You Americans are so weird about shoes in the house! I guess my UO is that wearing shoes in someone's home is weird and unnecessary.
It's not just us. My husband is Italian and my no-shoes policy was a big adjustment for him. He thinks he'll get sick in bare feet. Obviously, slippers solve that problem, but his family & friends from Italy pretty much all wear shoes inside. And they want the kids & I to wear shoes when we're there. Makes me nuts.
Hmm... I think it's more common in England to leave shoes on (at least when I was growing up there we did that at friend's houses and then I found it was frowned upon here). I love to wear Toms in the house- in anyone's house- though I try to respect house rules of course. I just like wearing shoes... not socks so much, just flat shoes. My daughter on the other hand, and my mom, wear bare feet at every opportunity. #familyrebel.
I have yet to have someone in public make a comment about me being pregnant or acknowledge it at all and it kind of bums me out.
Dont get me wrong, I'm glad I haven't had to deal with inappropriate comments about size from strangers (just coworkers who think I look SOO small compared to my very petite coworker who is 5 inches shorter than me and was carrying a 90th percentile baby last year and my grandmother) but it makes me worry that people assume I'm just getting fat since so many other people seem to get all sorts of comments. Either that or I magically live in a very polite area of the country which I highly doubt.
Hmm... I think it's more common in England to leave shoes on (at least when I was growing up there we did that at friend's houses and then I found it was frowned upon here). I love to wear Toms in the house- in anyone's house- though I try to respect house rules of course. I just like wearing shoes... not socks so much, just flat shoes. My daughter on the other hand, and my mom, wear bare feet at every opportunity. #familyrebel.
I think if you have house shoes that NEVER leave the inside of your home - than that's fine. I'm with PP who said snow is an issue (Wyoming - where it snows 9 months a year). Except instead of salt, they throw down sand here. If you were shoes in from outside and then walk around, you track snow and sand EVERYWHERE! Then when that person goes walking barefoot across their hardwoods.... Well I'm sure you can imagine how awesome that feels. And you know it's bad when your crawling age baby has socks that are black on top from the dirt that gets tracked in.
@GoldenmamaJ I also am apparently carrying small. I'm 5'11" so that's probably part of it, but comments about how some days (depending on what I'm wearing) people can't tell that I'm pregnant or that people don't realize I'm pregnant from behind weird me out.
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I have yet to have someone in public make a comment about me being pregnant or acknowledge it at all and it kind of bums me out.
Dont get me wrong, I'm glad I haven't had to deal with inappropriate comments about size from strangers (just coworkers who think I look SOO small compared to my very petite coworker who is 5 inches shorter than me and was carrying a 90th percentile baby last year and my grandmother) but it makes me worry that people assume I'm just getting fat since so many other people seem to get all sorts of comments. Either that or I magically live in a very polite area of the country which I highly doubt.
Same! Although lately I've noticed old ladies smiling at me in public more often, and I'm like "what's her deal?" until I remember that I'm so obviously pregnant.
The only person I know who doesn't allow shoes is my half Korean friend. Her parents, too. They always take shoes off.
As for the shoes bringing in stuff..dogs..bring just as much in
We are a shoes off house ourselves due to my husband being Asian, but I am not a big stickler for people that stop over. A lot of people have made very good points about tracking stuff in and having the baby on the floor by all that, so I may have to become a little more adamant. Growing up we left shoes on for the most part or slippers, so it was a little bit of an adjustment initially, but when we go to visit his family I just be sure to bring a pair of socks along to put on because my tootsies get cold!
Along with cankles, my other worst nightmare is that people assume I am just getting fat versus growing the cutest baby in the world...so I have made a point to show off the belly as much as possible with form fitting shirts and the like. I personally don't understand how they could mistake my belly for anything other than being pregnant, but whatever...maybe it is the cankles!! Of course I then have the awesome co-worker that said I looked way further along than 32 weeks...I blame it on having a short torso and nowhere for the baby to go but out. My husband thinks my belly still looks small, so I just focus on that.
