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Breastfeeding. Trying to figure out how to get things done.... like grocery shopping. I'm so afraid he's will get hungry while I'm in the store that I practically run through it. How are you EBF moms juggling real life and boob time?
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  • shawnacrestshawnacrest member
    People with no children... LO is a perfectly good baby. When childless family members come around And he starts being even a little fussy, all I hear is "what's wrong with him?" in a judgmental, shut that baby up tone. They're  absolutely clueless. I told my fiancé yesterday if his family isn't okay with a baby crying to tell them not to come over anymore.
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  • amaniupendoamaniupendo member
    Cwyatt2571 said:
    Breastfeeding. Trying to figure out how to get things done.... like grocery shopping. I'm so afraid he's will get hungry while I'm in the store that I practically run through it. How are you EBF moms juggling real life and boob time?
    I feed him whenever and wherever. 
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    People who think I am having too much fun during my maternity leave 
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  • MrsCayEyeMrsCayEye member
    Cwyatt2571 said:
    Breastfeeding. Trying to figure out how to get things done.... like grocery shopping. I'm so afraid he's will get hungry while I'm in the store that I practically run through it. How are you EBF moms juggling real life and boob time?
    I usually try to feed her before I go, but if we've been out for awhile I'll feed her in the car before we go in the store or after we are done. I'll feed her in the ergo while I'm shopping if I don't have her in the infant seat. 
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  • loveymayloveymay member
    @Cwyatt2571  i feellike I cant go anywhere with LO. First of all, he hates the car seat and cries every time he is in it. So we limit car rides to my parents' house which is only 10 min away. Also, The most important thing right now are his naps. If he doesnt get enough sleep, he screams at bedtime. And he needs a nap after being awake for 1 hour or 1.5 hours.....soooo we pretty much stay home all the time. Idk how other people go anywhere with newborns?

    my wtf is kinda dumb, but Im gonna wtf it anyway. MIL and SFIL took their other grandson to Disney this past weekend, he is 5. MIL texted DH last night and said when our LO is 5, they want to take him to Disney too. Thats nice, but I told him nope! Because I will be taking my child on his first Disney trip! I hope they arent going to be toe stepping when it comes to first experiences.
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  • shawnacrestshawnacrest member
    Cwyatt2571 said:
    Breastfeeding. Trying to figure out how to get things done.... like grocery shopping. I'm so afraid he's will get hungry while I'm in the store that I practically run through it. How are you EBF moms juggling real life and boob time?
    I feed him before I go anywhere no matter how long it's been since he ate. That way I know he's full if I'm just running an errand. If he gets hungry if I'm out and starts crying, I feed him no matter where I am. I try to be discreet but if baby's hungry and crying , I'm feeding him
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  • K&ElizabethK&Elizabeth member
    @loveymay my mil always tries to pull that crap. She even took DD to see Santa before we did. I lost it. She uses my kids as do-overs for stuff she didn't do with DH and BIL. Set boundaries now.
    DD-10/3/12
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  • loveymayloveymay member
    @sarahufl I would be so mad!! My LO is slmost 9 weeks old and has zero interest in his toys. His favorite thing to do is stare at the ceiling fan! 
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  • sarahuflsarahufl member
    loveymay said:
    @sarahufl I would be so mad!! My LO is slmost 9 weeks old and has zero interest in his toys. His favorite thing to do is stare at the ceiling fan! 
    She loves the fans. She also loves looking out the window, so screw you for saying she doesn't. Also, she has toys! And we play with her! H was furious- he actually yelled at her (which he never, ever does). He took it really personally that his mom was being so judgmental about our parenting- especially based on a single (adorable) photo.
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  • redseligredselig member
    Cwyatt2571 said:
    Breastfeeding. Trying to figure out how to get things done.... like grocery shopping. I'm so afraid he's will get hungry while I'm in the store that I practically run through it. How are you EBF moms juggling real life and boob time?
    All errands revolve around LO's feeding schedule. After he eats, I have at least a 2 hour window before he gets hungry again. He also loves being in the stroller and car seat so it's easy to get around. If I have an appointment it's a bit trickier but I will feed when necessary. I'm not comfortable with feeding him just anywhere so I usually retreat into some cafe. 
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  • redseligredselig member
    @loveymay I don't think your WTF is stupid, I totally get it. The grandparents can take LO to Disneyland but I'm tagging along! 
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  • Ready4thePartyReady4theParty member
    K&Elizabeth said:
    @loveymay my mil always tries to pull that crap. She even took DD to see Santa before we did. I lost it. She uses my kids as do-overs for stuff she didn't do with DH and BIL. Set boundaries now.
    Agree.  Set boundaries and don't be afraid to hurt feelings.  My MIL is a nurse practioner and she thinks because she is in the medical field we have to take her advice.  She told me this week that they lowered the lead levels for young children because their are some studies that show it can cause cognitive issues.  She now wants us to get DD1 retested.  Um no.  The test was traumatizing enough when she was 1.

