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September 2015 Moms
rebekahrathe
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2 share or not 2 share...questions for second time moms!
rebekahrathe
member
hey! So I'm due in November with baby #2 and found out we are having another girl! My questions is we have the option for them to have their own rooms but I also like the idea of them sharing, I shared with my sister growing up and loved it! Baby #2 will be with us for the first 4 months. My hubby is concerned they will wake each other up. I wanted to hear your thoughts...thank you!!
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ElleMF728 member
I would love my boys to share when they are older. Not so much right now. DS2 still wakes once a night and I can't imagine having to soothe them both. Also, my 2 year old wakes every few nights and God Forbid he woke the baby lol.
Toddlers tend to have different nap schedules, different (louder) bedtime routines, plus I kind of love when my older son wakes up in the morning and we have a little quiet time to ourselves before DS2 wakes up. I don't think that would happen as often if they shared a room.
Another thing to think about. While we didn't need to sleep train DS1 (not really, gentle methods worked fine) we did need to use Ferber with DS2. It can be tough logistics to sleep train baby when LO shares a room with big brother or sister. Frequently, the solution is that the older sibling shares with mom and dad for a few nights which can be a bit confusing.
In the end I think its doable but probably not ideal (at least in my situation) until they are more like 2 and 4. - Loading the player...
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ForeverEverAfter member
Our girls will share a room. We put the crib in our bedroom for now, and she sleeps well, so she'll stay with us until she's down to one feeding (I BF, and I'm a heavy sleeper, so its easiest to have her close). DD1's room has 2 twins; hers on a frame, and the other mattress is on the floor in a corner. I used to lay LO there for naps before she got used to her crib. She'll transition to that in the fall. DD1 really wants to share, and is a heavy sleeper, so I hope it works out! We have 2 spare rooms, but they have no closets and barely fit a bed, where the room they'll share is gigantic with a large walk in closet. We haven't needed to CIO with either child, but I didn't want to risk waking DD1 by going in multiple times to feed LO, etc.
