Facebook Group

abpl2014 · June 2016

I know awhile back we talked about starting a Facebook group later on in our pregnancies. Well since some of us have already had our babies and more will be having theirs soon! I wanted to see if there was an interest in starting a group. I would start it if there is interest in it. I would just need one of you to add me on Facebook, so I can include you in the closed group to get it initially started, as I have to invite at least one friend to start a closed group. If you would like to start a group just search Ashleigh Ludwig and send a friend request so I can add you and get the group started! I would then include a link in this thread for everyone else to click on if you would like to join the group. Have a great weekend and try and stay cool!

TattoosandLace · June 2016

There's one already...

abpl2014 · June 2016

Whoops must have missed that during the last few weeks...I'm just starting to get back into posting since Henry was born! I'm sorry I feel really stupid! If someone could direct me to the Facebook group that would be great and then We can let this post die! So sorry again for my stupidity! I should have searched I know better! Mommy brain sorry!

kim1989 · June 2016

Only some of the people from here got added to the Facebook group I guess

deuxbouledogues · June 2016

The FB group thing happened during the weird bump apocalypse. The group creator isn't even around anymore so I'm not sure who the admin is at this point.

thepen15ismighty · June 2016

I am one of the admins. You can pm me your email and I can try to add you.

PhoebeJune1984 · June 2016

theshannondee said:

The FB group thing happened during the weird bump apocalypse. The group creator isn't even around anymore so I'm not sure who the admin is at this point.

Wait....arent you suppose to be off having a baby?! What are you doing on TB?!?

deuxbouledogues · June 2016

PhoebeJune1984 said:

theshannondee said:

The FB group thing happened during the weird bump apocalypse. The group creator isn't even around anymore so I'm not sure who the admin is at this point.

Wait....arent you suppose to be off having a baby?! What are you doing on TB?!?

He doesn't want to come!!!! I've been here 27+ hours and I'm only dilated 1.5cm. My bishop score is 5. I feel like I need @BecauseBabyIamAPug here to explain things to me! I'm on my 6th round of miso-something meds and they stop after 6 rounds so I don't know what they will do.

BecauseBabyIamAPug · June 2016

@theshannondee the Bishop Score is a way 'judge ' how favorable your cervix is for induction. It goes from zero to 13, with the higher being better.
It's not an exact science, but more of a judgement call.

https://perinatology.com/calculators/Bishop Score Calculator.htm

Depending on your hospital, they can try other induction methods.

PhoebeJune1984 · June 2016

@theshannondee That blows! It took me 12 hours to go from 1cm to 2cm and I thought that was bad! I only went through one round of the miso tablet and then they gave me pitocin. Hopefully they figure out something that will work for you soon!

deuxbouledogues · June 2016

@PhoebeJune1984 ugh! It's hard when it goes slow! Well about a half hour they're going to check me again. If it's still under 3cm I will get a foley balloon catheter thingy. Otherwise onto pitocin. My fingers are crossed.

thepen15ismighty · June 2016

Ladies sending me emails to join the FB group, I want to start by saying I am getting your emails, however I want to make an announcement. How the FB group started was by one person who went and added people who happened to get in at that point in time months ago. As we are almost at July, the group has become close and because of social media and what information people have on their personal fb pages the ladies are conserned about safety. What this means is you can still submit your requests but there is a voting now because of previous stated reasons. Please do not take this personal, we spent a while trying to fix the chaos that was left from the person who started the group then beat feet and left us to figure it out. No one is trying to be mean or hurtful and I hope you understand this if not, you can start as many FB groups as you want and people will join if they want to. Again, feel free to send me a request and I will put it on the FB to make sure voting is done as prompt as possible.

Eta, this is not made out to be a popularity contest, we've had a lot of new people come in this month and I hope that reason kind of speaks for itself.

kim1989 · July 2016

Both times the Facebook group has been mentioned I have asked to join but I get that there's a group of friends on this board that don't want to include everyone. Is there anyone else on the board that wasn't included and wants to make another Fb group? I've always been around here just don't post all the time, i prefer fb from my phone so I'd be happy to be part of a group there if anyone else wants to

Kellyj103 · July 2016

Hi there I think you misunderstood the purpose of the Facebook group. The group is for people who I REGULARLY contribute to the July BMB and membership is based on participation not friendships/bonds. It's not meant to be exclusive. It is really simple, people on the July fb group are active on this board and participate in the daily threads. If you want to join the fb group, you participate regularly. Why would the group accept people who only come on here once a month to post rando questions or only come on to post HDBD pictures?

