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Daycare Schedule

Wigglesx2Wigglesx2 member
in October 2015 Moms
I did a search and didn't see that anyone else had asked or said this...I apologize if someone has, I don't use this app much anymore because I don't like the updates. 

The daycare refuses to use a set schedule. Is this normal? I'm not saying if the baby refuses his bottle at noon he doesn't get one, of course just give it to him later when he does want it. The daycare changes his schedule everyday. So sometimes he gets 3 bottles, sometimes it's 2. Sometimes he has 2 naps, sometimes more. Sometimes he's finally taking an afternoon nap at 5, sometimes he hasn't. And when I pick him up 20 mins later, he's been woken up and cranky at this point. Sometimes he has oatmeal at 8, sometimes it's at 11. He was sleeping through the night but now he's waking up 1-4 times a night and taking 6-9 oz bottles but only 3 oz during the day or refuses a bottle. I feel like it's the daycare attending to him at different times every day. 

I'm a full time working mom. Dad works full time too and is rarely home due to his work. Our baby is in daycare about 10 hours a day. I get it- I shouldn't have had a baby if I wasn't going to be home or able to be up all hours of the night but if the daycare doesn't have a schedule it's completely hard for me to have one in the evenings or even on the weekends. I can't do anything. I can't time anything. I feel like our baby isn't getting enough formula or sleep because no one is guiding him.

Am I crazy to think if I'm paying $1000 a month that they can put him on a schedule? I can't NOT work. Things didn't work out as plan and being a stay at home mom isn't an option. I've called other daycares and they don't have room for us until next year. 

And the "well you shouldn't have had a baby then" comments are a little late. 

So yeah, my question is am I being unreasonable to think the daycare could follow a schedule? 
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  • poupoulepoupoule member
    I pay 2500$ dollars a month for a babysitter that comes to my house. I personally think they are too young for a schedule, if she does not nap, she will eat and vice versa. So she is really attentive to babies' needs. If the daycare is following her needs, I think that is the most important. Mine stopped sleeping through the night too, but It is probably developmental, she learned so much these last two months, she eats more, is excited etc. she will go back to sleeping through the night at one point !

    I have heard some daycares put babies on a schedule if the mom wants to, but obviously it means you have to be ok with them forcing the baby to nap even if she cries etc. it is another way of parenting. Since people running daycares are humans, they will have their own way to care for our babies, and if following schedules bother them like it would bother me, you will probably have to find another one. 

    I am sorry your schedules aren't more flexible for you and her dad to see her more, I hope this will change in the future ! 

    Good luck :)
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  • Wigglesx2Wigglesx2 member
    Their reasoning is more that they don't have time to have a schedule I give them because they have other babies. I'm not saying it has to be rigorously but rather a guide. They tell me he's so good they forget about him. 

    Today they gave him a bottle a half hour after we dropped him off, which was an hour after he had his morning bottle because it fit their schedule for the day. He didn't take it because he wasn't hungry- so they complained to me. So they wasted a bottle and wouldn't give him after one until 11. That to me is crazy. We give him a bottle every morning between 6 and 6:30. Why is it unreasonable to ask to offer another bottle at 10 if he doesn't ask for it earlier? Or to know he gets sleepy around 1 so keep an eye on him else he'll fall asleep on the floor and be trampled by the crawlers? 
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  • poupoulepoupoule member
    :( agreed, they need to respect his needs that is the most important thing. That is really telling them they are not doing what you pay them for.  You are not overreacting from what I can read, 
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  • Melissa9481Melissa9481 member
    I don't think it's unreasonable to explain you'd like him on a loose sort of schedule. I worked daycare for over ten years and in the infant room we kind of based everything around 2 hrs. So the parents would let us know last diaper and feeding and 2ish hrs from then we'd check diapers or offer food. Mark we checked on their paper but if they were dry or not interested in eating we'd keep an eye on them and check/offer until ready then base next 2 hr check on that time. Maybe suggest that to the teachers. All else fails talk to the director about your concerns. Good luck! 
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  • carmv01carmv01 member
    edited May 2016
    It probably depends on the daycare. Ours will attempt to follow a nap and/or feeding schedule if you have one and there are usually 6 other babies in his baby room. Ours schedule is something loose like 4 oz every 2-3 hours. At home he goes down for naps pretty easily every 2 hours, but at daycare he's been taking longer to fall asleep because of the distractions, so his wake times are longer there.
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  • jasminelukejasmineluke member
    I work full time and so does my husband and you should NEVER hear comments stating that "well you shouldn't have had kids if you couldn't be home".... That's just heartless and ignorant. I don't have the luxury to stay although I wish I could. 
    I have a nanny that comes to my home and spends 10 hours a day ... That's just where we are ...with student loans, taxes, bills and all other nonense ... Mommas gotta work! 
    I think it's good to listen to baby's needs BUT infants and toddler respond well to routine so I have to agree with routine. The nanny follows basic instructions for routine. Nap times are not solid and rigid but I know baby needs a nap after 3 hours of being up otherwise you can expect a meltdown! Feed times are on point for the most part unless a nap runs a little long give or take 20-30 mins. If they stay on the same routine (roughly) you can anticipate their needs.  They will be hungry and sleepy at certain points of the day and if you have a lose schedule you know when that will be.  As a full time working mom with many responsibilities at home and at work I know i function on a routine ... That's how we are ...although we know ultimately baby is in charge ... I guess u can say we guide towards her that routine and are flexible by maybe 20-30 mins.  She responds well and is thriving because of it.. She happy and meeting all her milestones and sleeps 9-10 hours at night now and she was a true colic baby the first 3 months!
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  • dAsch14dAsch14 member
    I'm really sorry that you're hearing "You shouldn't have had a baby comments" that's really rude, totally untrue, and totally unnecessary! Being a SAHM is not a good fit for everyone.

    I would try to have a meeting/talk with the day care provider. Make your expectations clear. For example "Please make sure that LO has at least 3 bottles a day of 4- 6oz each. He should also have oatmeal 2x a day." And give approximate times with about a 90 minute range.

    The nap part is tough because sometimes babies will just fight sleep until its time to eat again,  but let them know that you'd like him to be put down to sleep whenever he's drowsy, yawning, fussy, etc.

    If the teachers claim that they can't accomplish these tasks you'll need to find another provider that can. Get on some wait lists and maybe hire an in home nanny until those spots open up.

    Good luck!
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