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After the NICU

mbrunettimbrunetti member
in April 2016 Moms
My son was born full term at 39 weeks on April 1, but his lungs were not fully developed and he ended up in the NICU for 16 days. I was 4 days post C-section with a 3yo at home and it was all me. 16 hours a day driving an hour each way to be with my son. Unable to hold him, feed him, anything. It was traumatic. They put him on a paralysis medication to allow ventilators to do their jobs, he had chest tubes, X-rays, morphine withdrawal...a nightmare! He is now home, healthy and wonderful! What I did not expect after the NICU was the"grieving" for the relationships that developed during that time. I feel crazy and my emotions came flooding back today only because I brought gifts and thank you's in to our special nurses. Has anyone else experienced this? Is it strange to try to stay in touch with these angels that become such a part of your life? I just don't know why I'm still so emotional about it.  

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Re: After the NICU

  • MrsZkoMrsZko member
    This is not exactly the same situation but I believe that I do understand very well. I went through two second trimester losses between my two living sons. My OB and his team were such a huge part of my life for the past 2 years, during those pregnancies, follow up appointments and ultimately this pregnancy which was successful. I felt extremely attached to them, because they were part of my support network, I had seen them so frequently, and essentially were such a huge part of my life, specifically this part of my life. I had my 6 week postpartum checkup and I just felt so emotional that this was it. I wouldn't see them again (as we've decided to be done). I told myself I would go visit them once in a while and keep in touch, send Christmas cards, etc. But it is like a crazy, emotional roller-coaster finally ending and not continuing to have these people in my life as I move on to a better chapter. I think it's normal to feel that way...I don't think everyone would feel the same but as a very emotional and sensitive person that is how I live it. I try to not dwell on it and focus on the amazing new life we have now, with our healthy sweet boy completing our family. But I do mourn a bit the loss of that network who helped me so so much.
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