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  • @Wishilivedinflorida I have definitely experienced additional weight and acne in my post-loss body. I have chalked some up to the steroid I am on, but it started before I was even taking that, so it can't all be that. At one point a while back, I was talking to my ob/gyn about being disappointed that I was carrying some extra weight (~10 lbs) and she referenced the losses and the havoc they can play on your body.... She seemed to think it was likely related and told me to not beat myself up over it.

    I held steady at 180 for a long time until all this, but since my series of losses I have been as high as 191 and at one point, just before my last loss had managed to get down to 176 but it all came back after. Partly because of the hormones/body changes and partly because I let go of good habits and allowed myself to indulge... Now my steady seems to be right around 183.

    It's just another fun side effect that we get to manage on top of all the other ones. Good times.

    Me: 40, DH: 35 / Married: 2009; TTC #1: 2013

    2013 - 2015: 5 pregnancies —> 5 miscarriages

    TTCAL with RE (RPL specialist): February 2016

    2016: 3 medicated TI cycles —> 3 medicated IUI cycles: All BFN

    Donor Egg IVF Transfer: May 1, 2017

    May 11, 2017: BFP!! Beta #1: 449.1, Beta #2: 844, Beta #3: 1714

    EDD: 1/17/18, it's a GIRL!  <3 E. L. A. born 12/7/2017








    dpjennifer
  • @fivetimesnoluck Your beta draw is on my birthday. FX!!
    Renee, 34 + Devon, 29 married 08/13 <3
    TTC  09/15
    *TW Loss mentioned*
    BFP 12/15/15 EDD: 08/26/16
    MMC discovered 1/25/16 at 9 +3
    TTCAL 3/2016
    Acupuncture 11/16
    Dx December 2016: unexplained 
    January 2017: 50 mg Clomid + TI =
    BFP #2 01/30/17  Please be a sticky baby!
    EDD: 10/15/17  Measuring ahead! 10/12/17 
    Ambrose born on his due date!

    fivetimesnoluck
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  • I'm so glad the weight/bloat issue was brought up @Wishilivedinflorida. I'm sorry it's happening to you. Ever since my loss, i have a hell of a time getting my rings on and off and have given up wearing my engagement ring altogether fearing it'll get stuck. i haven't gained weight but i'm so bloated and i have started a diet/work out routine about 6 weeks and have yet to see results. so frustrating! 
    TW*** Child and loss mentioned
    Married 10/12
    DS 11/14
    Ectopic 2/16
    PCOS/Ovulation Dysfunction 11/16
    IUI x 3- BFN
    Laparoscopy 3/17 Endo and tubal damage
    IVF- 4/17- 40 eggs retrieved, 10 blasts, 7 pgs tested embryos
    FET- 6/17- BFP!
    Due Feb 15, 2017
  • @brooklyngirl18 yes to the rings!! I mostly wear my wedding band because my engagement is so tight lately. @Wishilivedinflorida I gained maybe 6ish lbs during my pregnancy I lost at 9 weeks and after it seemed to have gained another 6-7 that won't budge. I am back to paleo/PCOS diet and running again and it's almost impossible. I think all the hormones from everything are making it impossible for my body to figure out what is going on. Glad I'm not alone 
    brooklyngirl18
  • I am going to take that as a good omen, @reneeannemm! The blood draw is two days after our 7th anniversary and 10 days before my own birthday, so it would be a great gift!

    The reality is that I have had so many "wouldn't it be great if it all worked out" moments/stories/plans around pregnancy/due date timing that I try really hard not to build up the expectations that much (which is way easier said than done, right?!). Sigh.... we shall see.


    Me: 40, DH: 35 / Married: 2009; TTC #1: 2013

    2013 - 2015: 5 pregnancies —> 5 miscarriages

    TTCAL with RE (RPL specialist): February 2016

    2016: 3 medicated TI cycles —> 3 medicated IUI cycles: All BFN

    Donor Egg IVF Transfer: May 1, 2017

    May 11, 2017: BFP!! Beta #1: 449.1, Beta #2: 844, Beta #3: 1714

    EDD: 1/17/18, it's a GIRL!  <3 E. L. A. born 12/7/2017








  • mandi135mandi135 member
    edited May 2016
    2.  WTO.  Should be this week or early next week.

