Am I the only one who hasn't?

amp61470 · May 2016

I have started reading the boards again after some time away and I feel like so many of you are doing so much better than I am.

I I never did any sleep training but then I haven't had to, he is a great sleeper. He has been sleeping no less than six hours a night since a month and a half. He goes 10-11 hours now.

i don't have set feeding times I feed him when he gets hungry.

We we don't have set nap times, he goes down when he starts getting cranky.

I I pretty much haven't read a single book on what to do, yet I have the happiest most chill baby I've ever met. However reading all this I wonder if in the long run it'll screw him up. This was taken today, and this is usually his mood!

dmbfan46835 · May 2016

We have no schedule as well. Just follow his cues. He's not been the best sleeper but I will take a shit sleeper who is constantly happy any day. I hear every baby is different so count your blessings and hope your next isn't a colicky mess! I know that's one of my biggest fears! Lol

mrsmctaggart6 · May 2016

I'm on the same schedule, or lack there of, I get a lot of flack for not training but if I and my baby are happy I just don't care...

ForeverEverAfter · May 2016

I haven't done any sleep training with LO-haven't needed to! I BF on demand, though she eats solids at the same times each day, simply because she eats with the family (BLW).

I have read many books though, because I've always been fascinated by cognitive psychology and attachment theory. I like reading each expert's view, and how (or if) their findings can help me. I don't take any one view as gospel. I'm mostly influenced by Maria Montessori and Dr Sears. I found things I read while DD1 was a toddler had a big impact on how I parented DD2. DD1 turned out pretty well, but I don't want to rest on my laurels, if I find a better way, I'll try it! I think it's helpful to be prepared too. I read a bunch of books preparing me for natural birth. I want to be prepared for how to assist each stage of development, different theories for teaching DD1 to read, etc.

wannabeamongoose · May 2016

We also have no schedule and just go with baby's cues. I suppose some people would suggest we could benefit from sleep training (baby sleeps for about 4 hours at the most) but we don't really see the need as we are doing okay with the middle of the night wakings. I imagine this type of non-schedule is probably easiest when there is only one baby, so who knows what we will do if we have another, but so far baby's natural schedule lines up with ours pretty easily and we see no need to force a more steady schedule. And I haven't read a single book. the only things I have read are what I've seen on these boards.

bnwillia3 · May 2016

We are in the same boat!! We follow baby's lead - so while he has a "semi" schedule just because of the routine of his own needs/preferences, we don't really impose one upon him. It's working great for us so far and while I worry sometimes that something might come back to haunt us, I also figure that if it ain't broke, don't fix it!

vibarra27 · May 2016

We all do what's best for our kids. My boys are on a feeding schedule because they are twins & they were on one in the NICU & it's just easier keeping them on a schedule(tried following cues & it was a disaster due to wanting to feed @ the exact time!) i never i mean NEVER had a feeding schedule with DD but she was a singleton & a full term baby. Their naps i let them sleep when tired.

I was 17 when i got pregnant with DD & 18when i had her . I never read books about how or what to do with a baby & shes a happy healthy smart 5 year old. We learn as we go & i think your son looks perfect & perfectly happy. I think your doing just fine.

jen83mn · May 2016

bnwillia3 said:

We are in the same boat!! We follow baby's lead - so while he has a "semi" schedule just because of the routine of his own needs/preferences, we don't really impose one upon him. It's working great for us so far and while I worry sometimes that something might come back to haunt us, I also figure that if it ain't broke, don't fix it!

Ditto! Our "schedule" is based on LO's needs. When he needs a nap and needs to eat is fairly predictable since he's kind of put himself into a routine, but the timing varies day to day based on how long his naps are, which he dictates (usually one longer, one shorter). Very happy and chill baby too!

