My bitch is about the mom's day out program DD goes to every Tuesday/Thursday. Since she started last September she has caught some kind of bug or virus EVERY SINGLE MONTH. I know they are going to get sick more often around other kids, and it builds immunity, blah blah, but I'm seriously starting to question the cleanliness of DD's classroom. She came down with a fever yesterday afternoon, and I know she caught it from preschool because I overheard one of the mom's talking about her daughter just getting over a fever and tonsillitis AS SHE IS DROPPING HER OFF. Last month she had pink eye, the month before that she had a cold, the month before that the flu, another cold virus the month before that, hand foot mouth disease, etc etc. Is it normal for kids to get sick that often at preschool?? My SIL claims her kids never get sick from MDO, so I just don't know if I should pull her out and find a better program.
It rained all day both Saturday and Sunday . This has been my constant bitch and I just want a weekend were I can enjoy the outside. It rained going into work but is sunny now, not that I can go out and enjoy it...
@TheTamedShrew- my kiddo is in daycare 4 days a week in an "Infant Room" which is birth to about 2 or 2.5 years old depending on where they need to shift kiddos. Not so much in the summer months but in the winter months he is sick monthly.. always with a cold, that (before tubes) always turned into an ear infection, and now tends to turn into bronchiolitis or some sort of upper respiratory tract gunk before clearing. It's a different situation because of the young age and putting everything into their mouths, etc. but I trust that the room he is in is well cleaned and the germs are inevitable. I almost wondering if Emmett going more often has helped him get more used to it as he seems to get sick less often now that he's there more days?
hahaha, @TheTamedShreweither FOS or the luckiest parent I've ever heard of. Whenever I complain about my little dude being sick a lot the consensus I get is "he's a kid" or "He's a kid in daycare, get used to it!" So we somewhat have. But after he's healthy for a couple weeks and he wakes up feeling warm or his nose is all crusty I get so frustrated I just want to scream. Life is easier on him and all of us when he's healthy
Can my Monday bitchfest just be that it is Monday? It was miserable all weekend and now that I am at work it's sunny at 70 degrees. I took off tomorrow and they are calling for crappy weather, and when I'm back to work on Wednesday its going to be sunny and 85
Also, did an iPhone software update and now my battery is draining a million times faster than normal. I hate software updates when there is nothing wrong with the existing software
So this weekend I first proceeded to break my toe which makes it super fun to carry my 15 month old around. Then last night when making dinner for my husband for our anniversary I burned my hand. I don't know if this is just increased clumsiness from pregnancy that is causing me to hurt myself but I'm over it!
Oh oh and then my mother decides she thinks she should have another kid with her husband (married about 5 years), because he never had a kid of his own. She is trying to find anyone who thinks its a good idea but none of us do. Her husband doesn't even want to. Plus it annoys me more because she lives like 5 minutes from us and doesn't want to watch our kids very often but seriously thought she wanted to start over with another kid of her own.
My bitch is about my grandfather-in-law. We're taking a 10+ hour road trip across a few states to visit family and he is insisting that a) we all caravan together despite taking three separate cars in the very unlikely even that someone has car trouble or gets a flat and b) he's insisting that we leave at 4 freaking AM! There is NO reason we need to leave that early. There isn't an event or anything we need to be there for on our road trip day, and to be honest, I'm probably not going to be up for meeting all these new people (I've only met them all once, briefly, at my wedding, which hardly counts) after 10-12 hours on the road. I hate to say it, but pregnancy has made it difficult for me to keep my cool when I'm annoyed, frustrated or just plain cranky, and he's basically insisting on a thousand conditions that are going ensure the fact that I'm super cranky.
DH agrees that grandpa is being unreasonable, but doesn't want to cause a stink about it since "he never asks for anything." Grandpa apparently "very nicely" offered to leave at 5 am instead of 4, as if that's any better.... Well in my opinion, he's still asking for too much!!
@TheTamedShrew Your SIL is full of shit or has kids with the best immune systems ever. I spent almost the whole first year I worked in childcare being sick, and I have an adult's immune system. After that first year, though, I rarely got sick (until I was pregnant).