    3.  Rant:  DH was hospitalized on Wednesday after a sudden onset of sepsis from a tiny tiny cut that got infected and then they discovered on Friday that he also has a flesh eating bacteria (as described by the infectious disease specialist) on his leg.  It is so scary when the doctors start telling you about fatality rates and amputation options.  Hopefully he will be out of the woods soon and come home with all his limbs.  I'm exhausted and worried and just sort of operating on auto-pilot.  It doesn't help that I'm the on-call attorney at my office this week because everyone else is traveling or otherwise already unavailable.

    Raves:  My in laws have been very helpful and bring me a meal every few days to make sure I'm eating and DH's sister is a doctor at the hospital so she has been stopping in and helping us understand what the doctors are saying.  My family is very far away but offering lots of support from afar.  My work is also letting me do a lot from the hospital so I only have to really come in for appointments.

    I'm also happy that DH is taking this seriously and has agreed to go on a healthier diet when he comes home so he can try to be healthier in general and avoid future hospitalizations as much as possible (not that it is related to this at all, but he has a generally poor diet and I want him to be healthy!).

    4.  Potatoes:  I'm a big fan of sweet potato fries and just about any type of tater tot.  Mmm...I think I have some frozen tater tots that I really want to make now.

    I hope everyone is having a nice week!
  • @Wishilivedinflorida  I've also had 4-5 pounds I can't seem to lose and I have more acne than before.  I have PCOS so I usually have some on my face, but the neck/back/chest is new and I never had it before!  I thought it was just me - not that I wish it on anyone else.  I've just been trying to eat lower oil/grease/fat foods and use my face routine on those areas, too, but it really sucks for now.
  • @Mandi135, that sounds terrifying! I hope your DH is on the mend.

    DD1 born 5/24/10.

    Missed M/C at 14 wks Feb 2012.

    DD2 born 5/14/13.

    Missed M/C at 9 wks July 2015.

    Expecting someone new 4/17/17.
  • @mandi135 Wow, I'm sorry to hear that. Hope he's feeling better soon. Take care of yourselves!
    Renee, 34 + Devon, 29 married 08/13 <3
    TTC  09/15
    *TW Loss mentioned*
    BFP 12/15/15 EDD: 08/26/16
    MMC discovered 1/25/16 at 9 +3
    TTCAL 3/2016
    Acupuncture 11/16
    Dx December 2016: unexplained 
    January 2017: 50 mg Clomid + TI =
    BFP #2 01/30/17  Please be a sticky baby!
    EDD: 10/15/17  Measuring ahead! 10/12/17 
    Ambrose born on his due date!

  • @brooklyngirl18 and @SnobunnieMel It is super crappy to work hard and not see results. I totally sympathize. Usually when I am running regularly and working out almost daily like I am now I drop pounds pretty fast. I could be gaining muscle, but I'm not feeling any trimmer. My body fat trouble areas have seemed to shift positions as well. I would love to blame hormones, so I will. I haven't been following strict paleo by any means, but I've cut out a lot of refined carbs and added sugars recently, overall just eating cleaner. No alcohol, drink water almost exclusively. Just need to give it more time I guess. Sigh. 

    It's so sad that we have had these losses and still have repercussions and negative effects after the fact. It's horrible to not feel pregnant but not feel normal, either. *hugs* to everyone today. 
  • @mandi135 Oh my gosh, how scary!! I hope your husband gets well soon!! I'll be thinking of you and your family. 
    Me: 35      DH: 35
    Married: 8/16/2014
    TTC 6/2015
    BFP #1: 1/2016, MMC 3/2016 (9 weeks)
    BFP #2: 6/2016, DD born 3/1/17 at 39 weeks 1 day 
    BFP #3: 1/2019, CP (4 weeks 1 day)
    BFP #4: 4/2019, Due 12/10/19


  • @mandi135 Sending get well wishes for your husband! I hope his recovery is speedy!
  • @mandi135 how scary! I hope he recovers quickly. 

