Hi fellow mommas.. I'll try to make this quick but I wanted to get some opinions or thoughts. I am a FTM with my LO who was born in April. I plan to go back to work sometime in July. We have been on the wait list for a daycare on post. I work on a military base and SO is active duty. Well now they are saying we are not guaranteed a spot so I had to scramble to find a place off post. We looked at several. Most of them were disgusting, cold and dirty looking with staff I wasn't thrilled with (yet cheap and affordable) or there was one that was very clean, nice with friendly staff (yet sooo so expensive) my SO was fine to put her in the cheaper day cares or find a nanny online. I am not okay with those options. I am so paranoid and worry when it comes to me daughter. It only takes one time for something bad to happen and I would never forgive myself.... So long story short I made the choice to enroll her in the expensive day care and my parents are going to help us out in paying for it. In the meantime I will still try to get her on post but I think I will feel much better when it comes time to drop her off rather than if we would've gone to one of the cheap day cares. I am not thrilled about leaving her in the care of anyone but it's what we have to do. Did I make the right choice?
Re: Am I making the right choice?
One of the centers we toured had an unlocked door that we inadvertently went through looking for the office. There was an unattended child wandering that hallway while the teachers were on their phones. It was cheaper but my kid isn't going anywhere near there.
Money is just money - your child is much more Important!
you need to feel 100% confident in who is taking care of your child and if some place or someone gave you an uneasy feeling it's for a reason.
Think about how worried you'd constantly be while at work if she were in one of the cheaper places...you'd probably not be as focused on your job because you'd be so worried.
And btw thank you and your husband for your service!
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Edit: I should also put a disclaimer that the off base daycare is not that much more expensive. The CDC charges based on rank and the spouse's income. My husband is a Major, and I make a decent income, so we'd have to pay the top tier.
Good for you!
https://www.slate.com/articles/business/the_grind/2016/05/paid_family_leave_improves_babies_health_and_probably_save_their_lives_we.html
heartbreaking....makes me question our decision to go back to work. but we cant loose a paycheck. the part about not tearing a puppy away from its mom at 8 weeks really hit me.
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