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May 2016 Moms
katxattack1212
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Sick mother
katxattack1212
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I just wanted to share my current frustration, and see how others feel about this situation.
My mother has not been in the best health over the past say, 6 months. She is on her third episode of bronchitis in the past 4 months. Last time, she refused to rest and ended up with pneumonia. She lives in our guest home, but is frequently gone on weekends.
Turns out she's sick again. Bronchitis, again. I start asking more questions because I'm down for a RCS on May 23rd. She's only gone to urgent care for all this. She has not seen her own doctor. Today, the urgent care even told her she needs to address this with her primary dr. She said she'd 'call next week'.
I put my foot down. You are calling today. You are making the first available appointment. You are discussing the seemingly chronic cough, bronchitis, pneumonia. You are also discussing there will be a new baby somewhat near you in two weeks. There is no 'calling next week'.
I will NOT allow her anywhere near this baby unless she gets a full workup and rules out anything potentially contagious to a newborn. Sorry, but no. I explained to her that pertussis can be carried by adults without typical signs. We need to be 100% certain she does not have that. (She probably doesn't, but we need to know.)
And more importantly, she needs to make sure this isn't something bigger! She thinks urgent care visits fulfill this. Not once has she thought to address this further. Welp. If you want to see this baby- guess what. You are going to be seen.
Gah! So frustrating that people don't take care of themselves and are clueless about what that effects!
My mother has not been in the best health over the past say, 6 months. She is on her third episode of bronchitis in the past 4 months. Last time, she refused to rest and ended up with pneumonia. She lives in our guest home, but is frequently gone on weekends.
Turns out she's sick again. Bronchitis, again. I start asking more questions because I'm down for a RCS on May 23rd. She's only gone to urgent care for all this. She has not seen her own doctor. Today, the urgent care even told her she needs to address this with her primary dr. She said she'd 'call next week'.
I put my foot down. You are calling today. You are making the first available appointment. You are discussing the seemingly chronic cough, bronchitis, pneumonia. You are also discussing there will be a new baby somewhat near you in two weeks. There is no 'calling next week'.
I will NOT allow her anywhere near this baby unless she gets a full workup and rules out anything potentially contagious to a newborn. Sorry, but no. I explained to her that pertussis can be carried by adults without typical signs. We need to be 100% certain she does not have that. (She probably doesn't, but we need to know.)
And more importantly, she needs to make sure this isn't something bigger! She thinks urgent care visits fulfill this. Not once has she thought to address this further. Welp. If you want to see this baby- guess what. You are going to be seen.
Gah! So frustrating that people don't take care of themselves and are clueless about what that effects!
Re: Sick mother
ETA- I suppose it's relevant to add- my oldest brother has two children and she hasn't seen them in 5 years because he and his wife asked her to do family counseling with them after an incident, she refused, and they cut off contact. They've made it very clear that the relationship offer is always on the table if she's willing to go to counseling, but she is not. So my fear isn't totally unfounded.
I hateeeeee being in the position of potentially telling her she can't visit. But, ultimately I am responsible for a newborn! I refuse to put him in danger because my mother will feel "left out".
The good thing is she did make an appointment for Tuesday. Hopefully she keeps it and follows through.