    @Wishilivedinflorida @SnobunnieMel @brooklyngirl18 I also struggled with weight gain and bloating after my loss and it was terrible. None of my pants fit- I was all about the leggings. I gained about 6 lbs during my pregnancy, and I stupidly thought it would all melt off- no such thing. I kept it on and gained an additional 2-3 more pounds from stress/emotional eating. I am exercising and am also following a Paleo diet as well.  I finally lost 3 pounds but that was with some serious dedication to my diet and the gym. I blame hormones as well- why not :) 

     ****TW: Pregnancy, loss and children mentioned****
    Me (39) DH (40) 
    From my first marriage DD: 03/04 CP:01/06 DS:12/06 
    DH- no kids
    ******************
    TTC: since 2/15, RE Consult 9/15
    IUI #1 10/15: Letrozole = BFN 
    IUI #2 11/15: Letrozole + trigger = BFN
    1/08/16: Surprise- BFP!!  2/16/16: MMC @10w 2days,  D&C: 2/17/16
    TTCAL: May 2016
    IUI #3 5/27/16: Letrozole+trigger=BFN
    IUI #4 06/24/16: 7.5mg Letrozole+trigger= BFN
    IUI#5 08/24/16 Menopur+trigger = BFN
    IUI #6 09/19/16 5 mg Letrozole +Menopur + Trigger= BFN
    **10/2016: No more medicated cycles, TTCAL on our own**
    12/03/16: BFP!! EDD: 08/12/17 It's a girl!! 
    Eleni was born on 8/14/17!!

  • @Wishilivedinflorida I have absolutely had the same thing happen.  I still am feeling more bloated than usual and cannot drop these few pounds that remain or I added on post-MC. 

    2. Status (WTO, TWW, Benched, etc.) God only knows.  It's my second cycle post-MC and while I thought it was going along relatively normal, the last ~10 days has me all confused. 

    3. Rants/raves: Rant definitely directed at my body for being all confused.  I had a peak smiley on CBAD last week on Monday, but at the same time, had some brown spotting.  That spotting continued until yesterday and seems to have diminished today.  Only once during the last week was there any flow (Friday evening) and that lasted like an hour.  No cramps, no weird temperature changes (though it's only my first month temping and still working out the kinks and when I got frustrated last week, I missed a few days - silly, I know).  So, maybe it was an anovulatory cycle and a weird, super light, quite long period?  Who knows.  I'm going to treat it as such for now and see what happens over the next couple weeks. 

    4. GTKY: Potatoes!  I love pretty much all potatoes, but nothing beats mashed potatoes!



    Me: 31     DH: 34
    BFP: 1.6.16 | MC: 2.17.16
    BFP: 10.3.16 | CP: 10.11.16
    BFP: 12.14.16 | CP: 12.14.16
    BFP:  1.23.17 | EDD 10.6.17 -- Noel born 10.7.17 <3
    BFP:  9.9.18 | EDD 5.23.19

     

  • catiecatpcatiecatp member
    edited May 2016
    @cmillar36 - I'm sorry for your loss 

    @mandi135 - yikes! that is scary. glad to hear he is on the mend and you have some local support

    So I have non TTC news - I had an interview via Skype this morning and have already been asked to come for an in person interview (with some compensation for costs). Does anyone know anything about San Antonio? Politics? Crime? Lifestyle? Cost of Living?

    Edit (because I hit post and then think of something... sorry ladies) - or questions I should ask? It is an academic job at a community college... 
    ---TW BFP and MC mentioned - scroll down past the Lilo and Stitch gif to avoid ---




    Me: 33 & DH: 33
    Married: 07/2006
    TTC: 10/2015
    BFP #1: 11/2015, MC 12/2015 (7 weeks)
    BFP #2: 06/2016, EDD 2/15/2017



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    fivetimesnoluck
  • That's great @catiecatp ! My sister moved to San Antonio 2 years ago and loves it there. It has a thriving economy and a good cost of living. She recently just purchased a house for $350k that would easily be 800k where I live in the North East. I'll ask her, her opinions on the other stuff you mentioned and let you know.
  • edited May 2016
    @catiecatp&nbsp;I don't know much about San Antonio except it and Austin (which is really close to SA) are the only two places I've ever considered living in TX, but that's just based on their reputations. I realize that this could be considered a completely worthless opinion since I've never been there now that I think of it, but I'm gonna leave it. :smile: 

    I'm pretty sure @SnobunnieMel is from Texas (but it's a big state and I don't know which part).

    congrats and good luck! 

