baby shower

melindar1984 · May 2016

im holding my own baby shower and would like help with thoughts about drinks i should serve have a few friends and there other halfs are coming i was thinking beer for the men wine for the ladys any information would be great thanks. mel1984

ballofmeat · May 2016

melindar1984 said:

im holding my own baby shower and would like help with thoughts about drinks i should serve have a few friends and there other halfs are coming i was thinking beer for the men wine for the ladys any information would be great thanks. mel1984

QFP

A baby shower is a party that either a close friend or relative throws for you. Hosting your own shower is considered in poor taste and comes off gift grabby. Take the money you would use to throw your own shower and purchase things for the baby instead.

mamaqdubu · May 2016

If people think it's in poor taste they don't have to come...

My mom is throwing mine and doing a bloody mary bar (it's a brunch shower). Benefit: I can enjoy it too, just sans vodka

texasmama2014 · May 2016

I can't... Not today...

nanner26 · May 2016

OP it's just drinks. I'm sure you're guests will be fine with whatever you provide.

kristynmac · May 2016

My understanding is that you should not throw a shower for yourself--it is meant to be a gift from someone else to you, where everyone "showers" the mom with gifts. Personally, I am having a hard time even adding things to the registry, because I feel like DH and I made the decision to have a baby, so no one else should feel obligated to buy him gifts. I certainly know that if my friends were not throwing me a shower then I would not throw one for myself.

Do you have friends/neighbor or co-worker that you could work with on throwing a shower?

As far as the drinks--if you are doing a BBQ and its co-ed, then I think the beers and wine are fine. I don't like surprises so I know that mine will be a brunch with mimosas.

Adding this: While drinks will be served, my shower is by no means a party where everyone can get drunk. My grandma and aunts will be there. Not to mention, I will be there--the pregnant girl whose insides are being rearranged and while I am not a big drinker--I MISS it. Basically, the mimosas are there, because I know showers and games can be tedious and somewhat painful, but drink at your own risk--you don't want to piss off the sober pregnant girl.

beenabee · May 2016

Hannah0726 said:

OP it's just drinks. I'm sure you're guests will be fine with whatever you provide.

smh

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nanner26 · May 2016

Haha! Got me. Autocorrect is a biatch.

ballofmeat · May 2016

@Hannah0726 I think we will let this one slide. Lol.

nanner26 · May 2016

@midwestbaby

Bubblegum5586 · May 2016

This is OPs first and only post.... MUD?

Honestly though, for others reading this... How does it not feel weird to throw a party in your own honor where you expect (and register) for gifts?

beenabee · May 2016

Hannah0726 said:

Haha! Got me. Autocorrect is a biatch.

Dying at these gifs, wish I knew how to post one haha

nanner26 · May 2016

@BrunetteBabe722Do you mobile bump? I google "whatever I'm looking for" gif, click copy, and then paste the link in the little folded paper icon above and voila!

Gif party!

melindar1984 · May 2016

well an ex boyfriend is organizing the baby shower but unfortunately he will be at work and its more a party with friends and i told them not to get me anything if they dont want to. i would just be happy to have friends here that care for me. so technically im not holding it myself.

melindar1984 · May 2016

i pretty much have everything now that i already need been busy buying everything ever since i find out i was 8 weeks pregnant

ballofmeat · May 2016

melindar1984 said:

well an ex boyfriend is organizing the baby shower but unfortunately he will be at work and its more a party with friends and i told them not to get me anything if they dont want to. i would just be happy to have friends here that care for me. so technically im not holding it myself.

melindar1984 said:

i pretty much have everything now that i already need been busy buying everything ever since i find out i was 8 weeks pregnant

Image: https://ak-hdl.buzzfed.com/static/enhanced/terminal05/2012/9/21/11/anigif_enhanced-buzz-15201-1348240888-1.gif

Well since we are gif-ing responses, I always think B expresses it best.

texasmama2014 · May 2016

..ok... so... "I'm holding my own shower" ...
Still can't.

emmeline714 · May 2016

love B @midwestbaby

ballofmeat · May 2016

texasmama2014 said:

..ok... so... "I'm holding my own shower" ...
Still can't.

But OP's ex-boyfriend who won't even be there is "holding it". So obviously this makes it ok...

Image: https://gifsec.com/wp-content/uploads/GIF/2014/03/GIFS-No-way.gif?gs=a

Ceventa · May 2016

Since you want to host an event yourself, don't really want friends to bring things of they don't want to, and have most of the items you need anyway, have you thought of a sip-n-see? It's done after the baby is born, hosted by the parents of the baby. Friends come to see the little one and can bring gifts if they want but it's not necessary, just more of a celebration of the new baby.

kristynmac · May 2016

1faceinacrowd · May 2016

OP are you normally a lurker? I don't think I've seen you post here before. Not that it matters, I guess.

In response to your original question - I don't think the beverages are that big of a deal. Do beer, wine, soda, water, punch...whatever floats your boat. I agree with other comments that throwing your own shower is in poor taste. My MIL had said she was going to throw one for us but it sounds like she's not anymore, so now we're just not having one unless someone else offers. I can't fathom throwing a party and asking for gifts.
If what you say is true - that you aren't asking for anything and that you told people not to bring gifts - then it's not really a "baby shower". Maybe it's just semantics but I know that if I'm invited to a "baby shower" then it's implied that gifts should be given.

Mfuller76 · May 2016

lucypod · May 2016

I love the "sip-and-see" idea. So cute! OP - I would agree if no one is throwing you a shower and you don't need anything it might not be best to call it a "shower", it sends the wrong message. Instead, have a gathering afterwards if you're feeling up for it and I'm sure people will bring you plenty of nice goodies, especially clothing and toys.

melindar1984 · May 2016

thanks for the info i have decided not to go thou with it after all so thanks

tresamigos · May 2016

If I'd have known this was acceptable I'd have registered for every single birthday party I've had. Damn.

AliKay20 · May 2016

Hannah0726 said:

OP it's just drinks. I'm sure you're guests will be fine with whatever you provide.

LOL you know what, this could've been "posted" by Siri.

Wait, wait, wait...

nah, Siri knows better.

bananers · May 2016

Beer for the men and wine for the ladys [sic]? Tackiness aside, since when are drinks gender-specific?

signed,
a beer lover, married to a wine connoisseur

melindar1984 · May 2016

thank you bananers

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