My midwife checks baby's position by palpating my belly... They don't do internal checks at all before the birth. Thank god, doesn't sound comfortable. With my DD, other than conception, nothing went in or came out of my vagina... Almost as if I didn't need the thing.
I don't understand parents who dress their children up like little dolls, then take them someplace fun and not want them to get messed up. We took our daughter to Disney, and there was a 3-4 year old girl there, all done up in frills and bows and whatnot. And her mom was freaking out because dad let her run through a sprinkler/fountain and get all wet. Let kids be kids!! Barefoot, muddy, wet, dirt on their faces... Best way to be!!
@AmberLiz99 that is such a silly reason for other parents to get mad. They should realize that they can't totally control shared public spaces.
My opinion (I don't know if it will be UO or not) is that I want as few cervical checks as possible. I was at my 36-week appointment today and my doctor told me they typically start doing them at 37 weeks. I just don't see the usefulness of the information that early. I'll be spending the next week trying to decide whether to refuse the check. The only thing that might make me go ahead with it is that the doctor said it's the best way to know for sure whether baby is head down, and that is actually information I would like to confirm.
They can tell if baby is head down without that check. I got one early because I was curious and then I refused the rest. There is no need, baby will come when baby is ready!
My doctor said that I can totally decline what I want, but that it can be useful to get a cervical check or two just to have a baseline. That way if you go in to L&D triage they have something to compare it to. If you're 3cm and having kinda irregular contractions and they know nothing, you'll stay for a while to make sure you're not in labor yet. If they know you were already at 3cm like a week ago, it's quicker for them to figure out if you're in labor or not and less unnecessary waiting around for you if you're not. So I'll probably do one at like 37 weeks and then turn them down or just do every other week.
@AmberLiz99 that is such a silly reason for other parents to get mad. They should realize that they can't totally control shared public spaces.
My opinion (I don't know if it will be UO or not) is that I want as few cervical checks as possible. I was at my 36-week appointment today and my doctor told me they typically start doing them at 37 weeks. I just don't see the usefulness of the information that early. I'll be spending the next week trying to decide whether to refuse the check. The only thing that might make me go ahead with it is that the doctor said it's the best way to know for sure whether baby is head down, and that is actually information I would like to confirm.
They can tell if baby is head down without that check. I got one early because I was curious and then I refused the rest. There is no need, baby will come when baby is ready!
My doctor said that I can totally decline what I want, but that it can be useful to get a cervical check or two just to have a baseline. That way if you go in to L&D triage they have something to compare it to. If you're 3cm and having kinda irregular contractions and they know nothing, you'll stay for a while to make sure you're not in labor yet. If they know you were already at 3cm like a week ago, it's quicker for them to figure out if you're in labor or not and less unnecessary waiting around for you if you're not. So I'll probably do one at like 37 weeks and then turn them down or just do every other week.
This is also a good point. Last pregnancy when I got checked at 35 weeks I was 1cm, then I was in L&D a week and a half later with timetable contractions and when checked I was at 3cm. It was good to be able to tell them what was what so we knew the contractions were being productive.
I wont be denying a check because I really feel like it helped me to be more prepared. I was 1cm and 80% effaced and my ob said I could go to term or it could be any day and luckily I was more motivated to get everything ready.
The only person I know who doesn't allow shoes is my half Korean friend. Her parents, too. They always take shoes off.
As for the shoes bringing in stuff..dogs..bring just as much in
Yup! We have a dog, and he makes more of a mess of the house than we do with shoes. I have mostly hardwood throughout my house, except for our downstairs (split level home). So it's easier to clean than carpet. I do take my shoes off normally, but I don't care either way. And with the baby's room it's all clean so I don't wear shoes in there, and make sure my dog isn't dirty before letting him in that room.
Do you guys never have BBQ parties where people re going in and out? How does that work if you want people to take their shoes off.
I've lived in the northeast my whole life, and the shoes on or off is really just personal preference from my experience. Some people want you to take your shoes off and some don't care.