@TheTamedShrew - DS and DD were constantly sick their first year of daycare. We didn't need to put them in daycare until they were 4 1/2. But once they started, wow! It seemed like they were getting colds or had fevers every few weeks. Since they started Kinder, it hasn't been so bad. So I'm more apt to believe that their immune system actually benefited from the year in daycare.
We're having F2F meetings in June, so a lot of my team is coming in from out of town. One night we're having a team building event and everyone is going bowling. I let my boss know what I will not be bowling due to the fact that I'll be almost 30 weeks pregnant so just no. (Let's be honest, you could use my belly as a bowling ball now.) But she made sure to tell me that I should still go and participate by chatting with everyone and blah blah blah. This doesn't sound like my idea of fun. There are some people on the team that flat out annoy me and, tbh, even now I just want to go home, relax and sleep. I don't want to feel like I have to play nice with you people. I'm growing humans. Leave me alone!
@TheTamedShrew When my kiddo started daycare full-time (at 18 months old) she had a chronic cough. I used to joke that it was kennel cough. She got ear infections (not enough to warrant tubes, but more than once) and caught hand foot and mouth TWICE. Once she had been in for a year or two things seemed to calm down. Since she entered kindergarten, she's gotten more colds/coughs than she usually does. I honestly think it's a frequency of exposure thing.
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Also, did an iPhone software update and now my battery is draining a million times faster than normal. I hate software updates when there is nothing wrong with the existing software
THIS! When i had my iphone 5s last year and it updated to iOS 8, i think, it just screwed my phone up SO BAD. I couldnt handle it. Constant battery drainage, couldnt get text messages in and out, wifi issues. I got so fed up with it that I changed to an LG G3. I was an Apple loyalist and it pissed me off that much that i switched brands!
I just burped and it tasted like nachos... I had a peanut butter and jelly for lunch. I think the nachos were just wishful thinking.. but now I want some.
One, I don't think it's DC itself that makes kids sick, it's bad parents that send their kids to school while sick. My daughter is almost 4.5 and has been in DC/preschool since 4 months. She had one cold, one stomach virus and RSV. She nor any of the kids in her class had chronic runny noses or colds. They all stayed generally healthy and hardly missed school. But, all of the parents are really good about keeping their kids home with any sign of sickness and DC was really strict on their sickness policy.
My other bitchfest is that pregnancy makes my husband way less tolerable and now everything he does annoys me.
I don't feel like a bad parent for sending my son to daycare with a runny nose, and I don't think less of other parents if their kids are there and their noses are running. There's obviously a level of sick that daycare doesn't take and that I wouldn't even try to send him there with but to suggest that because your kid has only been sick 3 times that others are bad parents? F that.
I haven't had one of these in a while and now I have two, go figure.
1.) My sister is visiting this weekend. My mom has been spending her time off after surgery buying baby stuff for her house and ours, which we appreciate to the extreme, and making baby clothes. Well my dear sister threw a fit last night after dinner with my mom, DH and I about how she was sick of it always being about the baby and me and she had stuff going on too, and how DH and I were selfish for making it all about us when she came so far to visit (a 2 hour drive). I know you do I said, I specifically sat down and chatted with you when you got here about how things were going (she's job hunting after being demoted from her current job). I tried to be pretty diplomatic about what she said because if you blow up at her it just gets 1000 times worse. But inside I'm like yes, it's about me, DH and the baby. For once in our relationship, people are excited about something I'M doing. Because for the last 6+ years it's been about her and her sobriety and what bloody treatment centre she's going to now. My wedding was even railroaded by her and her addiction because she relapsed the day before and everyone came up to me during the reception asking me why she was drinking. So I don't feel bad for enjoying the attention on me and DH for once.
