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One twin HATES babysitter!!

candace4erichcandace4erich member
in December 2015 Moms
So, my wonderful (though sometimes annoying) mother has left after being here since I was on bed rest in November. With the absurd cost of childcare up here, we calculated it's cheaper to get a part time nanny for our girls than send them to daycare part time so I can build my semi-home-run business. We've tried out a couple who we like and who have great experience, credentials, etc...but Gwendolyn starts crying her head of within a couple minutes of being near them! When we did working interviews with them, the only thing that would calm Gwendolyn was me taking her away and calming her down. However, Penelope is a happy little goober playing with them and actually being less fussy than she it's with me sometimes!

Could this be separation anxiety starting already? I'm having extreme mom guilt over having to leave her with a nanny, but I've got no choice a few times this week. Any advice, mamas??
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Re: One twin HATES babysitter!!

  • dec15mumdec15mum member
    No advise but I'm going through the same thing, Zachary will not take to anyone but me and sometimes my SO. He's fine with people if I'm there but if I leave long than about an hour he will just scream, I don't know why to do either- I go to college in August as well so I'm hoping it passes by then!
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  • Mizuiro007Mizuiro007 member
    DD is 5.5 months and showing signs of separation anxiety. I remember with DS it helped playing peek a boo a lot because it helps build the concept of object permanence. I've been doing the same with DD and it's semi helping but mostly as soon as she realizes one of us isn't there she gets upset and she's usually a pretty happy baby.

    If they're willing, keep working with whoever you pick. As she gets used to them that should help a lot. My first is still really shy and gets overwhelmed with family gatherings but if he sees relatives he recognizes (like my aunt) he'll go to that person and be fine even if it isn't hubby or I.

    I went through it on the other side working in a day care. I had to start over most mornings but after mom left and they were there for a short while they calmed down pretty quickly and everything was fine.
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  • tepr14tepr14 member
    I agree with pp....I don't have advice from the mama side. Working with children though, it's pretty common typically after a parent has left they usually calm down pretty quickly. I'd like to think most people who choose to work with children know it comes with the territory, give it some time and hopefully she'll adjust. Whoever you've hired I'm sure they know how to handle the situation, it just takes time to build that trust.

    Since it's a nanny though, I wonder is it possible if you could be there at the same time for awhile until she gets a little more used to them?


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  • candace4erichcandace4erich member
    Thanks, mamas! The nanny we had here a couple days ago was great. I stuck around (out of sight) for a few hours and she did great with both girls. Gwendolyn flipped out a little bit, but it was all in all a good experience. I'll definitely make sure I play peekaboo and other games more to help ease anxieties.
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