I'm 25 wks 4 days pregnant. Well, recently I found out my sister is also pregnant. She is 16 wks and some days. I'm mad because my sister is supposed to host my baby shower which is July 9th and she might steal the spotlight. I didn't congratulate her. I just said this is supposed to be my moment. For goodness sakes she has an 1 1/2 year old who isn't potty trained. He didn't have no time to be the baby. I'm I being selfish and mean?
I'm 25 wks 4 days pregnant. Well, recently I found out my sister is also pregnant. She is 16 wks and some days. I'm mad because my sister is supposed to host my baby shower which is July 9th and she might steal the spotlight. I didn't congratulate her. I just said this is supposed to be my moment. For goodness sakes she has an 1 1/2 year old who isn't potty trained. He didn't have no time to be the baby. I'm I being selfish and mean?
You should apologize and congratulate her. Just because she's also pregnant doesn't mean she will steal the spotlight at your baby shower.
Selfish doesn't even begins to sum it up.....wow. Try being happy for her that competitive spirit against your own sister is beyond mean. Celebrate with her.....the world doesn't revolve around you. YouR jealousy issue is going to ruin your relationship, maybe her other child has challenges, instead of bashing her kid on top of it, try helping.
Also, all 1.5 year olds have to be potty trained in order for their parents to have another child? News to me. Good luck potty training your baby. I'm sure they'll be wizzing in the toilet by 8 months.
..... what an awkward thing!!! How terrible for you! How dare someone else bring a beautiful child into the world within months of you! (Sarcasm)
But seriously, my sil was pregnant with her 3rd and my husband's sister was pregnant with her first when we finally conceived. They were extremely happy for us. No one took it personally and we all enjoyed asking each other questions about how pregnancy was going and trading tips we learned.... that's what family does. And fair warning, I think there may be pregnant women on this site, too!!! Possible thunder stealers!
No I agree with you OP. How dare other people live their lives while you're pregnant?! Don't they know they are supposed to put everything on hold for you? What's wrong with people?!?!
Seriously though, you're being extremely selfish and immature. If I were your sister I would not even throw you a shower. And LMFAO that you think a 1.5 should be potty trained. Thank you for the laugh though.
Yes. The answer is yes. You are being selfish and mean. Just because you are pregnant does not mean that others around you are not allowed to conceive. You SHOULD be happy for your sister. Also, who cares if she steals the spotlight at your shower? Are you going to have her keep her pregnancy a secret at your shower so no one can congratulate her? My SIL is due 8 weeks after me and I'm ecstatic that we'll have boys so close in age and she's been an invaluable resource since this is my first and it's nice to have someone so close that you can relate to and experience this with. AND - she threw my baby shower and it was great. You should be happy she's pregnant and hope everything is good and healthy and be thankful that she is throwing you a baby shower - she doesn't have to. Also, my SIL has a 3 yr old that is just now potty training, so what's your point about that?
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Yes. You are being incredibly selfish and I hope your sister realizes how rude you are being and doesn't throw you a baby shower unless you can pull yourself together. Seriously OP. I would also recommend reading some parenting books so you have real expectations of your child
Well I guess I'm a cruddy parent...I'm 23 weeks pregnant and my 2 year old refuses to PT right now no matter what I do. I guess I should just call CPS now. I mean, GEEZE.
OP-- just curious-- how many toddlers have you actually potty trained? How many children do you have?
Also, its incredibly petty and selfish to presume that no one else is allowed to be pregnant during the 40 some odd weeks that you will be gestating. You can still "have your moment" when you give birth and at your shower. Your sister is allowed to get pregnant whenever she feels like it and does NOT need approval from anyone else.
Goodness this cannot be real! You need to congratulate your sister she is allowed to live her life and honestly her two will be very common age gap between them. So no she isn't trying to steal the spotlight. She is even going to host a shower for you while pregnant and that is some serious love right there. You need to adjust your perception now
Seriously? Like, seriously? So what if she's pregnant too? Why is no one at your shower allowed to also be pregnant?
So what if she has a 1.5 year old? Many parents space their kids 18-24 months apart so they're close in age, that's totally normal and doesn't take way from the first child being able to "be the baby".
You need to apologize to you sister and congratulate her on her pregnancy like an adult and be grateful if she decides to still throw you a shower despite your rudeness.
This is totally rediculous. Yes you are being selfish and mean. And it sounds like you have a jealousy issue. Suck it up. Btw 18 months would be very young to be toilet trained, so if you manage to do it, make sure you come back and give us all pointers
Is this real? Seriously? This isn't a show, you are not the star. Get over it.
I feel had for your sister. I can guess why she didn't tell you she was pregnant until 16 weeks. Which means she got pregnant while you were still in the first Tri.
Also, I tell this to my 5 year old almost daily 'the world doesn't center around you. You don't have to be the center of attention '.
Sooo she's supposed to put her life on hold for 40 weeks and wear a chastity belt? Even if she did, I'm sure she'd be "stealing the thunder" of your kid's 1st birthday party or something. Can you imagine if the situation were reversed and you found out she made this rant about you? Come on.
It's fun to have someone to be pregnant with. I wish my sister and I were closer in age so that our kids would also be closer in age but her youngest will be 6 years older than my oldest.
I hope her new baby beats your baby at potty training. lol.
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Your sister sounds like a total bitch. She obviously got pregnant specifically to steal YOUR thunder at YOUR shower. What a cow. You should potty train your kid at like 10 months just to spite her.
