Anyone else's husband in denial?

AmberLiz99 · May 2016

This is our third, and I'm due in just over 2 weeks. I have been having lots of discomfort, contractions, cramps, and just feeling crummy this whole weekend.

Yesterday he made the comments "I haven't really thought about having a baby soon" "we still have plenty of time before the baby comes" "maybe we can go camping before the baby arrives". This morning I said I'd be ok is this baby decided to show up any day now, to which he responded "you'd be ok with a premi?"

This is is our third kid, you'd think he knew how it worked by now...

anyone else with with a significant other that just isn't facing reality yet?

aoliveira0726 · May 2016

My hubby is excited but i dont think its gonna hit him that hes a dad until our DD makes her appearance inti the world. Hes still convinced staying up til 3am playing video games is gonna happen when we have a kid and we're not gonna be those people all-consumed by baby responsibilities. Im waiting patiently for the rude awakening

Bear14+ · May 2016

aoliveira0726 said:

My hubby is excited but i dont think its gonna hit him that hes a dad until our DD makes her appearance inti the world. Hes still convinced staying up til 3am playing video games is gonna happen when we have a kid and we're not gonna be those people all-consumed by baby responsibilities. Im waiting patiently for the rude awakening

Oh you'd be surprised!! I have lots of friends whose husbands never gave up or let up on the video game habit even after LO's. Good luck! We all have different battles with our H's!

ashkee05 · May 2016

Yes!! But not anymore. My husband kept telling me no rush, no rush, no rush. Even though I have been high risk this entire pregnancy due to history of pre term labor. (This is his first baby though) then I went into pre term labor at 33 weeks and it finally shook him into reality! Then when I was stuck in the hospital for 10 days he finally did everything I had been asking him to do. Like really finish the nursery and putting together all the babies things etc. dang guys huh?!! Hopefully they all get it together soon! Good luck mommas!!

DeePaddy24 · May 2016

I think he is to an extent. Whenever I mention how soon baby will be here, he always responds with "I don't think it's really hit me yet." Mind you, this is his really busy season with work, so he's been distracted. And we've had a hellish week...his mind just isn't focused on baby at the moment. I'm sure once things die down a bit it will all hit him. At least, I hope it does, lol.

lm45678 · May 2016

I totally understand... DH has done everything I've asked so I can't really complain. However, at 37+1 I am aware this baby could really come any day now. My niece and nephew were born at 37+38 weeks so I really want everything done now just in case. DH'd occasional attitude of "it'll get done" or "let's do it next weekend" send my over-prepared OCD self into anxiety mode because I am aware that next weekend baby could be here.

Shanna2016 · May 2016

Mine all of a sudden asked me to make sure I put the hospital bag together today. I told him I would, completely understanding I should have already done it....oops. we have our last ultrasound tomorrow at 37 weeks and H is positive that little man will be joining us early (when I asked why he said and I quote "your just so huge"), I actually think him and his crew in the shop are betting on it. I do however wish he would watch the prenatal classes with me but because he has a son already he thinks he knows everything, which bothers me the most!

NLewis1 · May 2016

We are the other way around. I've been having so many contractions since about 35 weeks that are not at all productive that I'm now convinced I'll have to be induced a week after my due date. My husband on the other hand is all "she could literally be here tomorrow!!" Haha. We did a ton of yard work yesterday and I suddenly stood up and clutched my belly and said "oh!" Loudly and the look on his face was priceless. I broke into hysterical laughter and he wasn't very pleased with my joke. But I knew I only had one shot to "cry wolf" and get a good reaction out of him.... I had to do it!!! Haha. #sorrynotsorry

TheHauntedHauswife · May 2016

I think mine borderlines. He doesnt seem to be facing the reality of how much life is going to change but sometimes he does. He seems to teter between getting it and not getting it. Though we had to visit L&D last night for my blood pressure and we could pretty clearly hear a woman push her baby out and he was a lot more shocked by the noise than i expected him to be. He was like dumbfounded!