I'm sure there are plenty of Facebook groups for new moms or moms of July 2016 babies, you can search for those groups on facebook and meet new people. For me, personally, I see no point of joining a group of strangers at this point in the game.

kim1989 · July 2016

There are some people like me though that don't post daily but do post often with help/experiences and not just pictures. I've been a part of a group from TB for 5 years with my DD and would have just liked to be able to have the chance again for a newborn.
I don't understand the ladies making it all about the pregnancy, that's just the start. Lots more help, advise and support is needed through the child's first years of life and with this being my third child I could have participated more as they grow.

allthingscozy · July 2016

But that is what this group is for pregnancy... And to be honest when I have looked at your past posts most of it was just about you..if there are others that want to start one go ahead. Yes the group will change and topics change as seen by the newborn thread on the main board but most of us still are pregnant...

Nerdchild · July 2016

I second @Kellyj103 and @Backbypopulardemand. I've been able to develop a trust for the regulars who have been here from the start to the point where I don't feel unsafe sharing my IRL photos and identity. Stick around and contribute and we will get to know you. The circle of trust comes later.

BecauseBabyIamAPug · July 2016

The vote is not a popularity contest. It is 'do I know this person and they don't seem psycho '. Stranger danger is real. I have been in a FB group that has been Cat-fished and in one that a poster embellished money from the group.

Sorry if we seem gun shy, but I don't want random 'people ' having access to my name, family, work, and pictures/names of my children. Even technically my address.

TattoosandLace · July 2016

I was basically coming to say what Pugs already said.

It isn't a popularity contest or a "cool kids only" group. As one of the admins, we post who has requested to join and then the group votes based on stranger danger/has the person contributed/do we recognize this username. Majority rules.

Also, TO ME, if someone isn't invested in supporting the group during pregnancy then I'm sure as hell not going to even take their advice with a grain of salt on parenting, regardless of how many kids they have or how much "experience".

eta: finishing my sentence

kim1989 · July 2016

I'm sorry that you ladies all think I'm not a regular enough poster but like a lot of people I've been scared of posting because of the regulars snapping at the newbies and lurkers which I've seen happen a lot since the beginning (because I have been on here since the beginning).
If I don't have experience on something or if my exact response has already been posted I don't bother writing anything as it seems pointless but that doesn't mean you should put down the "experience" I do have as invalid because of that.
I know you're all saying it's not a popularity contest but that's exactly how it feels. Maybe I'm over emotional because of extra hormones but I found some of your wordings hurtful when all I'm trying to do is be a part of something and have never said anything bad against anyone myself.

PootsDragon · July 2016

LOL this has been constructive. Good chat! Anyone who came out of the wood work after the exodus of regulars is getting heavy side-eye from me. There's an established culture here- the FB group is just an extension of that established culture! If you didn't like the regulars, you won't like the FB group!

KASG · July 2016

@kim1989 Hi Kim. I understand, and I'm sorry you feel that way. But, you can always start your own FB group or, as @Kellyj103 said, join some already established groups on FB, maybe for your area. I have a friend that made a group of just her pregnant or mom friends.

Or, just keep posting here on TB.

Weville · July 2016

The only time new people have been met with snark is when they act like dinks. New people who join in on the daily threads, contribute support and laughs have always been met with open arms. Calling us a bunch of meanies who don't like new people is ridiculous as we are a group of strangers that started chatting here at various different times. I am not on the Facebook group but if you don't like us here why would you like it there?

Nerdchild · July 2016

Weville said:

I am not on the Facebook group but if you don't like us here why would you like it there?

All. Of. This.

kim1989 · July 2016

Thank you @KASG for your understanding. I Cant join local groups because I live in a foreign country.

I never said I didn't like anyone, I just said I've been scared at times to post, especially making new posts because that's where the problems always seem to be. This whole conversation proves that I had reason to be scared. I've never meant to offend anyone, I really only asked if anyone that wasn't in a group wanted to make one. I come on here and follow lots of you on IG already but I mainly use my phone so here isn't convinient at all times

nikkimarie159 · July 2016

TB Has an app for your phone!

kim1989 · July 2016

nikkimarie159 said:

TB Has an app for your phone!

Yes I use the app but it messes up a lot and isn't as convinient as fb and other apps that's all

nikkimarie159 · July 2016

@kim1989 ahh I see

Weville · July 2016

So scary! Anonymous internet strangers preferred to get to know you more before revealing actual identities!

TattoosandLace · July 2016

@kim1989 I reviewed the post (made June 13th) about voting to add you into the group.
I apologize for not getting back to you to let you know the group consensus. My June 15th on became very hectic. The group voted unanimously. Perhaps that isn't the type of online support community you would want to be a part of anyway. There are many other formats and platforms that you could potentially use to create the online support group you are looking for, including other apps.

I'm sorry that my lack of messaging created this clusterization on the boards.

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