Where/how do you meet other moms?

Bellarose212 · May 2016

I'm a FTM and made the decision to be a SAHM. It's a drastic change for me! And even though I absolutely love it and wouldn't change a thing, I have to admit that it's a little isolating. We moved twice since LO was born and I feel like I've missed the boat on making new mom friends. We live in NYC and most of my friends with kids live far away. I would love to have a group of other SAHM's to hang out with during the day, but can't seem to meet anyone. I enrolled my baby in music classes and mommy and me yoga- most of the adults in the music class are nannies. How are you new moms meeting other moms? Any suggestions?

rachelkawesome · May 2016

I'm in NYC too!

Yeah, the SAHM thing is tough in NYC because so many moms are back to work at this point. I know parents who work part-time or have odd hours who do playdates with nannies (I've done it! I'm a work part time)

It's also tough because it's hard to travel outside your area to some extent. Like I live in Queens and I have a close friend in Manhattan. With her working full time, busy weekends, and the hour and 15 min schlep to get from my place to hers, we've only done one playdate!

But as for your question, I've met moms over facebook. There are TONS of mommy facebook groups by NYC area. I'm lucky to live in an area with a super active parents network on FB, but I'm a member of a bunch of other groups for my job, and mom's meet each other there often. I've seen posts that say "I'm new to the area, anyone want to meet up?" And people generally want to!

I would also look for daytime classes that nannies are less likely to do. Like a daytime yoga mommy and me class or a swim class. I think parents are more likely to be at those.

I hope that gives you some ideas

rachelkawesome · May 2016

Oh whoops, just saw you're already in a yoga class. I hope you find a mom friend there!

jennahkross · May 2016

Try meetup.com and Nextdoor. I've met two mom groups on both those sites and we get together once a week.

shelbydd · May 2016

I'm terrible at this because I'm generally a loner anyway so even when I want to make friends I struggle to make myself go out with the ones I already have lol.

Anyway, I'm a member of several local Facebook mom groups that apply to my particular mom interests. I agree with PP that it's a good way to make mom friends. I've lived in 2 places since LO was born and I find if you baby wear that the baby wearing groups are usually really welcoming and have meet ups at least monthly. I'd look into something like that.. If you do yoga then maybe look for one specific to that.

ForeverEverAfter · May 2016

I guess it really depends on your area. I'm semi-rural, and nannies are rare in these parts. Ive found 2 local Mom friends; one I met at a free playgroup at a local sportsplex, the other I met on a regional babywearing fb group. She designed a hood for my carrier, and when I arranged pick up, found out she lives 7 houses away! Neither of us thought there were any young kids in our area! Ive also been to play dates through a 'Granola' Mom FB group, but only a handful are in my area, most live 45min+ away, because it's a province-wide group. It is a good idea to check for local fb groups though. They can match you to moms of similar interests (like me finding other crunchy, AP, babywearing moms when I didn't even think there were kids around).

thinkpink101 · May 2016

I'm struggling with this too. With my first three I met moms all kinds of places, walking trail, grocery store, library etc. the triple stroller was pretty conducive to meeting others, especially those with equally large strollers, lol. We have since moved to a new town and this time around I have three older boys (11,11 & 12) and all of my new friends are people I've met through them, none of them have babies. I just signed up to join a Meetup group yesterday, but not sure if there are any babies there. I tried signing up for a library class but they are full and with waiting lists. Park & Rec didn't have anything for kids under 24 months. I'm really hoping the mom's group works out because I've been feeling very lonely. Dh works a lot so most days I only talk to the kids, I'm craving some adult interaction but I can't go anywhere unless I take the kids with me, so meeting up with friends without them isn't going to happen. LO wants a friend too, he's obsessed with the baby on the diaper box, lol.

anamvicc · May 2016

I joined the MOMs club in my town and I am so happy I did. Just google them and you can search if there's a chapter open near you.

Bellarose212 · May 2016

You guys are amazing. Love this group! I was so worried my post came off as weird and desperate, but you all normalized everything. So thank you for that and for all these suggestions! I am typically pretty shy until I get to know people, so this trait is likely making it more difficult. @rachelkawesome I really liked your idea to post that I'm new to the area! I have been so nervous to put myself out there, but why not? I'm sure other people are feeling the same way. Anyway thanks everyone for all these ideas. I'll let you know how it goes!

slp213psu · May 2016

I met my mom friends through two national organizations with branches in my area. The first is Fit4Mom. I'm sure they have classes in NYC (and don't let the name scare you if working out isn't for you, I'm the farthest thing from fit there is...I go for socialization for me and my girls!).
The other was mentioned above, MOMS Club (Moms Offering Moms Support).
I'm sure we have a different dynamic being I'm suburban and you're urban so I'm sure the nanny thing is tough.
I have to say I went through several Mommy and Me things (music class, Gymboree, library groups) and you definitely will know right away if you are going to vibe with other moms or not.

tlc11934 · May 2016

Preschool

LoveLee85 · May 2016

It can be lonely. LO has close cousins near by. I have a mom friend 40 minutes away. LO and I make the trip every few weeks when DH works. It's so worth it! Just being around another mom is like yesssssssss. LOL I just wish I had more local, close by moms. I chat my DH ear off when he gets home from work because I'm dying for adult conversation!!!! DH gets annoyed by just laughs. I just can't stop talking when he's home. Finally, someone who can talk back to me. Hahahah

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