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in August 2016 Moms
So, I'm assuming at this time we're all feeling pretty unsexy. Who has advice for sex in the third tri? What feels comfortable? How do you deal with image issues?with the new body?

Obviously I'm asking for a friend...cause my friend is feeling a bit unsexy
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  • ShanRum3ShanRum3 member
    It's not so much about feeling sexy or not. It's just plain uncomfortable at this point! Like painful at times. I feel bad for hubby so I perform other "favors" for him. He seems to be pretty understanding. 
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  • Stephanie7693Stephanie7693 member
    I've had no drive most of my pregnancy, but lately it's been worse because I'm so tired and moving in bed is no easy task. Thankfully my husband has been super understanding. 
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  • Car0liiineCar0liiine member
    My libido has been almost non existent for years, but it's been worse during pregnancy. The last couple times we've had sex it's actually kinda hurt, even with lube, so I went ahead and told hubby that he's probably not getting any until at least six weeks after baby is here. Feel kinda bad but not really, hubby totally understands and our relationship is still great. Sounds sad but it's just not a huge priority for us like it used to be.
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  • MaggieAverillMaggieAverill member
    I have libido out the a** right now! I cannot get enough of hubby. He has been amazing with helping me feel sexy. But that doesn't always stop me feeling like a beached whale lol. For us the couch has been a huge help. It is much easier for me to take an "active role" since it's easier to sit up and there's lots of stuff to hold on to or support my ever changing body. Also just experimenting has been key. Our old "normal" routine borderline hurt and my back would cramp in minutes, but adapting has been fun and when all else fails we laugh and cuddle and try again later.
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  • Katm89Katm89 member
    I've had a hard time this entire pregnancy( FTM) because I had my best body right before pregnancy... tight abs and just ran a half marathon and had the energy to get really active during our special time... and now I wish I could move around more and switch positions and I just cannot move as gracefully as before. I listened to a podcast about sex during pregnancy and people suggested propping yourself up with pillows and laying at the edge of the bed with your husband standing up....I like wearing shirts during now... because its a turn off for me to see my belly... I like have to kind of escape my body a bit... but when I force myself to be intimate... I am so much happier... because I know its good for labor and for recovery...

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  • kiwico14kiwico14 member
    Doggie style. :smile:
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  • SkiChic626SkiChic626 member
    I'm the opposite.  I feel the best in my pregnant body, and my libido is insane.  What about getting some sexy or naughty lingerie that flatters your current body?
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  • kristynmackristynmac member
    DH is acting like he did when we were dating, but we were laughing last night because now we are more comfortable with each other and a lot more "free" I guess? I am not 100% comfortable with my body right now, but having his support and drive is certainly making it a lot easier. I have said this before too, but we try to have fun with sex--change positions and locations. The bump does make it a little awkward, but its only there for a few months and at this point its fun to see what we can do and how something that worked a week ago is now needing some modification.
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  • Stephanie7693Stephanie7693 member
    But I must say, even though I'm never "in the mood", sex is soo good when it does happen! But different positions are key with this growing belly
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  • ginger819ginger819 member
    I couldn't get enough of DH when I was pregnant with DD, but this time around my libido has crashed. I honestly could care less about sex right now and when we do have sex its just kind of ok, which surprised me because sex was amazing when I was pregnant the first time and I was expecting the same this time. I'll be happy when my libido comes back.
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  • DuffgurlDuffgurl member
    I can't get enough of sex! So many ways to do it. Cowgirl, Backwards cowgirl, Doggy style, laying on your side ect. Also there are others things you can do. Just try and feel comfortable in your skin and your new current beautiful body. Maybe find something pretty to wear. Have the lighting to your liking. 

    My only problem now is sex can be a little uncomfortable afterwards. Like getting some BH. Anyone else dealing with that?
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  • Stephanie7693Stephanie7693 member
    @Duffgurl lots of BH every time we have sex. Between those and baby moving, I have to pee 3 or 4 times in 10 minutes after sex now. Not fun, but not unusual 
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  • MamaKSquaredMamaKSquared member
    I actually feel good in my pregnant body and DH loves my bump, so I don't have that issue. I DO struggle with trying to not look like a whale when we're trying to switch positions though, which we have to do often at this point. It's all about learning and adapting. My favorite positions just don't work with the bump, so we're always trying to find something that does! It can be a struggle at times, but it's fun as well.
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  • MrsrundellMrsrundell member
    Not to be too graphic buuut lots of BJs and then doggy for just a few minutes to finish if he wants to get it on lol - I can't take much more at this point!  
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  • gingersnap-mamagingersnap-mama member
    During the first and second trimesters my libido was amazing. But now I just feel uncomfortable with my ever growin belly, our normal positions aren't comfortable anymore. The other night I started crying in the middle of sex because I just felt so clumsy and huge and not sexy. My husband has been amazing though, just having to try different positions. I'm looking forward to 6 weeks post-pardum ... I also get easily distracted when my baby moves around while we're having sex. Ugh .. only 7 more weeks to go!
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  • DDRRT1982DDRRT1982 member
    My best advice is to just start and see where it goes.  More than likely you will get into and will at least end up with an orgasm at the end. I have had a very low drive my how life, but I learned that if I fake it for a bit to get started I usually end up enjoying it in the end.  
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  • Mfuller76Mfuller76 member
    We're in the once-in-blue-moon camp as well. For me, it's been painful since about halfway through second tri - apparently all that extra blood has just made things too sensitive. I was feeling really bad about it until I talked to DH. Turns out he's a little weirded out by sex right now anyway because the baby is *right there*, which I get. I really miss the connection and intimacy though, so we're working on it. 
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  • Katm89Katm89 member
    @Mfuller76 I'm right there with you we are working on it as well... we're both a little freaked out by it...its so helpful for labor...so I feel like I should be doing it
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  • ashleybaker712ashleybaker712 member
    edited June 2016
    Neither DH nor I really like pregnant sex. I feel gross and he isn't really a fan of the pregnant look. I try to help him out from time to time but I've been so tired lately, I've been slacking. I've told him to just ask if he wants something but he doesn't want to bother me. I'm excited for the PP sex life!
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  • alyssajrob22alyssajrob22 member
    I haven't been wanting it all that much my entire pregnancy, but when I want it- I want it yesterday. DH has pretty much learned that if I say "Honey....", he better come running or its none at all. Even when I am not pregnant, DH has never made me feel insecure with my body if I gain or lose a few pounds. Although, I do have a new appreciation for sex laying on my side. Cuddle up to that body pillow and it works like a charm.
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  • satto_takaisatto_takai member
    I am in the "high libido" category when I want it, which is frequently. However, when I am not in the mood, I just really don't want it. For me it is less about feeling sexy and worth fucking, and more about feeling unsexy because my husband doesn't want it as much (he has always had a lower libido and I have a high one) and I can't entice him very well when he isn't in the mood. *sigh* It isn't usually about me not being sexy, but him not having the energy (usually tired from work) or us being too busy.
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