I think making a necklace out of your breast milk, eating your placenta, or keeping your babies umbilical cord scab as a momento gives me the heebie jeebies. Although I do have some of my positive HPTs still...hmmm.
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DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery 11/2/17 Twin A & B born 11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU Benched 6 months BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
I'll start. Not sure how unpopular this is, but I can't get on board with anyone who doesn't vaccinate their kids. You want to parent in your own way? Cool. But, when you choose not to vaccinate your kids you're also making the decision to put everyone else's kids at risk of getting potientally life threatening diseases/illnesses that shouldn't even be around anymore but are because apparently now Google also hands out medical degrees.
I'm not super passionate about much, but I am when it comes to this.
@midwestbaby I get the sentimental value of breast milk. I have worked long and hard to breast feed, build a (now gone, because my baby is almost 2...) freezer stash, and maintain a supply. Literal blood, sweat, and tears right there. I know a few moms who still have milk saved from their babies and their "babies" are 32 and 24.. (2 separate moms.) I get it.
@Lynnlove28 yes to all this. I don't like it when parents reason not to vaccinate doesn't make sense. For example: they argue that these diseases aren't a threat anymore. Well they aren't because of people who vaccinate, so your welcome for being able to take advantage of herd immunity, but still put my infant at risk who can't get the vaccine.
I have a feeling this UO could get a little heated.
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DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery 11/2/17 Twin A & B born 11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU Benched 6 months BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
I had to google breast milk necklace. Why would anyone want that? If I told someone their necklace was pretty and they said, "oh that's my breast milk." I'm pretty sure this would be my reaction.
Coincidentally it's the same face I make when I hear someone is an anti-vaxxer and then listen to them try and justify it.
@midwestbaby I get the sentimental value of breast milk. I have worked long and hard to breast feed, build a (now gone, because my baby is almost 2...) freezer stash, and maintain a supply. Literal blood, sweat, and tears right there. I know a few moms who still have milk saved from their babies and their "babies" are 32 and 24.. (2 separate moms.) I get it.
I guess for me, I work with body fluids everyday and thinking about saving it is just something I can't wrap my head around. But I am a FTM and never would have thought I would save a stick I peed on either. I may change my mind when I get to that point, but right now I'm just like what? You can make breast milk into something that looks like a pearl?
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DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery 11/2/17 Twin A & B born 11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU Benched 6 months BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
@midwestbaby I get the sentimental value of breast milk. I have worked long and hard to breast feed, build a (now gone, because my baby is almost 2...) freezer stash, and maintain a supply. Literal blood, sweat, and tears right there. I know a few moms who still have milk saved from their babies and their "babies" are 32 and 24.. (2 separate moms.) I get it.
I guess for me, I work with body fluids everyday and thinking about saving it is just something I can't wrap my head around. But I am a FTM and never would have thought I would save a stick I peed on either. I may change my mind when I get to that point, but right now I'm just like what? You can make breast milk into something that looks like a pearl?
Yeah... Breast milk is very diffferent than any other "body fluid". It nourishes babies. It is a biological miracle that our bodies can do such a thing. Breast feeding for nearly 2 years is the hardest thing I have ever done. Its mental, physical, and extremely emotional.
The body fluid comment rubs me the wrong way. Its like when people tell you to cover up when breast feeding or go to a bathroom because its the same thing as whipping your dick out and peeing in public. Not. The. Same. Thing. But, like you said, FTM. You'll see.
I'm sorry, I don't mean any offense by the term body fluid. I work in the medical profession and that is the term we use for all fluid that comes from the body.
For the record I don't think comparing breastfeeding to peeing in public as the same thing... I think jumping from that term to breast feeding in public and peeing in public is quite a stretch.
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DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery 11/2/17 Twin A & B born 11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU Benched 6 months BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
@midwestbaby You would think that most people would agree that peeing vs. breast feeding is a stretch, but if I had a dime for every time I've heard it compared I'd be a rich woman. Many people are narrow minded and only see breasts as a sex organ (i.e. my MIL). When in fact, its obvious that they can have more than 1 function. This is why many women breast feed in bathrooms, or hide out because people have shamed them into believing its somehow gross.
My UO is that the glucose test drink isn't bad at all. So many women told me how awful it was, so I was a little nervous about taking it down this morning. It wasn't even bad! Just tasted like an old Sunkist that had gone flat.
@rikopy I'm taking the test in two weeks and I'm ready to see what all the fuss is about! I drink sugary drinks (more than I'd like to admit) so I'm hoping it won't be a big deal for me too.
@midwestbaby You would think that most people would agree that peeing vs. breast feeding is a stretch, but if I had a dime for every time I've heard it compared I'd be a rich woman. Many people are narrow minded and only see breasts as a sex organ (i.e. my MIL). When in fact, its obvious that they can have more than 1 function. This is why many women breast feed in bathrooms, or hide out because people have shamed them into believing its somehow gross.
This makes me extremely sad. Women should never be made to feel like breastfeeding is an unnatural process. I do agree that our society has a major problem with only thinking breasts have one function.
