We'll definitely be finding out the gender! We're much too excited to find out, and I'm a big planner. If this one is another girl, we'll be doing pink princess everything! We are super girlie girls here! And if the baby is a boy, we're doing a knights/dragons and castle theme.
With DS I had to know ASAP, with DD we kept it a surprise just for fun and I found that I really liked knowing better, so this time around we'll find out.
I'd like to be surprised at the birth. I think the biggest thing that set me is hearing my mom talk about me, in womb. She always says 'the baby' regardless that it clearly is now me. Because I wasn't me... yet. I got to be me and she learned me. I've seen many people develop an identity for the baby long before they're even born - to be fair, I've seen people allow the child to be what they are even when knowing the sex/naming them as well.
I want to get to know my baby when they're here to be known. I know it doesn't work that way for everyone. To me it's the possibilities and learning the person they show up as. It seems so exciting!
@poetryandoceans I also hate pink frilly dresses! I refuse to put any daughter of mine in them... up until the point she says "mommy I want that." Then she can have all she wants.
@Mylitta I couldn't agree with you more about people creating identities for their kids before they're even out of the womb. A lady that I went to school with had 5 daughters and they just had their first son... I feel sort of horrible for the kid because they have hyped up so much that he's a boy that it feels like he'll always be groomed into being "daddy's little manly man". God forbid the kid turns out to not like sports or doesn't grow an epic beard the minute he hits puberty.
ETA: I think we're going to find out the sex of the baby. Not because it matters in the sense of gender stereotypes but because I'd like to have the 9 months to at least come out with a rudimentary plan of attack with OH on how we might want to handle sex-specific things as we figure out our identities as soon-to-be parents (circumcision is the most immediate thing that comes to mind, but I'm sure there's other stuff I'm not thinking of right now)
I voted that we hadn't talked about it, but before I got pregnant we mentioned in passing not wanting to find out the sex. But unless SO now has a really strong opinion I will probably just see how I feel down the line. It is my first so I don't have any old clothes to consider using versus selling. I know people mention planning, but does having a boy vs a girl radically change plans?
I voted that we hadn't talked about it, but before I got pregnant we mentioned in passing not wanting to find out the sex. But unless SO now has a really strong opinion I will probably just see how I feel down the line. It is my first so I don't have any old clothes to consider using versus selling. I know people mention planning, but does having a boy vs a girl radically change plans?
In my opinion, not at all. This was a huge pet peeve of mine while I was pregnant. SO many people would ask how we could prepare not knowing. These were mostly people I didn't even know. You can't prepare for a girl or boy much differently in terms of baby needs and supplies. I will say as a pp mentioned with a boy you need to come to a decision about circumcision but you can decide what you would do if you had a boy and just see what happens.
I want to find out early this time and will have the MaterniT 21 test done towards the end of first trimester. The test is solely to check for chromosome abnormalities since I am 37. Finding out the sex is just bonus. We were team green the first time around and in all honesty, it wasn't all it was cracked up to be for me. Maybe it's because in my mind it was 100% a boy (and it was!) that I didn't feel surprised AT ALL. I don't want to find out because I need to plan things differently. I want to find out early because I just feel like it.
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I can't imagine not knowing! Our nursery will be pretty gender neutral but in terms of planning, I mentally need to know! I totally respect team green, I'm just too impatient. I don't know how I'm going to make it through this pregnancy as it is
We're team green, not only will the surprise be awesome, but it'll pretty much force me (and family/friends) to get all gender neutral things that we can reuse if we decide to have another. We've thought about the idea of having a "gender reveal cake" at the baby shower and then just making the inside of it green, but that might be too mean to all the guests, hah.
I'm losing my mind...I can't remember if I replied to this or just in my mind. I'm trying to convince DH to be team green this time (we found out for our first two), but I also think a surprise would be fun because it would drive my family NUTS!
We're team green, not only will the surprise be awesome, but it'll pretty much force me (and family/friends) to get all gender neutral things that we can reuse if we decide to have another. We've thought about the idea of having a "gender reveal cake" at the baby shower and then just making the inside of it green, but that might be too mean to all the guests, hah.
We will definitely find out. It's a Surprise no matter when you find out. I loved hearing "it's a girl" during the ultrasound with DH when I was just laying there comfortably and able to really enjoy it. I always remember my Mom telling me after her 48 hour long labour with my brother how exhausted she was when they said "it's a boy!" She was just so tired she angrily said to my dad "great, you got what you wanted.." Even though she was happy she just didn't enjoy it. I'm a big planner too and want to know if we will be using all DD's hand me downs or getting boy things.
@katesmama0706 I wouldn't call it unusual persay, but more common that they don't and send you to another location even if that's another floor/department.
Re: Are you planning on finding out the gender?
I can't even wait 20 weeks. Let alone 40!
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I want to get to know my baby when they're here to be known. I know it doesn't work that way for everyone. To me it's the possibilities and learning the person they show up as. It seems so exciting!
ETA: I think we're going to find out the sex of the baby. Not because it matters in the sense of gender stereotypes but because I'd like to have the 9 months to at least come out with a rudimentary plan of attack with OH on how we might want to handle sex-specific things as we figure out our identities as soon-to-be parents (circumcision is the most immediate thing that comes to mind, but I'm sure there's other stuff I'm not thinking of right now)
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So I decided to pre plan a Bris and call the Mohel ahead of time. Tell him my team green plan.
If we end up having a girl the party will just turn into a welcoming gathering. Minus the Mohel of course.
You have 8 days after the birth so make two plans and put someone in charge of changing the arrangements if you baby is a girl.
Either way baby should be celebrated
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