2.) My sex drive went through the roof at the end of my first trimester when my energy started coming back. Unfortunately this was also around the time where I had a bleeding incident and was diagnosed with placenta previa and put on pelvic rest, so no sex allowed. DH and I did other stuff, sure, but we're both all kind of about the main event, you know? Just had another ultrasound, and the placenta is moving up where it should, so DH automatically assumes my sex drive is exactly where it was a month and a half ago.... yeah not so much. I have no desire to whatsoever. But the bigger problem is, I still want to cuddle and show affection in other ways obviously, which he ALWAYS takes as a green light that I want to get down. No, sometimes I just want to be close to you. And then he gets upset that I'm turning him down. But he also doesn't want me to do it just for him, well thanks dear. So he's upset that I don't want to have sex, and I'm upset because he rarely wants to cuddle it anymore because he feels it's me leading him on... FML
I don't feel like a bad parent for sending my son to daycare with a runny nose, and I don't think less of other parents if their kids are there and their noses are running. There's obviously a level of sick that daycare doesn't take and that I wouldn't even try to send him there with but to suggest that because your kid has only been sick 3 times that others are bad parents? F that.
Yeah, this. I know at the two daycares I worked at, parents paid for days even if the child was absent (with the exception of one week of vacation per year). It would have been insane for them to keep their child home for every tiny runny nose or even a low grade fever. Especially when we were often their only form of childcare, and they would be doubly hit by having to take a day off of work to care for a not actaually sick child. On top of that, and granted I'm no expert on this, but I'm fairly certain most viruses are contagious before symptoms present themselves. Meaning a child could pick up an illness outside of daycare and spread it before anyone even realized they had it.
I don't feel like a bad parent for sending my son to daycare with a runny nose, and I don't think less of other parents if their kids are there and their noses are running. There's obviously a level of sick that daycare doesn't take and that I wouldn't even try to send him there with but to suggest that because your kid has only been sick 3 times that others are bad parents? F that.
I agree, sometimes kids just get colds. I won't keep my child home from preschool if her nose is running. However if that runny nose is greenish, accompanied by cough/congestion or fever then I will. Sometimes a runny nose is just allergies and sometimes it's contagious. Also, if your child had a fever yesterday, and not today, that doesn't mean they are not still contagious. More serious viruses like flu and RSV can be contagious for weeks, even with the absence of a fever. I do think parents are a little to eager to drop their kid off sometimes because they can't take off work or are paying for it. I also think classrooms require more cleaning than just spraying with Lysol and vacuuming.
We've kind of already gotten past this but... yesterday was LOs 2nd birthday party and DH was acting like such a pain in the ass drama queen the whole time!! I planned EVERYTHING; venue, date, invitations, menu, decorations, even LOs bday gift! All DH was responsible for was food. He smoked a few chickens the day before and made a watermelon salad and cupcakes. We had the party at a park in the neighborhood and I loaded all of the tables, decor, tent, chairs, food and gifts into cars and unloaded with my mom at the park, and set up the whole party while DH was at home frantically throwing together the food and taking a shower. He was an hour late. He was also in charge of beverages (in which I bought a new cooler and put in the trunk of his car) and all he bought was beer. For a 2yr old bday party, beer. No water, juice, lemonade for the 10 kids and 3 pregnant ppl (including his wife). He did appologize for acting like a huge boob and crumbling under the pressure and is 99.995 of the time an absolute wonderful husband and father. But yesterday was a huge FAIL on his part.
DH and I were going to look at a bigger car on Saturday at a dealership an hour away, and just as we were leaving town, I saw on the website that they closed at 2:00. It was 2:30. I was so mad, it's so hard to convince H to do anything on the weekend, let alone drive an hour one way. But we are going to look at it Saturday, if it's still there. I love it, I really hope it is!!
I am not much of a drinker, but I keep seeing more and more advertisements for the summer seasonal beers and I am sad I can't try them. I love a lot of the summer seasonal beers.
@marajay6 - same! I haven't missed alcohol one bit since I got my BFP. And then on Saturday, DH and I were enjoying some nice patio time and I realized I couldn't order a summer shandy So sad!
1. My company set up some sort of extra security that basically makes it impossible for me to be in the Bump. I know, I know, I shouldn't be on at work anyway, but it was nice while it lasted. Now I have to use the mobile site, and it's super annoying.
2. DH + me = big stupid fight yesterday. Over nothing. Resolved now, but the hormone struggle is real.
3. I didn't really miss acohol either (cutting back on caffeine was WAY harder) but a sangria or a good summer beer or a frozen cocktail sounds amazing. I just want to go to happy hour with coworkers and not feel like an outsider.
