Our admin assistant. She's such a nice person, and she's going through a lot so I'm a bit of a twatwaffle for being annoyed, but she keeps messing up invoices to our clients and vendors and I get stuck apologizing for it. Yesterday I learned that a simple correction to an invoice that one client requested went ignored in her inbox for over two weeks since I wasn't CC'd, delaying payment and annoying them. I've tried to cover for her since she's currently at risk of losing her house, but yesterday I finally had to loop my supervisor in to what's been happening since it's putting one of our biggest agreements, and therefore my job, at risk. ARRRGGHHHHHH.
As much as I absolutely love my mom. I'm beyond pissed she told all seven of her sisters, my grandma and everyone she works with. I get that she's excited but still. Let me tell people.
My MIL - she's upset we're moving far away and how much nicer it would have been if I'd gotten the other job I interviewed for last year. Well yes, that would have been lovely but they didn't make an offer - which is beyond my control. Plus, you used to live about a 7 hour drive away and now you're a short airplane trip (direct, no connections) and you've visited once in 10 years... Just because we're now TTC doesn't mean you get to suddenly be involved in our lives. You should want to be involved more regardless.
Not a huge rant, but there will be more coming - I'm sure MIL will have all of the opinions once she knows I'm KU.
---TW BFP and MC mentioned - scroll down past the Lilo and Stitch gif to avoid ---
My exhaustion. It leaves me incapable of doing anything productive. I feel terrible the days DD is home with me because she doesn't get to do fun things like she does at daycare. I am the worst sahm ever.
My MIL - she's upset we're moving far away and how much nicer it would have been if I'd gotten the other job I interviewed for last year. Well yes, that would have been lovely but they didn't make an offer - which is beyond my control. Plus, you used to live about a 7 hour drive away and now you're a short airplane trip (direct, no connections) and you've visited once in 10 years... Just because we're now TTC doesn't mean you get to suddenly be involved in our lives. You should want to be involved more regardless.
Oh yes. We lived one hour away from MIL for 4 years. She didn't visit once. When I got pregnant with DD and we told her we were moving to Boston? OMG the guilt trip. Guess who hasn't visited once in the past 3 years? Or looked at the google drive photo albums of DD we made for all grandparents (and my parents, incidentally, gush over all the time)?
We're moving back closer to her at the end of summer, and as much as I know I should go and visit her, I really, really don't want to.
Mine is not my MIL but my own mother. When I miscarried last Oct. she said "this is why I didn't want to know so early."
TBH, she said this after saying a bunch of nice things, and she did realize it was not the right thing to say and try to take it back, but...she said it.
So, now I'm 7 week and she's coming to visit this weekend, and I'm not gonna be able to fake drinking beer the whole time she's here, so she's gonna have to find out. And the weird thing is, we're really close. We talk on the phone a couple times a week. Every time she asks me what's going on, I think "I'm pregnant! oh wait..." Daggers, I tell ya. I'm throwing metaphorical daggers.
My mom. She's being soooo ridiculous and manipulative and isn't worth mine or my sister's time anymore. She doesn't know I'm pregnant and probably won't. And I won't see her the next time we drive 6 freaking hours to see family. I'm over her crap.
I'm so scared to tell my mom because I'm afraid she will say something similarly insensitive if anything happens to my baby. When I was first diagnosed with cancer 5 years ago she cried in front of the doctor and made a huge deal but when it was just us she told me I deserved it since I stopped believing in god. She has since apologized but I'm sorry you can't take something like that back. Now she likes to announce to every stranger that will listen to her when we are together that her prayers saved me (literally she does this standing in lines at stores and stuff...) and I don't want her to go around claiming she also saved my baby if everything goes well.
I have nothing against any religion, I think it's great when people find something that pulls them together like that and when people can use it to help and support people. I do have a problem with people like my mother who use it as an excuse to judge, gossip, and spew hatred.
Me: 33 | DH: 34 Married: October, 19, 2015 EDD 2/22/17 DS1 born on 3/2/17 EDD 3/8/20 DS2 born on 3/10/20 EDD 11/24/23 (Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
I'm so scared to tell my mom because I'm afraid she will say something similarly insensitive if anything happens to my baby. When I was first diagnosed with cancer 5 years ago she cried in front of the doctor and made a huge deal but when it was just us she told me I deserved it since I stopped believing in god. She has since apologized but I'm sorry you can't take something like that back. Now she likes to announce to every stranger that will listen to her when we are together that her prayers saved me (literally she does this standing in lines at stores and stuff...) and I don't want her to go around claiming she also saved my baby if everything goes well.
As a Christian myself, I'm pretty sure Jesus did not give you cancer because you are not a believer. That's not how it works.. Sorry, mom!
What a crappy thing to say. Ew! I'm sorry It is people like that who give Christians a bad rap.
So we announced our pregnancy to our parents and siblings this weekend. well, someone decided to take it upon themselves to announce our news to grandparents, aunts and family friends at a BBQ that we weren't at. I am really annoyed because that was our news to share.