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DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery 11/2/17 Twin A & B born 11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU Benched 6 months BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
@texasmama2014 and @midwestbaby I hate seeing posts/pics with half naked women showing off their bodies and society accepting it and even encouraging it, but then freaking out when they see a woman breastfeeding.
i will be breastfeeding in public if need be and i will have some kind words for dumb people that try to put 2cents in, but i agree @jamiesc58 i bet if they were to see a naked woman just walking no one would say nothing smh
@Nikkoli98 I don't think I can bring myself to toss it until she is physically in my arms.
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DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery 11/2/17 Twin A & B born 11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU Benched 6 months BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
My most recent job was working in a pediatricians' office and I was flabbergasted when the office coordinator and the nurse would freak out if a mom breastfed in the waiting room. They would be like "Ma'am, we have a lactation room, would you like me to take you?" "No, I'm ok, thanks" "No no, come with me, it's right this way" . . . And then they would talk crap like, "did you see her just whip it out! Omg, I don't need to see that." Like I said, flabbergasted. And don't get me started on their comments about "the spanish." (Never had a single patient from Spain but I could never make them understand the difference)
My UO would be that I'm kind of sad to get to 3rd trimester. I've had a really easy pregnancy, hardly any symptoms at all other than no period and a little alien in my belly (Sorry everyone, I am grateful, I promise!!) And I'm really dreading being not pregnant. Obviously I want to meet my babe, but I'm gonna miss not having to hide my belly and having a reason to feel tired/lazy and everyone is so nice to you when you're pregnant!! I think I'm also scared to find out what it's like when the anticipation is over and the parenting begins.
I have to agree with @texasmama2014 on the breast milk necklace. I've actually never heard of it before this, but after breastfeeding (and struggling with it in many ways) I definitely get wanting to commemorate the accomplishment. I never realized how challenging it would be, both physically and mentally, and so if someone wants to celebrate that in some way, go for it.
I have another UO that I've been thinking about the last week or so. Every app or book I have read said that your second trimester is when you feel the best and your libido goes up. I couldn't feel more opposite of that.
I feel bad for DH, but honestly when I feel baby moving around now so consistently, the last thing I am thinking about is sexy time. In fact I think I'd be ok with going without until she is born. Please tell me I am not the only one who is slightly uneasy having sex when they can feel the baby moving?
*TW Spoiler*
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery 11/2/17 Twin A & B born 11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU Benched 6 months BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
I don't feel uneasy about her moving, but I have no libido whatsoever as well. I feel bad but DH doesn't complain. He tries to initiate but is understanding. Thankfully.
@midwestbaby I feel the same way. And also because I had some crazy contractions after the last time. I know it all has to do with uterus contracting, but I still felt like I was messing with baby's space.
Same. I am pretty much never interested in sex anymore. It may have something to do with by the time I go to bed I'm so exhausted all I want to do is sleep. DH is pretty understanding although I do feel bad.
@midwestbaby@lynnlove28 I am always so tired so I am never interested at night, but in the morning I try and that's when he is not having it.
I don't think I could wear jewelry made from my breast milk, but I don't really like to wear jewelry anyway. I do however remember having to throw out all my perfectly frozen, measured, labeled and stored breast milk and crying a lot. DS was 3 at the time and it had all reached and passed the recommenced use by date, but it was my last connection to that bond....motherhood makes you weird.
I have to agree with @texasmama2014 on the breast milk necklace. I've actually never heard of it before this, but after breastfeeding (and struggling with it in many ways) I definitely get wanting to commemorate the accomplishment. I never realized how challenging it would be, both physically and mentally, and so if someone wants to celebrate that in some way, go for it.
Before I had a child, I had no idea how emotional this process was going to be. I thought the baby just latches on and you get to save money on formula. When I found out I wasn't able to breast feed, I was devastated. It was by far the hardest part of maternity leave and the hormones did not help.
So if you want to make a necklace with a matching bracelet, go for it.
I'm also in the breastfeeding for over 2 years camp. It was a crazy emotional thing for me and I'm still sad that DD and I have weaned. Honestly, if she wants to nurse again when her brother arrives, I will probably let her (cue the side eye). It was so special for us and something she cherished too. I gave the last of my frozen milk to a dear friend who needed some for her baby so she could go on a weekend trip. I'm so happy it was used for another baby, dumping it would have been so sad.
@midwestbaby@lynnlove28 I am always so tired so I am never interested at night, but in the morning I try and that's when he is not having it.
I don't think I could wear jewelry made from my breast milk, but I don't really like to wear jewelry anyway. I do however remember having to throw out all my perfectly frozen, measured, labeled and stored breast milk and crying a lot. DS was 3 at the time and it had all reached and passed the recommenced use by date, but it was my last connection to that bond....motherhood makes you weird.
This post was my eye opener. This makes more sense to me. When I think about throwing out something that took a lot of hard work and relating it to the last connection and bond, I get it now. I can definitely respect wanting to hold on to a piece of that memory.
