy or that I'll go for my first appointment and there will be nothing there and it will all just have been a huge mistake.

poofwok · June 2016

Vastra said:

I have a cold right now and every time I sneeze I worry I'm squishing the (too small to be squishable) baby.

This is me but with coughing! I've had a pretty consistent dry cough for weeks and I silently apologize to the baby every time I cough.

catiecatp · June 2016

I've got enough leukorrhea that it makes me think I'm bleeding - I had a similar fear in my first pregnancy that ended in a MC (I'm about 6-7 days away from when the MC bleeding started).

I'm afraid DH won't find me attractive once I start showing.

I'm scared that I'll induce a MC with the pushing I do when constipated (we were saying irrational right?)

I'm scared something will go wrong with this pregnancy too and I won't be able to handle it.

angeltennis3 · June 2016

I am scared I am going to regret having a second child. I love our routine right now and am not that excited about that routine changing. I know I will love this new baby and we will adjust....but I honestly don't think it will be immediate for me.

PerraSucia · June 2016

I guess I'm irrationally scared ds2 won't be as amazing as ds1. My kid is so rad you guys. How can I make two badasses.

WinchesterGirl · June 2016

@migdala what is Ella?

@catiecatp I totally feel you on the not being attractive to DH when pregnant. I am already starting heavier than I'm comfortable with, and I just don't know how it is going to go as things progress. I'm worried the bump will be a turn off!

imalwaysme79 · June 2016

I'm worried that I'm going to have m/s while I'm at work and won't be able to get to a bathroom quick enough. There's approximately 75 people on my floor and only 2 bathrooms. What if I can't get into one fast enough?

mrslittlemac · June 2016

imalwaysme79 said:

I'm worried that I'm going to have m/s while I'm at work and won't be able to get to a bathroom quick enough. There's approximately 75 people on my floor and only 2 bathrooms. What if I can't get into one fast enough?

Same fear here! I have to make it across an entire sales floor without getting sidelined by customers, into the absolutely disgusting, vomit-inducing-in-their-own-right stalls. My fear isn't so much making it to the bathroom as much as it is what I'll be faced with when I get there. I've thought of making my own private barf bucket to tote around with me but sadly it's not really feasible. I probably will have business cards made up for if a customer tries to stop me on the way to getting sick though. "Hi, sorry I just ran away. I have an urgent matter to attend to but will be right with you in a few moments. Thanks for your patience!"

ohstars · June 2016

PerraSucia said:

I guess I'm irrationally scared ds2 won't be as amazing as ds1. My kid is so rad you guys. How can I make two badasses.

Totally this. My kid is the coolest. What if I don't even like the next one?

imalwaysme79 · June 2016

MrsLittleMac said:

imalwaysme79 said:

I'm worried that I'm going to have m/s while I'm at work and won't be able to get to a bathroom quick enough. There's approximately 75 people on my floor and only 2 bathrooms. What if I can't get into one fast enough?

Same fear here! I have to make it across an entire sales floor without getting sidelined by customers, into the absolutely disgusting, vomit-inducing-in-their-own-right stalls. My fear isn't so much making it to the bathroom as much as it is what I'll be faced with when I get there. I've thought of making my own private barf bucket to tote around with me but sadly it's not really feasible. I probably will have business cards made up for if a customer tries to stop me on the way to getting sick though. "Hi, sorry I just ran away. I have an urgent matter to attend to but will be right with you in a few moments. Thanks for your patience!"

Ugh that would be terrible. I'm really close to the bathroom but they're not always available. This is my number one fear right now.

WinchesterGirl · June 2016

The MS at work thing is a totally rational fear! I'm really worried I'm going to out myself at work accidentally due to MS.

Gingersnap · June 2016

PerraSucia said:

I guess I'm irrationally scared ds2 won't be as amazing as ds1. My kid is so rad you guys. How can I make two badasses.

This.
Then I wonder if I can handle another kid like her......She's........spirited.

momousekee · June 2016

MrsLittleMac said:
Same fear here! I have to make it across an entire sales floor without getting sidelined by customers, into the absolutely disgusting, vomit-inducing-in-their-own-right stalls. My fear isn't so much making it to the bathroom as much as it is what I'll be faced with when I get there. I've thought of making my own private barf bucket to tote around with me but sadly it's not really feasible. I probably will have business cards made up for if a customer tries to stop me on the way to getting sick though. "Hi, sorry I just ran away. I have an urgent matter to attend to but will be right with you in a few moments. Thanks for your patience!"

I'm probably going to out myself as the queen of "I can find that on the internet!" but, I came home from the hospital on Wednesday with a big pile of these. https://www.amazon.com/Medline-Emesis-Bags/dp/B005JOW9LA You twist the bag and slide it into the little notches to keep it closed like a bread bag.

In my first pregnancy, I'd vomit halfway between my car and the nearest bathroom - every morning like clockwork. This time I'll carry these in my pocket, especially since my walk is longer.

becks13-2 · June 2016

I think my big one right now is the idea of a missed miscarriage. I'd always heard of a miscarriage before(which is scary enough), but until I really started researching pregnancy I hadn't heard of "missing" such a thing. I am totally freaked out I will go for my first ultrasound and they'll tell me it was gone long ago, and I'll have never known. It really doesn't know that literally every close female friend I have who has either tried to get pregnant or had a baby, has had at least one miscarriage. Totally paranoid.

mrslittlemac · June 2016

momousekee said:

MrsLittleMac said:
Same fear here! I have to make it across an entire sales floor without getting sidelined by customers, into the absolutely disgusting, vomit-inducing-in-their-own-right stalls. My fear isn't so much making it to the bathroom as much as it is what I'll be faced with when I get there. I've thought of making my own private barf bucket to tote around with me but sadly it's not really feasible. I probably will have business cards made up for if a customer tries to stop me on the way to getting sick though. "Hi, sorry I just ran away. I have an urgent matter to attend to but will be right with you in a few moments. Thanks for your patience!"