    Me: 40, DH: 35 / Married: 2009; TTC #1: 2013

    2013 - 2015: 5 pregnancies —> 5 miscarriages

    TTCAL with RE (RPL specialist): February 2016

    2016: 3 medicated TI cycles —> 3 medicated IUI cycles: All BFN

    Donor Egg IVF Transfer: May 1, 2017

    May 11, 2017: BFP!! Beta #1: 449.1, Beta #2: 844, Beta #3: 1714

    EDD: 1/17/18, it's a GIRL!  <3 E. L. A. born 12/7/2017








  • @fivetimesnoluck i did indeed spend much of my younger life in Texas. I am from Fort Worth/Dallas area. San Antonio is a really cool growing town that is great on culture much like Austin. As far as I know cost of living is relatively low as compared to Austin or Houston. Great historic scene and some of the best food you can find. Much like any large cities neighborhoods are all about finding a good pocket. Unfortunately I don't have any friends there to know what those are. It is one of he better places in Texas to move to in my opinion (but then again I left the state  :/

    i would for for sure consider a job there a great opportunity. Congrats. 
  • @bornready @fivetimesnoluck and @SnobunnieMel - thanks for these opinions - I really appreciate it. Knowing it is a place you'd consider moving is a great vote of confidence @fivetimesnoluck - we've heard good things about Austin. The issue for us is that the news we get that relates to the US is skewed - we're likely hearing a lot of the bad things and the sensationalist scary stuff from the perspective of a Canadian.

    The people on the committee were really collegial with each other and seem to be friendly - which is a great sign. The potential salary sounds low to me (though I got that digging on Google for old documents, not from them), but if the cost of living is low we can swing a single income for awhile. DH may need/want to go back to school, and all our savings are in Canadian dollars (and the exchange rate is very poor right now). I'm feeling great from the interview and the follow up call - I really nailed some of the questions and that is always an ego boost. 
    ---TW BFP and MC mentioned - scroll down past the Lilo and Stitch gif to avoid ---




    Me: 33 & DH: 33
    Married: 07/2006
    TTC: 10/2015
    BFP #1: 11/2015, MC 12/2015 (7 weeks)
    BFP #2: 06/2016, EDD 2/15/2017



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  • edited May 2016
    @catiecatp if the school is part of the state government, which a lot of community colleges are, salaries may be found online. They are available that way for state employees in Georgia. Google Texas state employee salaries. You can search by name or position in the database for Georgia. 

    Edit to add: do you know how hot San Antonio can get?! And have you ever experienced humidity? If not, try to schedule your visit as late in the summer as possible so that you can really see/feel/know what it's like. :wink: 

    I live in SE Georgia, so I live in it and I love it but not everyone does. 

    Me: 40, DH: 35 / Married: 2009; TTC #1: 2013

    2013 - 2015: 5 pregnancies —> 5 miscarriages

    TTCAL with RE (RPL specialist): February 2016

    2016: 3 medicated TI cycles —> 3 medicated IUI cycles: All BFN

    Donor Egg IVF Transfer: May 1, 2017

    May 11, 2017: BFP!! Beta #1: 449.1, Beta #2: 844, Beta #3: 1714

    EDD: 1/17/18, it's a GIRL!  <3 E. L. A. born 12/7/2017








  • @fivetimesnoluck - Thanks for the suggestion. The issue with colleges is that it is hard to estimate my salary because I need to know base pay rates and all the salary steps - I could potentially see a salary for a professor, but if I don't know their seniority it won't give me a sense of what I could expect to be offered... It is an interesting resource so I tried it out regardless, I couldn't find the college or the college district, and when I looked up one of the people on the interview committee she didn't show up either.