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Playing the devils advocate.....OP, idk your situation or your relationship with your sister but I know some family relationships can be complicated. My SIL's are incredibly selfish people, and always steal the spotlight no matter what the occasion is, they find a way to make it ALL about them. For example, during my wedding they invited a bunch of THEIR friends - some of whom I never even met - including some of my DH's EX GIRLFRIENDS! WTF?!?!?!??! So I get your angst. But holding a grudge or being pissy just makes YOU look like the bad guy. Congratulate her, thank her for throwing you a baby shower, enjoy YOUR gifts and if she does make it all about herself just ignore it and schedule a spa day with your girlfriends later, get mani/pedi's, have lunch and vent about it with them.
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Congratulate her, I'd imagine if she's throwing you a shower that you guys normally get along. . I really enjoyed being pregnant at the same time as my sister, and it's really nice to be able to talk to someone going through the same stages. I recently found out my cousin is pregnant with her first, and I'm excited to have another family member to share with, and have a buddy for my kids at family events.
I get feeling like you won't be "the star of the show" but that is no way to act. she is your sister. so what if she has another baby? you are being entirely selfish. you are allowed to have feelings but that was very rude of you to act like a 14 year old girl. apologize.
Playing the devils advocate.....OP, idk your situation or your relationship with your sister but I know some family relationships can be complicated. My SIL's are incredibly selfish people, and always steal the spotlight no matter what the occasion is, they find a way to make it ALL about them. For example, during my wedding they invited a bunch of THEIR friends - some of whom I never even met - including some of my DH's EX GIRLFRIENDS! WTF?!?!?!??! So I get your angst. But holding a grudge or being pissy just makes YOU look like the bad guy. Congratulate her, thank her for throwing you a baby shower, enjoy YOUR gifts and if she does make it all about herself just ignore it and schedule a spa day with your girlfriends later, get mani/pedi's, have lunch and vent about it with them.
I'm so late to this thread and couldn't agree more with what everyone else has already said. I'm just imagining what's going to happen when it's the sister's time to have a baby shower--is OP going to throw it for her? How far along will OP be and is she not going to "steal the show" from her sister? It goes both ways.
I'm pregnant and have a 1.5 year old who isn't potty trained. I am also trying to steal your spotlight and ruin your pregnancy. So...can you send me the details on that baby shower or what?
I'm sorry but WHAT? I don't have a sister bit my cousin who is like my sister got pregnant 8 weeks exactly after me. Our 7 year old are best friends just like her and I were maybe you should shut your hole say sorry and realize you are crazy as he'll to think she stole anything from you!
Also boys are NOT easy to potty train they are little pissed machine's I hope you have a son and see just how hard it is. Enjoy the random pissed puddles all over the place!
So I've been on the receiving end of this situation and let me tell you that it hurts. My SIL and I are very close, and she knew we were having a hard time conceiving. She had just been married a few weeks and was starting to try with her new husband (mind you I had been trying since before they even started dating). When we told everyone we were pregnant at Thanksgiving, she stormed out of the house. She apologized, and she became pregnant four weeks later. Could I have been bitter? I guess but what's the point. She apologized, and I accepted it. We dropped it. Now our daughters are 5 years old and the very best of friends. My daughter always talks about how much she loves her cousin, and my SIL and I became best friends. Moral of the story, this is a blessing that your children will be so close in age and you have family. Enjoy having someone to share this experience with.
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But seriously...HOW DARE YOUR SISTER GET PREGNANT. I MEAN, I'M SURE SHE JUST DID THAT TO SPITE YOU.
You are being a baby. Better buck up, buttercup.
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But seriously, my sil was pregnant with her 3rd and my husband's sister was pregnant with her first when we finally conceived. They were extremely happy for us. No one took it personally and we all enjoyed asking each other questions about how pregnancy was going and trading tips we learned.... that's what family does.
And fair warning, I think there may be pregnant women on this site, too!!! Possible thunder stealers!
Why don't you check yourself and be happy that your LO will have a cousin so close in age?
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Seriously though, you're being extremely selfish and immature. If I were your sister I would not even throw you a shower. And LMFAO that you think a 1.5 should be potty trained. Thank you for the laugh though.
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OP-- just curious-- how many toddlers have you actually potty trained? How many children do you have?
Also, its incredibly petty and selfish to presume that no one else is allowed to be pregnant during the 40 some odd weeks that you will be gestating. You can still "have your moment" when you give birth and at your shower. Your sister is allowed to get pregnant whenever she feels like it and does NOT need approval from anyone else.
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the spotlight. She is even going to host a shower for you while pregnant and that is some serious love right there. You need to adjust your perception now
So what if she has a 1.5 year old? Many parents space their kids 18-24 months apart so they're close in age, that's totally normal and doesn't take way from the first child being able to "be the baby".
You need to apologize to you sister and congratulate her on her pregnancy like an adult and be grateful if she decides to still throw you a shower despite your rudeness.
I feel had for your sister. I can guess why she didn't tell you she was pregnant until 16 weeks. Which means she got pregnant while you were still in the first Tri.
Also, I tell this to my 5 year old almost daily 'the world doesn't center around you. You don't have to be the center of attention '.
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It's fun to have someone to be pregnant with. I wish my sister and I were closer in age so that our kids would also be closer in age but her youngest will be 6 years older than my oldest.
I hope her new baby beats your baby at potty training. lol.
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That age gap between kids is totally normal too.
It's fine to feel jealous but posting about it on the internet in a public forum is not the smartest way to handle that jealousy.
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Also boys are NOT easy to potty train they are little pissed machine's I hope you have a son and see just how hard it is. Enjoy the random pissed puddles all over the place!