AmberLiz99 · May 2016

TheHauntedHauswife said:

I think mine borderlines. He doesnt seem to be facing the reality of how much life is going to change but sometimes he does. He seems to teter between getting it and not getting it. Though we had to visit L&D last night for my blood pressure and we could pretty clearly hear a woman push her baby out and he was a lot more shocked by the noise than i expected him to be. He was like dumbfounded!

Haha, that story made me smile.

It reminds me of a good friend who was expecting her first. They took the hospital tour a few weeks before her due date and saw a nurse pushing one of the babies through the hallway. Her husband turned to her and said "look, they have a doll in there". When she told him that was an actual baby he responded "that's too small!" She gave him a hard time about that for a while.

TheHauntedHauswife · May 2016

AmberLiz99 Hah! thats great. Honestly it even caught me a tiny bit off guard because i have been in this L&D ward 2 other times before and you cant heard ANYTHING. So to all the sudden hear a woman SCREAMING and then a moment later silence, and a moment later screaming baby, he just turned at looked at me like it was the craziest thing he ever heard!

HeartLikeMine3 · May 2016

My DH doesn't get it either. I'm 38 weeks was dilated to a 3 last Monday and he's out of town for the night almost 4 hours away. We were induced with our first so he thinks that's gonna happen that way again.

WaitingMay14 · May 2016

I think they come to terms with it little by little. My husband bought a new car last week without telling me and then couldn't understand why I was so upset. He later explained that the baby would be here soon and he wanted a safe vehicle. Hearing him say that made me understand that he is really beginning to process becoming a dad and his idea of being ready is different from mine.

ahernandez16 · May 2016

I think mine just doesn't realize what having a baby will entail. He realizes it's coming soon though and seems to be getting excited. He told me the other day, "I think it's time for the boy to come out." Up until then he had been kind of freaked any time I mentioned how little time was left.

Linsbins · May 2016

My dh just realized why I keep bugging him to help me pack the hospital bag (things he's in charge of, like a change of clothes for himself and double checking everything on the camera). Thank goodness I'm due at the end of June, because having the 1st around the corner has been helpful. He did the car seat, replaced the blinds, and is currently putting a swing together.

bprowess · May 2016

I think it hit DH yesterday. I was resting and next thing I know he was in her nursery (something he has never done without me calling him in there to do something). I went in to see what he was doing, and he was putting together the rocker...something that I said I would do. He even created his own to do list. I guess me mentioning that we are 2 weeks from my due date helped reality to settle in.

alohasoprano · May 2016

Baby is coming tomorrow morning and DH came home from work on Friday and has been so excited to be on paternity leave he's calling it his "baby-cation" haha I laugh when I'm in a good mood but give the stink eye otherwise

alw12290 · May 2016

My husband is the complete opposite. This is my second, his first and every wince I make, he freaks out!! he is starting to annoy me a little lol I know it's cute and sweet he's concerned but every time he asks are you alright and doesn't believe me! I told him you will know when I'm in labor haha. I've had contractions every day almost all day since 35 weeks, midwife said that is probably going to be normal for me. It is so funny how each man differs.

alitria · May 2016

This weekend I was a huge flurry of last minute getting ready. I packed my bag, finished prepping diapers, packed a diaper bag, installed the infant car seat base in my car and moved my son's car seat, etc. I asked my husband to install the car seat base in his truck and suggested he pack a small bag for himself since he might be at the hospital long enough to want clean clothes or to brush his teeth. He asked me if I could just do the car seat since I did mine (no, you have an Xterra and I can barely climb in the front seat at this point, much less move the giant Britax and install everything) and then cleaned his desk. I'm looking really forward to listening to him whine and complain at the hospital because he's wearing wet clothes (waterbirth for me) and he has to drive home to install the car seat. Last time we had nothing ready because he refused to do anything "so early" our son was born at 34 weeks. At least this time, I have a crib and a car seat.

Knottie13257900 · May 2016

Mine was...until a couple weeks before the due date. Then all of a sudden he wanted to do all this stuff, pack, talk about the feeding/diapering schedule etc. Now I'm the one who's like "oh we'll just figure it out later."

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