I went in for a 2nd ultrasound at 10 weeks and my worst fear came true: No more heartbeat and baby only measured 7 weeks. A "Missed Miscarriage" with no symptoms at all! I can't get over that I had been carrying a dead fetus for 3 weeks with no symptoms....! We had just announced the pregnancy to family and close friends the prior weekend.
Doctor recommended D&C and gave me a suppository pill the night before to start to the process. She said it would cause "light cramping" Boy was she wrong!!! I was so upset. Woke up at 3am that evening with the worst pain I've ever been in (like stabbing pains surrounding my entire midsection and contractions) All I had was Paracetamol and Ibuprofen (which did absolutely NOTHING for the pain!!) I passed a large clot and vomited, then practically passed out sobbing, I was so sick with fever. I am so angry the doctor didn't tell me this could happen and I hadn't done any research on the medication.
Next morning (last Friday, 2 days ago) I went in for the D&C procedure, which they said was successful. I then was in severe pain all the following day taking Codeine. Again, the doctor said I should just expect "light menstrual cramps and some bleeding" I couldn't even get out of bed yesterday!! Every time I changed positions, it was stabbing pain!! Every time I pee, have gas, sit down, cough....It's awful!!!!
The pain is a tiny bit better today, but I am a mess, Can't stop crying and I don't have any family nearby (except husband) to console me. The worst is, this would've been our FIRST baby. I am now 41 years old and I am sooooooo afraid that we either won't get pregnant again OR it won't be viable bc of some random Chromosome issue that the doctor can't even test for!!
Someone PLEASE tell me something HOPEFUL...like we could get pregnant on the next try or on the next cycle it is possible to get pregnant again...OR that multiple MC is rare??? I am so devastated. ALL OF MY FRIENDS GET PREGNANT BY BREATHING!!!! They simply just stop Birth Control and get pregnant in one cycle! WTF?? It makes me SO ANGRY. I know MC is supposedly "so common" - but why is it literally EVERYONE I KNOW, EVERYONE I'M CONNECTED TO ON FB is PREGNANT with like their 3rd baby!!! Everytime I see babies i burst into tears. Why is Life so cruel???
This is the only thing i want in life right now - a family! I feel completely crushed and depressed by this pain.