Positives of being a young mom

seven6five · June 2016

I've been feeling really mixed up about being so young with two kids. Right now the only positives I can think of are 1) that I will be 40 (for 3 months) when this one turns 18 and so I'll have SO much time to do what I want and save before I retire and 2) it will hopefully be easy to bounce back like it was with my first. What else about being a younger mom is awesome? I need some serious positivity please! The difficulties are weighing pretty heavily on my mind. AKA finishing school, paying for daycare, working full time, etc.

Knottie1458416769 · June 2016

More energy to run after your kids, option to space apart by age if you aim to have more later, become the go-to expert for your friends when they start having babies, your older relatives (parents, grandparents etc) might still be around to celebrate important milestones in your kids' lives

this advantage of more energy to run after your kids is no joke, my aunts who had kids late struggled to take care of their growing babies when those became more active

forevertired · June 2016

Energy for sure. I'm 28 going on 60. I wanted to have kids younger because my parents were about my age when they had my older sister. My parents always seemed much more involved with my sister and less with me, and I attributed it to them being worn out by the time I came along (5 years later). It didn't work out for me to have kids earlier but it is what it is. I just hope I'm able to keep up with this one and possibly one more. Right now even thinking about going to their events, taking them to sports practices, keeping up with their school work in addition to keeping them fed and with enough sleep makes me exhausted.

TwandaFTG · June 2016

MY MIL was 16ish when she had DH. She is a young grandma with tons of energy. She is always doing something fun because she has the time, money, and energy.

My Mom was 19 and same thing.

I didn't have a child until I was 32 so I had to have my fun when I was young and poor!

KilgraveMadeMeDoIt · June 2016

I was 19 when I had my first. I'm 29 now, pregnant with my third. It's nice that we had the option of having more kids while I'm still relatively young even though it took a long time (2 years each time TTC our second and this one.) The age gaps, while bigger than we planned, are actually really nice. It was good in many ways to kind of finish growing up as a mom; I really ended up with fantastic time management skills and the ability to power through difficult times, things which have really come in handy now that I'm pursuing a career in medicine. Starting my family when I did meant that some things were delayed (like school) but it meant I was much more focused when I did start fulfilling those goals. I didn't have to interrupt my already-established career to have my kids, which is a perk. I haven't built a name for myself yet that would be affected by stepping away or reducing my workload for a few years, so when I actually get to that stage of my career, I can throw myself into it as my kids will be older and starting to live their own lives.

Itll also be pretty awesome that we'll be down to one kid in the house by the time I'm 42, assuming our oldest ends up independent enough (he has autism but we are hopeful that he'll reach the point of independence,) and we'll have the house to ourselves completely by the time I'm 48. Plenty of time to enjoy travelling and each other.

Chcaggie1 · June 2016

Lots of energy and don't mind giving up sleep as much!

ellie8816 · June 2016

That's what I'm afraid of, the thought of having enough energy to carpool to after-school activities petrifies me. I know how mean and cranky I get when I'm low energy and I don't want to be that kind of mom

MrsEusini · June 2016

I'm very happy to be becoming a young mom. When our son is born, I will be 23 and my husband 25. When this baby graduates from high school, I'll be 41 and hubby will be 44. We have more time to have a couple more babies, we will have more energy to deal with babies and toddlers, our parents will be around to see our kids grow up, and bouncing back in general won't be quite so difficult. Sure it's a little harder with school and everything, but I'm still set to get my BA either next summer or next fall and things will be a bit easier after that.

seven6five · June 2016

I love these! And I thought of another one, we have so much more money to put towards retirement!

Muscatmommyof4 · June 2016

I started very young when my oldest is 18 I will be 35. I had three kids by 22 and I don't regret it yes it was hard but I feel like it was easier to handle then if I had 3 young children now. My oldest and this baby will be 10 1/2yrs apart and my youngest 5 1/2yrs I guess my point is because I didn't know any better I still managed to go to school, work full time and take care of my kids and didn't blink an eye now at 27 I couldn't imagine doing half of that. I feel when your younger you grow up with your kids I know I did and we are very close because of that yes it was hard but in the end so worth it! Once your kids are older you will be so happy you started when you did.

Seattleite86 · June 2016

30 year olds have less energy than 20 year olds? I dont think i agree with that. Sure maybe cant stay up until 3 am anymore, but there are reasons for that other than age.

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