    I have no idea how hot San Antonio can get - and we aren't fans of hot weather, Calgary gets to about 85-87F maximum in the summer... so I'm sure it will be a shock - but so long as we can get a break with air conditioning we'll find a way to survive I hope... I'll be visiting right after memorial day weekend - that is as late as I feel comfortable pushing it. DH is currently laughing about not having to fix the block heater in the car... 
    ---TW BFP and MC mentioned - scroll down past the Lilo and Stitch gif to avoid ---




    Me: 33 & DH: 33
    Married: 07/2006
    TTC: 10/2015
    BFP #1: 11/2015, MC 12/2015 (7 weeks)
    BFP #2: 06/2016, EDD 2/15/2017



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  • edited May 2016
    What @catiecatp I had no idea Calgary had such mild summers! Winnipeg can have very hot summers, but they're dry. The spring I moved to Montreal it was above 40 C from early May until Mid September most every day- and the humidity was often above 80%. I slept on my balcony which I turned into a private, romantic fort, so as not to DIE.

    Is there anything on Glassdoor about the college? Oh and you can compare some stats on cities at this website, like how safe people report feeling and the cost of life. I used it comparing Toronto and Montreal before we moved here and have found my findings to be mostly true (Toronto is slightly safer, groceries and restaurants are cheaper, but rent is not even comparable etc).

    Edit: one letter makes a big difference
    Renee, 34 + Devon, 29 married 08/13 <3
    TTC  09/15
    *TW Loss mentioned*
    BFP 12/15/15 EDD: 08/26/16
    MMC discovered 1/25/16 at 9 +3
    TTCAL 3/2016
    Acupuncture 11/16
    Dx December 2016: unexplained 
    January 2017: 50 mg Clomid + TI =
    BFP #2 01/30/17  Please be a sticky baby!
    EDD: 10/15/17  Measuring ahead! 10/12/17 
    Ambrose born on his due date!

    catiecatp
  • @catiecatp  that sounds like a great opportunity; even if you don't end up moving there it is always nice to practice interview skills.

    Thanks everyone for the well wishes.  They are letting DH recover from home now, so I am putting together a little station downstairs for him so he can have everything he needs and not get up except for the bathroom.  He's still on a ton of medication and a strict diet, so I am still doing a lot of work and probably more than I was before but at least he is well enough to be released.  We have a ton of follow up appointments and he still can't work, which sucks since he doesn't qualify for short term disability yet, but I am so relieved and happy that his immune system has kicked into gear.

    I'm not sure if we'll be able to try at all while I'm ovulating sometime in the next few days, but I'm not as stressed about that as I thought I'd be.
  • Oh my goodness, @mandi135 what a scary situation. Sending you and DH some healing energy.
  • @mandi135 So sorry you're going through this, but glad he's coming home! How scary - from something seemingly so minor!

    @catiecatp I did not think about all of the nuances involved in salary for faculty. Like PP said, interviews are good for practice and boosting confidence so hopefully it will be a great experience regardless of the outcome. And as for the heat - don't worry! Air conditioning is ubiquitous in the southern US. You won't go without. Late May/early June will be a great time to see what it's like! Congrats again - excited for you!

    Me: 40, DH: 35 / Married: 2009; TTC #1: 2013

    2013 - 2015: 5 pregnancies —> 5 miscarriages

    TTCAL with RE (RPL specialist): February 2016

    2016: 3 medicated TI cycles —> 3 medicated IUI cycles: All BFN

    Donor Egg IVF Transfer: May 1, 2017

    May 11, 2017: BFP!! Beta #1: 449.1, Beta #2: 844, Beta #3: 1714

    EDD: 1/17/18, it's a GIRL!  <3 E. L. A. born 12/7/2017








  • @mandi135 Hello from a fellow Mandy! I'm sorry to hear about DH's health trouble. I'm glad he is coming home and on the mend. That's so scary! 
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