    Don't get me wrong I will do testing for my kids if needed, but not because she wants to sleep better because of two new studies.

    Unfortunately this is just one of MANY examples of a crazy MIL and why you have to set boundaries.
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    My WTF goes out to my 3 yo.  I know it's hard to be quiet at that age.  I also know she is trying to get my attention.  I thought I was giving her attention by painting her nails, baking cookies and cuddling.  I do not understand why she has to run into DD2s room and scream.  She's been a brat all day.  We've had several talks but she continues to not listen and be a pain.
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  • mrsmtothekmrsmtothek member
    Will the clusterfeeding never end?? We go through it every night before bed starting around 5, and every article I read makes it seem like they are a sporadic occurrence.


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  • nikkinbonnienikkinbonnie member

    I usually try to feed her before I go, but if we've been out for awhile I'll feed her in the car before we go in the store or after we are done. I'll feed her in the ergo while I'm shopping if I don't have her in the infant seat. 
    How do you feed in the Ergo? I don't seem to be that talented!
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  • mumisthewordmumistheword member
    nikkinbonnie said:

    I usually try to feed her before I go, but if we've been out for awhile I'll feed her in the car before we go in the store or after we are done. I'll feed her in the ergo while I'm shopping if I don't have her in the infant seat. 
    How do you feed in the Ergo? I don't seem to be that talented!
    Was thinking the same thing! I'd love to know!
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  • MrsCayEyeMrsCayEye member
    nikkinbonnie said:

