So I've (unfortunately) been reading this message board for the past three weeks but never introduced myself until now. I did post a similar intro in another thread so I'm sorry if this is redundant.
This was my first pregnancy and I had a normal pregnancy up to my 12 week NT scan. Scan numbers were fine, I was told I had an anterior placenta, but my hormone levels were super low PAPP-A (0.13) and super high hcG (2.something) which put my trisomy 21 risk at 1:45 when it usually is 1:500 for my
age (29). I had a CVS procedure at 13 wks which came back with no chromosomal abnormalities and I did the Recombine genetic mapping and was not a genetic carrier for anything. Fast forward to week 16 when I had some moderate bleeding- went in for an ultrasound and the baby was fine, saw the heartbeat and was told it might just be old blood. A week later I bled again, but was told not to come in because if anything was happening there was nothing they could do. The next few days my uterus had a heavy feeling which I contributed to the bleeding and stretching of my uterus. Three days after the start of the second bleed, I woke up to what looked like a scene from a horror movie- blood everywhere in my bed. I ran to the bathroom and was losing a lot of blood and passing huge clots. Went to the hospital and found out that there was no heartbeat and my placenta looked very abnormal and was starting to separate from my uterus hence all the bleeding and my now swollen looking uterus. Since my body had already started the birthing process, I was given miso orally every three hrs to help pass the baby and placenta. Three doses later they did the miso internally and after the second internal dose, shortly after I gave birth to my little boy. They gave me a shot in my leg to contract my uterus some more and 1 hr later I birthed the placenta. They sent the placenta to pathology after birth and found a huge hemorrhage that would not have been seen on the ultrasound. In hindsight the two bouts with bleeding were precursors for my miscarriage. I just stopped bleeding a few days ago (so three weeks after) so I have not had my first period yet.
I had a virus panel of bloodwork done which came back negative for everything and my dr wants me to wait until 12 wks after to get the clotting panel done but believes due to my weird hormone levels at all my screenings and the hemorrhage, this was just a one time thing that we were unlucky to experience and should not effect subsequent pregnancies. We were just that 1 in whatever number chance statistic that everyone hopes not to be.
The hospital gave us a memory box with pictures of our son and his hand/footprints as well as the tiny knit cap he was wearing in the picture. The emotional healing has been up and down and the smallest things I wouldn't have thought would effect me do. We didn't share the pregnancy news with many people because of all the issues we had, so I haven't run into anyone asking about the pregnancy yet. I know there is no timeline for feeling "better." These past three weeks have felt like an eternity and hopefully with time I will be able to cope a little better. I'm so thankful for my husband who is so understanding of everything as well as my immediate family for giving me the space and time I've needed. I'm also thankful that this message board is here so I know that I'm not alone in this situation.