4. It's raining. My allergies are killing me. I feel like I can't breathe at all.
Thanks ladies for having this board so we all can vent!!
My bitchfest is this house. It is gigantic. It is too big for the two of us and will still be too big when there are three of us. It's hard to keep clean.
I don't mind handling chores, I really don't. But there are some things I can't do or are harder now that I'm pregnant and some days I just really want some help. My husband helps when I ask, and occasionally will do stuff without me asking, but some things (like the cat litter boxes) are things I think should be taken care of without me having to act like a daily reminder.
I know I mention this like...every chance I can but this freaking vomiting needs to stop. I have thrown up almost every day since January and it's getting so old.
even with the 2 anti nausea pills I am on. ughhhhhhhhhhhh
Oh and also fiancé is in complete denial about how much things cost, like houses.... it's super annoying when he sets a budget and a needs list that don't match at all and then gets frustrated with the realtor and I when we haven't found a house yet. Like give up your ridiculous list or give me more money dammit!
My rant is about the weather. It has rained for almost 3 weeks straight and has been a lot cooler than normal. I just want some sun and warm weather before it becomes too unbearable to be outside!
I'm late to the party, but my bitch is SPD. It's hell, and I cant believe it's started this early with this pregnancy. The pain is unreal. Stupid pelvis.
@yellowrose314 girl I feel you on the sister thing. When I announced my pregnancy to my sister, which I had planned to do in a cute and funny way to more than just her but she tends to crap all over every plan ever, she pitched a fit much like the one your sister had. She was pissed off that we were making it about me when she had bought a "new" used car that day and how that was exciting for her but no one cared (we all went on and on about how cute her car was and wanting to see it the moment we pulled into the damned driveway, a half hour before I told her about the baby), and then she eventually half-ass apologized, saying she was sorry but she had a "stressful day at the dealership with daddy" (aka my abusive ex-stepfather).
My Monday bitchfest:
1. I have had Mondays off for a couple of months now (I work Tuesday through Saturday, used to work Monday through Saturday), and today I started working Mondays again telemarketing for my mom who sells insurance. I should add that I'd rather eat shit and die than cold call people.
2. It was so, so beautiful out and I was stuck in my mom's frigid house revising my call script with her.
3. I was supposed to go to my BFFs today and spend the day with her and my 11 month old god-daughter, and she was going to do my hair, which didn't happen because I was working. WAH.
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It's a different situation because of the young age and putting everything into their mouths, etc. but I trust that the room he is in is well cleaned and the germs are inevitable. I almost wondering if Emmett going more often has helped him get more used to it as he seems to get sick less often now that he's there more days?
Oh oh and then my mother decides she thinks she should have another kid with her husband (married about 5 years), because he never had a kid of his own. She is trying to find anyone who thinks its a good idea but none of us do. Her husband doesn't even want to. Plus it annoys me more because she lives like 5 minutes from us and doesn't want to watch our kids very often but seriously thought she wanted to start over with another kid of her own.
DH agrees that grandpa is being unreasonable, but doesn't want to cause a stink about it since "he never asks for anything." Grandpa apparently "very nicely" offered to leave at 5 am instead of 4, as if that's any better.... Well in my opinion, he's still asking for too much!!
We're having F2F meetings in June, so a lot of my team is coming in from out of town. One night we're having a team building event and everyone is going bowling. I let my boss know what I will not be bowling due to the fact that I'll be almost 30 weeks pregnant so just no. (Let's be honest, you could use my belly as a bowling ball now.) But she made sure to tell me that I should still go and participate by chatting with everyone and blah blah blah. This doesn't sound like my idea of fun. There are some people on the team that flat out annoy me and, tbh, even now I just want to go home, relax and sleep. I don't want to feel like I have to play nice with you people. I'm growing humans. Leave me alone!
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One, I don't think it's DC itself that makes kids sick, it's bad parents that send their kids to school while sick.