*TW Spoiler*
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery 11/2/17 Twin A & B born 11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU Benched 6 months BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
I have another UO that I've been thinking about the last week or so. Every app or book I have read said that your second trimester is when you feel the best and your libido goes up. I couldn't feel more opposite of that.
I feel bad for DH, but honestly when I feel baby moving around now so consistently, the last thing I am thinking about is sexy time. In fact I think I'd be ok with going without until she is born. Please tell me I am not the only one who is slightly uneasy having sex when they can feel the baby moving?
Honestly I was just thinking this the other day. The first trimester we did it quite a bit (I felt fairly decent) and now I'm just like ehh. He's so tired from working 14 hour days (so it's partly him) but I really have no desire to insinuate it either.
I'm waiting for the Evander Holyfield moment from the Friends episode when Rachel is pregnant!
I'm glad I am the only one that is like...Sex meh, I will pass.
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DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery 11/2/17 Twin A & B born 11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU Benched 6 months BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
I'm right there with all of you. I loved it in the first tri but we only were able to do it once because I was sick all the time. Now my vagina is in a lot of pain for some reason (from extra blood flow I guess) and I don't have much energy and just don't feel like having sex. I feel really bad for DH.
It's been a while here too. I have horrible issues with varicose veins and I'm not quite sure how high up they go. And they could go all the way up (tmi!!) so I'm quite nervous to go for it.
DH should not be allowed to fart in front of me. He just farted and got in bed but the smell was so unforgivable that I'm actually in a bad mood.
I admit, he had to deal with me thanks to pregnancy gas but you know what? This is not a two way street. I get a pass, he does not!
DH also thinks because I can't control gas anymore this also gives him a free pass. ugh.
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DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery 11/2/17 Twin A & B born 11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU Benched 6 months BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
No libido here either. I think mine spiked for a couple weeks early one, like during the first tri, but that's it. Thankfully, hubby gets it and doesn't say much or make me feel bad about it, but I feel bad anyway. Hoping third tri will help, I already feel like I've gotten more energy this last week
I don't get why people are so obsessed with Chip and Joanna Gaines on Fixer Upper. I would guess they are nothing like that in real life.
@texasmama2014 I really doubt they are that way in real life and I also doubt Chip does half the construction work they imply, but I love the style of the houses they do. I'd be really excited to have them come remodel my space.
Re: UO 5.5
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
I'm not super passionate about much, but I am when it comes to this.
I have a feeling this UO could get a little heated.
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
Coincidentally it's the same face I make when I hear someone is an anti-vaxxer and then listen to them try and justify it.
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
The body fluid comment rubs me the wrong way. Its like when people tell you to cover up when breast feeding or go to a bathroom because its the same thing as whipping your dick out and peeing in public. Not. The. Same. Thing. But, like you said, FTM. You'll see.
For the record I don't think comparing breastfeeding to peeing in public as the same thing... I think jumping from that term to breast feeding in public and peeing in public is quite a stretch.
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
Like I said, flabbergasted. And don't get me started on their comments about "the spanish." (Never had a single patient from Spain but I could never make them understand the difference)
Obviously I want to meet my babe, but I'm gonna miss not having to hide my belly and having a reason to feel tired/lazy and everyone is so nice to you when you're pregnant!! I think I'm also scared to find out what it's like when the anticipation is over and the parenting begins.
I feel bad for DH, but honestly when I feel baby moving around now so consistently, the last thing I am thinking about is sexy time. In fact I think I'd be ok with going without until she is born. Please tell me I am not the only one who is slightly uneasy having sex when they can feel the baby moving?
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
I don't think I could wear jewelry made from my breast milk, but I don't really like to wear jewelry anyway. I do however remember having to throw out all my perfectly frozen, measured, labeled and stored breast milk and crying a lot. DS was 3 at the time and it had all reached and passed the recommenced use by date, but it was my last connection to that bond....motherhood makes you weird.
Before I had a child, I had no idea how emotional this process was going to be. I thought the baby just latches on and you get to save money on formula. When I found out I wasn't able to breast feed, I was devastated. It was by far the hardest part of maternity leave and the hormones did not help.
So if you want to make a necklace with a matching bracelet, go for it.
This post was my eye opener. This makes more sense to me. When I think about throwing out something that took a lot of hard work and relating it to the last connection and bond, I get it now. I can definitely respect wanting to hold on to a piece of that memory.
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
I'm waiting for the Evander Holyfield moment from the Friends episode when Rachel is pregnant!
BFP #2 8/22/12 | EDD 5/5/13 | DS1 born 5/9/13
BFP #3 4/25/15 | EDD 1/7/16 | MMC 7/2/15 @ 13w1d | D&E 7/8/15
BFP #4 12/9/15 | EDD 8/22/16 | DS2 born 5/18/16 at 26w2d
Just keep swimming.
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
I admit, he had to deal with me thanks to pregnancy gas but you know what? This is not a two way street. I get a pass, he does not!
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero placenta surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18