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Ladies I need serious advice- DH lost his job

KareninKarenin member
in January 2016 Moms
So, DH was let go today. He is a consultant in big four accounting and you may remember we moved while I was pregnant. When we moved DH's current big 4 had no openings in the city we wanted to move to, but he got hired by another one and left his old firm with good relationships. He has been with this new firm 9 months but was hired for one specific account. Everything was going really well, but then two weeks ago his manager (who Dh had never liked and worried did not like him) said he was unhappy with some performance things, but it was nothing very serious (improving communication etc). There was no formal improvement plan etc., but DH tried to address the concerns but the manager never commented after that one conversation on how things were going and DH was called to HR today where he was told he was being let go because he was hired for this account and the manager on that account no longer wants to work with him. It turns out his old firm has an opening in our new city (they had no openings here when we moved), so he wants to reach out to his old boss to see if he can get considered for the job. Our question is, what will his firm say/what can he say about being let go? I want him to be able to say he was hired for one account and they no longer needed him for that account so he was let go. He is going to follow up with HR now to ask what they will say about him when asked but neither of us has even been fired before and so I don't know what is typical in these situations. Anyone with any knowledge or advice? I just don't want his career to be poisoned by this. Stress level is through. the. roof.

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    denaebdenaeb member
    I would suggest he be honest with the potential new employer. People value honesty. If he tells them one thing and HR at the former firm tells another story they're going to question your DHs integrity which is worse than the actual fact of being fired. He should tell them that it was the manager's issue and he tried to correct what he could but they weren't able to find a resolution.  If he already has a good relationship with this firm they will likely overlook that he was fired.
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    KFrobKFrob member
    I agree with PP. When I was three months pregnant a similar situation happened with my DH.  He was back to work within a couple of months. Your DH has to find a way to tell the truth, but put a positive spin on what happened, and let a potential employer know that it was a learning experience. 
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    ChrissyD1203ChrissyD1203 member
    Many places only confirm title, dates of employment and salary so he might as well ask.
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    ctmamaoftwoctmamaoftwo member
    My husband also works for a large consulting company. And I know if he were to get a new job they could not be used as a reference. The only questions they can answer are, "did he work there?, what dates? And is he rehire able" if he was fired the last would probably be a no. But having worked in recruiting for years having a good relationship with the hiring company would completely trump that. Especially if his manager would give him a positive reference or even be willing to send him an internal referral link for the position available. I would recommend him being honest that he was hired for a specific account, which he enjoyed working on but unfortanutly the culture within the management group wasn't a good fit. Ect...
    Even if he doesn't get this specific job having worked for the big four is always a great stand out on a resume and I'm sure he'll be back in work in no time! 
    Best of luck!
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    KareninKarenin member
    Thank you ladies! I've been losing my mind all day and this makes me feel like maybe at least this isn't a "his professional life is over" situation. Thank you for the advice about how to address it!

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    l4rkl4rk member
    He will likely be judged 100% on the work he previously did for the hiring company. The entire point of references is to get a feel for someone you don't know. They do know him, so the other company's opinion won't really matter. And not meshing with one person in management is a good reason to be let go, relatively speaking, so he could be honest but brief when explaining what happened.
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    BarrettJ89BarrettJ89 member
    edited May 2016
    As far as I know (don't quote me) , potential employers who are contacting previous employers can only ask about dates, salary, performance, etc but not why you (or DH) left. 
    My SO was "let go" the day our first child was born. His boss was a royal you know what, and congratulated him (after texting all night "is baby here yet?") and fired him all in the same breath by saying how she knows that he wanted to be home with the baby for a while. Uhhh, yes, but that was also our only income, and she knew that. He ended up getting in contact with her to find out what happened, she fired him because when I told him I was being induced, he left his computer open with his updated resume. Apparently, that was "a slap in the face because it clearly meant he was looking to move on." This bitch was craaaazy.
    Anyways, future employers always asked dates of employment and such, but it was never mentioned to any of them that he was fired. 

    I'm sorry you're going through this! Hopefully, he will get into the position he wants without hassle! 
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    fragglemomfragglemom member
    As a former manager I can confirm the above answers.  By law they are not allowed to say anything prejudicial about your husband.  I would recommend that he just tell them that his new job hadn't been the right fit for him and that he would be much happier with his old company.  It's all true.  Everyone accepts that sometimes things just don't click.  If he worked there before and was well liked then I doubt they will even contact his previous job. 
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    ChrissyD1203ChrissyD1203 member
    Glad it worked out!!! 
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