Growingapepper · May 2016

I don't have a schedule that I follow. We go off DD's cues. She happens to take naps around the same time every day, and her feedings are predictable. But that's all her. We take her to bed when we go to bed and she falls asleep just fine, then we'd move her into the pack n play in our room. We just started "sleep training" this week, moving her into her crib instead of the pack and play that she would only sleep in a few hours before waking up and coming into bed with us. I haven't read any books and I generally ignore the sleep threads on here, so I am just doing my own thing.

yellow1daisy · May 2016

Same boat as most others where I never set a schedule per se but her day to day is pretty predictable with minor variations. She's very flexible too if we need to be on the go and change things up a bit. Very happy easy going baby.
Her sleep isn't perfect but manageable. Typically goes to bed 9:30 to 10:00 (seem to be in the minority with a later bedtime), wakes up once around 6:30 for a nursing session and back to sleep until 9:30 or 10 am. Many nights she also wakes up for a shorter nursing session between 2-4 am. Goes right back to sleep so I feel no need to 'sleep train'. She's been pretty easy and we had an easy go of dropping the swaddle and transferring her from a Moses basket in our room to her crib when she was a little over 5 months.

amp61470 · May 2016

yellow1daisy said:

Same boat as most others where I never set a schedule per se but her day to day is pretty predictable with minor variations. She's very flexible too if we need to be on the go and change things up a bit. Very happy easy going baby.
Her sleep isn't perfect but manageable. Typically goes to bed 9:30 to 10:00 (seem to be in the minority with a later bedtime), wakes up once around 6:30 for a nursing session and back to sleep until 9:30 or 10 am. Many nights she also wakes up for a shorter nursing session between 2-4 am. Goes right back to sleep so I feel no need to 'sleep train'. She's been pretty easy and we had an easy go of dropping the swaddle and transferring her from a Moses basket in our room to her crib when she was a little over 5 months.

I wish little man was up til 9:30. I work days DH works four overnight shifts, so it would be great if he slept til 9:30-10 am as I work 7-10 am then 1-4.
Chase does eat at about the same time everyday and he naps around the same times but I just have no schedule with him and it works.

chelseajeanene · May 2016

We have no set schedule either, everything usually happens around the same times everyday but I don't feed until he's hungry and put him down until he shows he's tired too. I haven't read a single book about babies and I wanted to do it all on my own. I'm winging it and it's working for us

amp61470 · May 2016

Growingapepper said:

I don't have a schedule that I follow. We go off DD's cues. She happens to take naps around the same time every day, and her feedings are predictable. But that's all her. We take her to bed when we go to bed and she falls asleep just fine, then we'd move her into the pack n play in our room. We just started "sleep training" this week, moving her into her crib instead of the pack and play that she would only sleep in a few hours before waking up and coming into bed with us. I haven't read any books and I generally ignore the sleep threads on here, so I am just doing my own thing.

We were so lucky moving him to the crib from the pack n play, he took to it immediately. In fact it was easier for him than it was for me. Your little one will get used to her crib I am sure.

shelbydd · May 2016

Every baby is different. I know a lot of people's children do just fine without a set schedule and it seems to be based soley on when they show cues. My kid doesn't work like that unfortunately. Routine has been the only thing to keep me sane some days. His bedtime routine (bath, bottle, bed) starts at 7pm. If I wait too late he becomes a monster, cries through bath time, fights getting diaper and pjs on, wallows all over me when I try to feed him, then takes forever to go to sleep with lots of tears in the process. If I do it in our normal scheduled routine he's happy through all of it and I can lay him down still awake and he'll roll over and go to sleep with no issues. Basically everything is that way with him.

laurapaine2003@yahoo.com · May 2016

I read every known book there is and NONE of it has helped me a bit! This baby is so unique and does practically everything the opposite of what books tell you to expect LOL! To each their own! Whatever works for you!!

She created her own schedule and I just roll with it. At almost 8 months we are just now finally getting into a "groove".

LoveLee85 · May 2016

Same here. We have no schedule for sleep, bottles, food or anything! Now we have routines. For example, when bath time comes, even if it's different times of night it's: bath, lotion, bottle, snuggling, sleep. I have a very chill baby. So many people get on my nerves because they are like "you have it soooo easy, he's such a great baby". He can be great but this doesn't make it 'easy' lol. Nothing about being a mom is easy, except loving our LO's! I never read any books on what to expect or whatever. I was a sitter and nanny for years growing up, high school and during college. I didn't feel like I needed any books.

bbdogs3 · May 2016

I am doing the same thing you are! !! And my little guy is the happiest baby ever. I just go by cues...he is happy n healthy n very much loved so I would say it's fine!

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