So we announced our pregnancy to our parents and siblings this weekend. well, someone decided to take it upon themselves to announce our news to grandparents, aunts and family friends at a BBQ that we weren't at. I am really annoyed because that was our news to share.
H's cousin strikes once again. She and her husband are throwing their 11 year old a birthday party and have asked all the guests to contribute in bringing food and drinks (like a pot luck). I've never heard of people going about throwing their child a birthday party this way...
So, now we're expected to supply food and bring a gift. I honestly don't know if this just makes me sound cheap but normally if you're throwing a birthday party for your child, you're responsible for supplying all the food..??
Ugh.
************* First BFP: 12/16/13 EDD: 08/23/14 Baby BOY born: 08/29/14
Hearing about everyone's shitty moms makes me at least feel better that I'm not the only one. I don't actually have a recent story, because I keep her at arm's length now.
My favorite story involves her calling me fat in front of the 50 people she made me invite to her (sorry, MY) baby shower.
The funny thing is, I was standing in between her and my MIL, and my MIL whispered "If you're fat, at least you have a reason, we're just fat," because while I don't like calling people fat (WHO does that?), my mother and MIL are both bigger ladies, and I can assure you, at 40W3D pregnant, I did not come close to either of them in size.
****TW: Pregnancy, loss and children mentioned**** Me: 35 DH: 38 | Married: 6/2013 | Pregnancy #1, APurp born 10/2014
Pregnancy #2, BFP 6/4/2016, MMC at 9W, D&E: 7/21/16 | Pregnancy #3, BFP 11/22/16
I'm so scared to tell my mom because I'm afraid she will say something similarly insensitive if anything happens to my baby. When I was first diagnosed with cancer 5 years ago she cried in front of the doctor and made a huge deal but when it was just us she told me I deserved it since I stopped believing in god. She has since apologized but I'm sorry you can't take something like that back. Now she likes to announce to every stranger that will listen to her when we are together that her prayers saved me (literally she does this standing in lines at stores and stuff...) and I don't want her to go around claiming she also saved my baby if everything goes well.
As a Christian myself, I'm pretty sure Jesus did not give you cancer because you are not a believer. That's not how it works.. Sorry, mom!
What a crappy thing to say. Ew! I'm sorry It is people like that who give Christians a bad rap.
@marriedhamstermom that is awful for anyone to say but your mom, that's so much worse.
I usually hear about all of the incredibly supportive moms but I fit in more with people who have less than supportive moms. I won't get in to a mom story right now, don't want to upset myself.
@concreteangell I don't think they are throwing much of a party.
For a family birthday party some aunts or cousins in my family usually offer to bring something but it is never assumed and never asked. Unless this is what your family does I don't think it is appropriate, your guests do not supply food for your party. If this is a family tradition then it is none of my business. Edit Just to be clear, I think what they are doing is wrong, I would not do that.
We have a few annual family parties where we do have potlucks but that is because the entire family is co-hosting.
@marriedhamstermom that is awful for anyone to say but your mom, that's so much worse.
I usually hear about all of the incredibly supportive moms but I fit in more with people who have less than supportive moms. I won't get in to a mom story right now, don't want to upset myself.
@concreteangell I don't think they are throwing much of a party.
For a family birthday party some aunts or cousins in my family usually offer to bring something but it is never assumed and never asked. Unless this is what your family does I don't think it is appropriate, your guests do not supply food for your party. If this is a family tradition then it is none of my business.
We have a few annual family parties where we do have potlucks but that is because the entire family is co-hosting.
This is the first time I hear of a pot luck for a child's birthday party. It's certainly not a family tradition, lol. We have done pot lucks in the past but that's exactly what they were and everyone was fine with this.
i just find it tacky that she is asking for all the guests to bring food and drinks as well as a gift for her son. I for one, wouldn't pull something like that. If I'm hosting my child's birthday party, I would consider myself responsible for feeding the guests as the host.
************* First BFP: 12/16/13 EDD: 08/23/14 Baby BOY born: 08/29/14
my sister. I just need to know the dates she and her family are coming to visit, so I can request some time off during their visit! All she tells me; end of July, beginning of August.
@marriedhamstermom that is awful for anyone to say but your mom, that's so much worse.
I usually hear about all of the incredibly supportive moms but I fit in more with people who have less than supportive moms. I won't get in to a mom story right now, don't want to upset myself.
@concreteangell I don't think they are throwing much of a party.
We have a few annual family parties where we do have potlucks but that is because the entire family is co-hosting.
This is the first time I hear of a pot luck for a child's birthday party. It's certainly not a family tradition, lol. We have done pot lucks in the past but that's exactly what they were and everyone was fine with this.
i just find it tacky that she is asking for all the guests to bring food and drinks as well as a gift for her son. I for one, wouldn't pull something like that. If I'm hosting my child's birthday party, I would consider myself responsible for feeding the guests as the host.
You are totally right, this is super tacky. As the host, you are supposed to HOST. If someone offers its one thing, but really, it is BSC to expect a potluck at a children's party.
Eta - to shorten the massive quote box and to say - @marriedhamstermom you win TWT. That comment from you mom is definitely not something she can take back and claiming she healed you with prayer after cutting you down is really terrible. Kudos to you for kicking cancers butt!