My daughter is almost 4.5 and has been in DC/preschool since 4 months. She had one cold, one stomach virus and RSV. She nor any of the kids in her class had chronic runny noses or colds. They all stayed generally healthy and hardly missed school. But, all of the parents are really good about keeping their kids home with any sign of sickness and DC was really strict on their sickness policy.
My other bitchfest is that pregnancy makes my husband way less tolerable and now everything he does annoys me.
1.) My sister is visiting this weekend. My mom has been spending her time off after surgery buying baby stuff for her house and ours, which we appreciate to the extreme, and making baby clothes. Well my dear sister threw a fit last night after dinner with my mom, DH and I about how she was sick of it always being about the baby and me and she had stuff going on too, and how DH and I were selfish for making it all about us when she came so far to visit (a 2 hour drive). I know you do I said, I specifically sat down and chatted with you when you got here about how things were going (she's job hunting after being demoted from her current job). I tried to be pretty diplomatic about what she said because if you blow up at her it just gets 1000 times worse. But inside I'm like yes, it's about me, DH and the baby. For once in our relationship, people are excited about something I'M doing. Because for the last 6+ years it's been about her and her sobriety and what bloody treatment centre she's going to now. My wedding was even railroaded by her and her addiction because she relapsed the day before and everyone came up to me during the reception asking me why she was drinking. So I don't feel bad for enjoying the attention on me and DH for once.
2.) My sex drive went through the roof at the end of my first trimester when my energy started coming back. Unfortunately this was also around the time where I had a bleeding incident and was diagnosed with placenta previa and put on pelvic rest, so no sex allowed. DH and I did other stuff, sure, but we're both all kind of about the main event, you know? Just had another ultrasound, and the placenta is moving up where it should, so DH automatically assumes my sex drive is exactly where it was a month and a half ago.... yeah not so much. I have no desire to whatsoever. But the bigger problem is, I still want to cuddle and show affection in other ways obviously, which he ALWAYS takes as a green light that I want to get down. No, sometimes I just want to be close to you. And then he gets upset that I'm turning him down. But he also doesn't want me to do it just for him, well thanks dear. So he's upset that I don't want to have sex, and I'm upset because he rarely wants to cuddle it anymore because he feels it's me leading him on... FML
I love beer. I love outside drinking on a patio. Being pregnant during the spring/summer is rough for me.
1. My company set up some sort of extra security that basically makes it impossible for me to be in the Bump. I know, I know, I shouldn't be on at work anyway, but it was nice while it lasted. Now I have to use the mobile site, and it's super annoying.
2. DH + me = big stupid fight yesterday. Over nothing. Resolved now, but the hormone struggle is real.
3. I didn't really miss acohol either (cutting back on caffeine was WAY harder) but a sangria or a good summer beer or a frozen cocktail sounds amazing. I just want to go to happy hour with coworkers and not feel like an outsider.
4. It's raining. My allergies are killing me. I feel like I can't breathe at all.
Thanks ladies for having this board so we all can vent!!
I don't mind handling chores, I really don't. But there are some things I can't do or are harder now that I'm pregnant and some days I just really want some help. My husband helps when I ask, and occasionally will do stuff without me asking, but some things (like the cat litter boxes) are things I think should be taken care of without me having to act like a daily reminder.
I have thrown up almost every day since January and it's getting so old.
even with the 2 anti nausea pills I am on.
ughhhhhhhhhhhh
Oh and also fiancé is in complete denial about how much things cost, like houses.... it's super annoying when he sets a budget and a needs list that don't match at all and then gets frustrated with the realtor and I when we haven't found a house yet. Like give up your ridiculous list or give me more money dammit!
End rant. Phew.
My Monday bitchfest:
1. I have had Mondays off for a couple of months now (I work Tuesday through Saturday, used to work Monday through Saturday), and today I started working Mondays again telemarketing for my mom who sells insurance. I should add that I'd rather eat shit and die than cold call people.
2. It was so, so beautiful out and I was stuck in my mom's frigid house revising my call script with her.
3. I was supposed to go to my BFFs today and spend the day with her and my 11 month old god-daughter, and she was going to do my hair, which didn't happen because I was working. WAH.