I've already ate 2 I've cream bars this morning while hiding on the back steps. I made sure kiddos were entertained with something, then quietly unwrapped them and enjoyed them ALONE!!
I am fairly indifferent somewhere between annoyed and like/love for my in-laws as a whole. Honestly, I don't think they'v ever tried to get to know me real well, but also expected me to kind of conform to how they live their lives. I really don't avoid being around them, but I don't break my back to spend time with them either. We live around 45 minutes away from them, and they (MIL/FIL, SIL/BIL + kids and spouses) live within a mile of each other. They don't see DD more than maybe once per week-a few times each month. Most of the time we have to drive there. They're nice people, but I don't really have much in common with them. I don't feel like they much of an effort to try to find that with me, so I stopped trying with them. Also, DH is kind of the "black sheep" of the family and hasn't ever really felt as though he even "belongs" with them so much. So that's my dissertation to say, in-laws, meh.
@texasmama2014 There was a time when I very much agreed with your confession. DH was the black sheep as well and we lived across the country from my ILs for many years. But... I had a really strong bond with my parents but when my mom died, it fell apart with my dad. I am so grateful for my inlaws who have done so many things to help us. I never thought of how close I would be to them. But I feel truly lucky to have them as my family. It's amazing how much things can change and what you always thought would be there, isn't. It sucks to let go of the way you thought life would be...
FFFC I never had a smart phone or good computer when I was pg with my DD. How did we survive??
@texasmama2014 this is exactly how I feel about my MIL. There was a time when it was worse, and I struggled to be around her (bad divorce between her and FIL that DH was put in the middle of), but now I just feel indifferent towards her. She's one of those people who will ask how things are going, but then not really listen and change the subject to herself almost immediately. I've never gotten the sense that she is at all interested in my life or who I am, so I've basically taken the same tact with her. I let her see DS whenever she wants, and she is very loving towards him, so that's the only thing we really interact about now.
So I work 20 hours a week, not a whole lot... In the past two weeks I've worked 32 hours but maybe 'worked' 5 of them... I have no motivation to do anything. Whoops.
@Bookhousegirl for me its like she'll ask if I can do something, or my opinion and then will plan something outside of the hours I tell her I can, or not do what I suggested. It used to hurt my feelings, but now I've made the conscious decision to not care. Like today, she's in my town with her daughter, daughter in law, and my DD, as well as the rest of the grandkids. I'm at work, she never asked if I had a lunch break or if I'd like to meet up with them. I'm working but my Fridays are flexible, which she would know if she listened every time I have ever talked about my job. As much as I'd like to see my DD, I'm actually relieved I didn't have to feel obligated to eat lunch with them...
@telicious2 I don't think I could pee in a cup without missing even when I could see in between my legs lol. Our doctor uses little tiny plastic dixie cups though which is so not fair.
My confession is that I didn't sign up for the labor buddies list because im too selfish and if I go into labor before my buddy I'll probably be completely consumed by LO and not care enough to do more then post the birth announcement and disappear into mommy land.
@telicious2 I should probably start wearing gloves too. I am terrible at it. Last time I went to the doctor, DD had to come with me. Since she is 2, I obviously couldn't leave her in the waiting room while I went to leave the urine sample. She was SO intrigued by me catching me pee in a cup and now wants to take a cup into the bathroom so she can try and catch hers.
My confession is that i eat at my desk all the time and i had someone come in an apply and caught me eating a bowl of cereal and i kept eating it while they filled out the application lol (i am still hungry)
My confession is I had my diabetes class today and so before I went, for lunch I had 2 cookies, a cheeseburger, fries, a bite of my sisters ice cream, and a candy bar and my sugar was only 106. No shame.
My confession is that I buy "good" snacks that are not super healthy and keep them at work with me so I don't have to share with dh and the kids. At home most of the snacks we have are healthy.
@texasmama2014 Ugh that is really frustrating and rude. I wouldn't really want to go to lunch with my MIL either, but at least make an effort. I take it as a learning experience of what not to do as a MIL, especially since I'm going to have 2 boys.
Re: FFFC
There was a time when I very much agreed with your confession. DH was the black sheep as well and we lived across the country from my ILs for many years.
But...
I had a really strong bond with my parents but when my mom died, it fell apart with my dad. I am so grateful for my inlaws who have done so many things to help us. I never thought of how close I would be to them. But I feel truly lucky to have them as my family. It's amazing how much things can change and what you always thought would be there, isn't. It sucks to let go of the way you thought life would be...
FFFC
I never had a smart phone or good computer when I was pg with my DD. How did we survive??
And i I make such a pee mess on my hand and cup at my Dr's appts that I started to wear a glove. I miss being able to see between my legs!!
Me (32) DH (34) | |
BFP #1 4/5/12 | Natural m/c on 4/18/12 (6w1d)
BFP #2 8/23/12 | DS born 5/3/13
BFP #3 12/6/15 | DD born 8/23/16
BFP #4 2/22/19 | EDD 10/28/19