I'm probably going to out myself as the queen of "I can find that on the internet!" but, I came home from the hospital on Wednesday with a big pile of these. https://www.amazon.com/Medline-Emesis-Bags/dp/B005JOW9LA You twist the bag and slide it into the little notches to keep it closed like a bread bag.

In my first pregnancy, I'd vomit halfway between my car and the nearest bathroom - every morning like clockwork. This time I'll carry these in my pocket, especially since my walk is longer.

I NEED THIS IN MY LIFE, YOU ARE A GODSEND!

L Jane · June 2016

I'm also worried about the idea of a missed miscarriage. I remember feeling this way at the beginning of my last pregnancy. I'm so worried I'll go to that first ultra sound and there won't be a heartbeat. That's part of the reason I have a hard time letting this pregnancy "sink in". It's always been such a relief to see the baby at that 7-8 week mark. I still have two weeks. Ahhhhh.

SSCmomma · June 2016

Xstatic3333 said:

Mine is episiotomies, which is probably actually a pretty rational fear. It's probably the #1 reason I want to try for/prepare for unmedicated. In my head, this makes it less likely to occur unless absolutely medically necessary. I know I could be wrong about that, but it is what it is.

Read up on Ina May Gaskin's Guide to Natural Childbirth

Xstatic3333 · June 2016

SSCmomma said:

Xstatic3333 said:

Mine is episiotomies, which is probably actually a pretty rational fear. It's probably the #1 reason I want to try for/prepare for unmedicated. In my head, this makes it less likely to occur unless absolutely medically necessary. I know I could be wrong about that, but it is what it is.

Read up on Ina May Gaskin's Guide to Natural Childbirth

Thanks! It's definitely on my to-read list. I figured I'd start around the second trimester. I'm also planning on the hypnobabies home study, and am with midwives who are very supportive of unmedicated births when medically safe.

varimama · June 2016

BeckS13 said:

I think my big one right now is the idea of a missed miscarriage. I'd always heard of a miscarriage before(which is scary enough), but until I really started researching pregnancy I hadn't heard of "missing" such a thing. I am totally freaked out I will go for my first ultrasound and they'll tell me it was gone long ago, and I'll have never known. It really doesn't know that literally every close female friend I have who has either tried to get pregnant or had a baby, has had at least one miscarriage. Totally paranoid.

Ok I guess I hadn't heard missing it was possible either. Up to now I've comforted myself bc I'd know if it happened. Now I'm terrified.

migdala · June 2016

WinchesterGirl said:

@migdala what is Ella?

@WinchesterGirl it's like Plan B but instead of flooding your system with progesterone, it inhibits it. I knew I had just ovulated so Plan B had zero chance of working, and if anything all that progesterone would just make my uterine lining even more hospitable for implantation.

So after explaining this to a bunch of triage nurses (it was a Sunday and nothing else was open) who kept pushing me to just take Plan B because "women never really know when they're ovulating" (I temp and had taken an ovulation test so yes I did know) I finally got a prescription for Ella. It usually works the same way Plan B does -- by delaying ovulation -- but it does it by inhibiting progesterone so there is some evidence that it can prevent implantation. But this little warrior hung in there! And I'm glad, because immediately after I took it I regretted it. It's not an abortion pill or anything like that because it just would work to prevent implantation, not flush an already-implanted egg, but it still felt wrong to me.

WinchesterGirl · June 2016

Learn something new every day, @migdala! I have never heard of that one.

@BeckS13 the MMC is definitely terrifying. I feel like this won't really be real until I see that little gummy bear with a heart beat.

MonaLisaRalphio · June 2016

@becks13 that's my biggest fear, too. I'm on the countdown until that first ultrasound. 12 days to go, and it feels like an eternity.

runnermom04 · June 2016

Every time I get a tiny pain on either side of my stomach I automatically think it must be an ectopic and that the pain will get worse(it doesn't ever)

I'm always afraid to look when I wipe in the bathroom for fear of blood.

worried about how we're going to manage with two kids(I guess that's normal going from one torso though)

yogadevil · June 2016

Beyond my normal fears of a MMC or having something legit wrong with my pregnancy...

(TMI?)

My irrational fear is sex. I have the weirdest combo of extreme nausea and absolute hormone-sex-ragey moments. DH comes home soonish from 5 weeks away and I swear I can already smell his testosterone from a few thousand miles away... I fear that I'll be the type to bleed after sex or something and be put on pelvic rest for the duration of pregnancy. I worry that somehow having sex will put me at risk but I don't want to be so worried that I insist upon abstinence and make both of us suffer if everythings going to be fine

emilykathryn86 · June 2016

Mine is throwing up. I've puked MAYBE 3 times since the third grade so I am terrified of this nausea turning into vomit.

MrsDramaK · June 2016

I'm afraid flying at 5 weeks pregnant might have done something to the baby.

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