My best friend. She pressured me into signing up for Advocare last fall to get a discount on the 30 day Challenge and now she is hardcore pushing me towards the business side of it, which i have zero interest in. I'm about to lose it.
Rachel, mama to Ava (6), Olivia (4), Nora (2), and baby#4 on the way.
My sister. She's an incompetent mom of 3 and demands help instead of asking. When I say no, my mom guilt trips me into picking up the slack. I cave because I'm not close to my mom (or sis for that matter) and if I say no I feel like I won't have a relationship with either. I'm puking multiple times a day and I finally snapped, she can raise her own kids....I feel evil but it's been years of this crap
Re: Twatwaffle Tuesday 6/21
Not a huge rant, but there will be more coming - I'm sure MIL will have all of the opinions once she knows I'm KU.
Me: 33 & DH: 33
Married: 07/2006
TTC: 10/2015
BFP #1: 11/2015, MC 12/2015 (7 weeks)
BFP #2: 06/2016, EDD 2/15/2017
We're moving back closer to her at the end of summer, and as much as I know I should go and visit her, I really, really don't want to.
TBH, she said this after saying a bunch of nice things, and she did realize it was not the right thing to say and try to take it back, but...she said it.
So, now I'm 7 week and she's coming to visit this weekend, and I'm not gonna be able to fake drinking beer the whole time she's here, so she's gonna have to find out. And the weird thing is, we're really close. We talk on the phone a couple times a week. Every time she asks me what's going on, I think "I'm pregnant! oh wait..." Daggers, I tell ya. I'm throwing metaphorical daggers.
Her only response was "oh your H will be excited"
Um, ok?
I'm so scared to tell my mom because I'm afraid she will say something similarly insensitive if anything happens to my baby. When I was first diagnosed with cancer 5 years ago she cried in front of the doctor and made a huge deal but when it was just us she told me I deserved it since I stopped believing in god. She has since apologized but I'm sorry you can't take something like that back. Now she likes to announce to every stranger that will listen to her when we are together that her prayers saved me (literally she does this standing in lines at stores and stuff...) and I don't want her to go around claiming she also saved my baby if everything goes well.
I have nothing against any religion, I think it's great when people find something that pulls them together like that and when people can use it to help and support people. I do have a problem with people like my mother who use it as an excuse to judge, gossip, and spew hatred.
Married: October, 19, 2015
EDD 2/22/17
EDD 3/8/20
EDD 11/24/23
(Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
As a Christian myself, I'm pretty sure Jesus did not give you cancer because you are not a believer. That's not how it works.. Sorry, mom!
What a crappy thing to say. Ew! I'm sorry
jbuck909 good for you for choosing to remove manipulative ick from your life.
We've got quite the theme this week. I hope everyone has positive people in their lives to make up for this crap.
I am really annoyed because that was our news to share.
I would be pissed.
So, now we're expected to supply food and bring a gift. I honestly don't know if this just makes me
sound cheap but normally if you're throwing a birthday party for your child, you're responsible for supplying all the food..??
Ugh.
First BFP: 12/16/13
EDD: 08/23/14
Baby BOY born: 08/29/14
My favorite story involves her calling me fat in front of the 50 people she made me invite to her (sorry, MY) baby shower.
The funny thing is, I was standing in between her and my MIL, and my MIL whispered "If you're fat, at least you have a reason, we're just fat," because while I don't like calling people fat (WHO does that?), my mother and MIL are both bigger ladies, and I can assure you, at 40W3D pregnant, I did not come close to either of them in size.
Me: 35 DH: 38 | Married: 6/2013 | Pregnancy #1, APurp born 10/2014
Pregnancy #2, BFP 6/4/2016, MMC at 9W, D&E: 7/21/16 | Pregnancy #3, BFP 11/22/16
I usually hear about all of the incredibly supportive moms but I fit in more with people who have less than supportive moms. I won't get in to a mom story right now, don't want to upset myself.
@concreteangell I don't think they are throwing much of a party.
For a family birthday party some aunts or cousins in my family usually offer to bring something but it is never assumed and never asked. Unless this is what your family does I don't think it is appropriate, your guests do not supply food for your party. If this is a family tradition then it is none of my business. Edit Just to be clear, I think what they are doing is wrong, I would not do that.
We have a few annual family parties where we do have potlucks but that is because the entire family is co-hosting.
i just find it tacky that she is asking for all the guests to bring food and drinks as well as a gift for her son. I for one, wouldn't pull something like that. If I'm hosting my child's birthday party, I would consider myself responsible for feeding the guests as the host.
First BFP: 12/16/13
EDD: 08/23/14
Baby BOY born: 08/29/14
I just need to know the dates she and her family are coming to visit, so I can request some time off during their visit! All she tells me; end of July, beginning of August.
Eta - to shorten the massive quote box and to say - @marriedhamstermom you win TWT. That comment from you mom is definitely not something she can take back and claiming she healed you with prayer after cutting you down is really terrible. Kudos to you for kicking cancers butt!