    I usually try to feed her before I go, but if we've been out for awhile I'll feed her in the car before we go in the store or after we are done. I'll feed her in the ergo while I'm shopping if I don't have her in the infant seat. 
    How do you feed in the Ergo? I don't seem to be that talented!
    It took some practice but if I can get my boob sort of propped up and get her positioned right to latch on we are good to go. 
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  • mumisthewordmumistheword member
    I know that it's Thursday, but I didn't have time yesterday to vent and I'm still PO with my MIL. Not only does she refuse to use less perfume, that awful stinky Chanel...you all know which one I'm talking about. She must spray 5 or 6 Sprays on herself every time she leaves the house, it's so bad you can smell that she's been in a room for the rest of the day when she leaves. I have extra clothes now that I keep at work for the baby (we work in the same building so this happens daily), because the baby smells so bad after she leaves. Babies smell so good, and she ruins it...not to mention I think the smell really bothers him. He cries and fusses for a good hour every time she leaves and cries every time she holds him. Then she looks to me and says, "Why aren't you feeding our baby, he seems so hungry."...even if I've just fed him before she comes up. Then yesterday she puts him in my arms, demands that I feed him. I pull out my left breast, and before I can get him latched she shoves his head onto my nipple. I think she could tell it bothered me, because she said to the baby "Mommy thinks I'm a pain in the ass." Also, she says shit like "You are a special baby (why he cries so much), because Mommy holds you too much and won't leave you alone." WTF, he's 8 weeks old, and can't self soothe yet. If he's crying, I'll let him cry for a few minutes if I'm in the middle of a task that can't be interrupted but then yeah, I'm going to care for my kid. I believe that's called being a good mother. What's worse, is my DH is so desensitized to her that he just doesn't care or have the energy to argue with her anymore, not even on my behalf. This women is vicious, constantly comments on my weight, parenting practice, or why I'm not wearing make up or haven't done my hair. Intrusive isn't the word. Maybe because I'm working 80 Fucking hours a week running a growing business, and caring for a newborn and being fanfuckingtastic wife to your son. Oh and if she tells me that I'm selfish for breastfeeding one more time I'm going to lose it. She told me Monday that I'm hurting the baby by breastfeeding because clearly if he's crying every two hours he's not getting enough food from me and that I can't tell how much food he's getting if it's not in a bottle. I feed him on demand, where he wants it whenever he's hungry. And it's definitely not to knock anyone that formula feeds, but how in the hell is BF that often selfish? Whew, that was a long vent.
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  • K&ElizabethK&Elizabeth member
    @mumistheword you're s Saint for letting her survive this long with that behavior
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  • WBORDERSWBORDERS member
    @mumistheword you deserve a damned award girl!!!! If some one told me that BF was a selfish thing to do I don't think I would be able to stop myself from losing it on them. 
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  • UnbreakableKimmySchmidtUnbreakableKimmySchmidt member
    @mumistheword - UGH your MIL sounds awful.  If possible, it sounds like you need to start limiting her visits.  You don't need the extra stress when trying to figure out how to care for your newborn!
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  • mrsmtothekmrsmtothek member
    mumistheword said:
    I know that it's Thursday, but I didn't have time yesterday to vent and I'm still PO with my MIL. Not only does she refuse to use less perfume, that awful stinky Chanel...you all know which one I'm talking about. She must spray 5 or 6 Sprays on herself every time she leaves the house, it's so bad you can smell that she's been in a room for the rest of the day when she leaves. I have extra clothes now that I keep at work for the baby (we work in the same building so this happens daily), because the baby smells so bad after she leaves. Babies smell so good, and she ruins it...not to mention I think the smell really bothers him. He cries and fusses for a good hour every time she leaves and cries every time she holds him. Then she looks to me and says, "Why aren't you feeding our baby, he seems so hungry."...even if I've just fed him before she comes up. Then yesterday she puts him in my arms, demands that I feed him. I pull out my left breast, and before I can get him latched she shoves his head onto my nipple. I think she could tell it bothered me, because she said to the baby "Mommy thinks I'm a pain in the ass." Also, she says shit like "You are a special baby (why he cries so much), because Mommy holds you too much and won't leave you alone." WTF, he's 8 weeks old, and can't self soothe yet. If he's crying, I'll let him cry for a few minutes if I'm in the middle of a task that can't be interrupted but then yeah, I'm going to care for my kid. I believe that's called being a good mother. What's worse, is my DH is so desensitized to her that he just doesn't care or have the energy to argue with her anymore, not even on my behalf. This women is vicious, constantly comments on my weight, parenting practice, or why I'm not wearing make up or haven't done my hair. Intrusive isn't the word. Maybe because I'm working 80 Fucking hours a week running a growing business, and caring for a newborn and being fanfuckingtastic wife to your son. Oh and if she tells me that I'm selfish for breastfeeding one more time I'm going to lose it. She told me Monday that I'm hurting the baby by breastfeeding because clearly if he's crying every two hours he's not getting enough food from me and that I can't tell how much food he's getting if it's not in a bottle. I feed him on demand, where he wants it whenever he's hungry. And it's definitely not to knock anyone that formula feeds, but how in the hell is BF that often selfish? Whew, that was a long vent.
    Ugh I cannot STAND that Chanel perfume. My MIL wears something pretty strong too and every time I'd smell my LO's head after he was in her arms, all I'd smell was her perfume. I don't know how you haven't lost your mind yet, your MIL sounds like a real treat :(


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  • loveymayloveymay member
    @mumistheword she sounds horrible! You should definitely start limiting her visits. You dont need that kind of negativity,  you keep on being a fantastic mama!
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  • Ready4thePartyReady4theParty member
    @mrsmtothek they are sporadic occurences...usually during the wonder weeks.  Is your baby taking a pacifier?  Is it possible LO is trying to soothe?  Dd does something similar only usually a couple hours before she goes to bed or if she is over stimulated and trying to sleep.   Dd refuses to take a pacifier and so we do a lot of walking.  I can tell if she is clustering or if she's over stimulated based on how long she latches.  If she pulls off quickly she's trying to soothe.  When she clusters she stays on the boob longer and actually screams if she's not getting milk fast enough.
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  • redseligredselig member
    @mumistheword I would go to the pediatrician and ask to run some tests on LO for sensitivity to fragrances. In the meanwhile, tell her that LO might be allergic to strong scents so she's not allowed near him if she's got perfume on. People who bathe in perfume have a hard time giving it up. And if it ends up that he's not allergic, just lie.
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  • mrsmtothekmrsmtothek member
    Ready4theParty said:
    @mrsmtothek they are sporadic occurences...usually during the wonder weeks.  Is your baby taking a pacifier?  Is it possible LO is trying to soothe?  Dd does something similar only usually a couple hours before she goes to bed or if she is over stimulated and trying to sleep.   Dd refuses to take a pacifier and so we do a lot of walking.  I can tell if she is clustering or if she's over stimulated based on how long she latches.  If she pulls off quickly she's trying to soothe.  When she clusters she stays on the boob longer and actually screams if she's not getting milk fast enough.
    I will try a pacifier usually when I'm making my dinner, but it doesn't last very long--maybe 20 minutes if I'm REALLY lucky. I know that he's hungry for the same reasons you pointed out :/
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