My midwife checks baby's position by palpating my belly... They don't do internal checks at all before the birth. Thank god, doesn't sound comfortable. With my DD, other than conception, nothing went in or came out of my vagina... Almost as if I didn't need the thing.
I don't understand parents who dress their children up like little dolls, then take them someplace fun and not want them to get messed up. We took our daughter to Disney, and there was a 3-4 year old girl there, all done up in frills and bows and whatnot. And her mom was freaking out because dad let her run through a sprinkler/fountain and get all wet. Let kids be kids!! Barefoot, muddy, wet, dirt on their faces... Best way to be!!
I've been told (passive aggressively, of course) by my mother in law that I don't dress my daughter fancy enough. Yes, I shop at consignment stores and she wears pants because we play 24/7 and she runs in the dirt, splashes with her table and we walk on the greenway. She wears dresses to weddings and that's it lol.
My midwife checks baby's position by palpating my belly... They don't do internal checks at all before the birth. Thank god, doesn't sound comfortable. With my DD, other than conception, nothing went in or came out of my vagina... Almost as if I didn't need the thing.
I don't understand parents who dress their children up like little dolls, then take them someplace fun and not want them to get messed up. We took our daughter to Disney, and there was a 3-4 year old girl there, all done up in frills and bows and whatnot. And her mom was freaking out because dad let her run through a sprinkler/fountain and get all wet. Let kids be kids!! Barefoot, muddy, wet, dirt on their faces... Best way to be!!
I've been told (passive aggressively, of course) by my mother in law that I don't dress my daughter fancy enough. Yes, I shop at consignment stores and she wears pants because we play 24/7 and she runs in the dirt, splashes with her table and we walk on the greenway. She wears dresses to weddings and that's it lol.
Inspired by this, my UO is that I'm returning a lot of the pink frilly outfits I was gifted at my shower. I know she's a female, but that is totally not my style...
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My midwife checks baby's position by palpating my belly... They don't do internal checks at all before the birth. Thank god, doesn't sound comfortable. With my DD, other than conception, nothing went in or came out of my vagina... Almost as if I didn't need the thing.
I don't understand parents who dress their children up like little dolls, then take them someplace fun and not want them to get messed up. We took our daughter to Disney, and there was a 3-4 year old girl there, all done up in frills and bows and whatnot. And her mom was freaking out because dad let her run through a sprinkler/fountain and get all wet. Let kids be kids!! Barefoot, muddy, wet, dirt on their faces... Best way to be!!
I've been told (passive aggressively, of course) by my mother in law that I don't dress my daughter fancy enough. Yes, I shop at consignment stores and she wears pants because we play 24/7 and she runs in the dirt, splashes with her table and we walk on the greenway. She wears dresses to weddings and that's it lol.
Inspired by this, my UO is that I'm returning a lot of the pink frilly outfits I was gifted at my shower. I know she's a female, but that is totally not my style...
Mine would be that I am way excited to dress mine in frills. At least until she decides she doesn't like them. She'll have 2 older brothers, 5 older male cousins and her dad. ..I doubt the frills will last long
I'm in Oklahoma and we take our shoes off at the door because of sand burs. Stepping on a Lego pain has nothing on stepping on a sand bur pain.
Are those the tiny spike ball things? Those things suck. So do the big spike balls from some of the trees. I don't know the correct name, we've always called them spike balls....
My midwife checks baby's position by palpating my belly... They don't do internal checks at all before the birth. Thank god, doesn't sound comfortable. With my DD, other than conception, nothing went in or came out of my vagina... Almost as if I didn't need the thing.
I don't understand parents who dress their children up like little dolls, then take them someplace fun and not want them to get messed up. We took our daughter to Disney, and there was a 3-4 year old girl there, all done up in frills and bows and whatnot. And her mom was freaking out because dad let her run through a sprinkler/fountain and get all wet. Let kids be kids!! Barefoot, muddy, wet, dirt on their faces... Best way to be!!
I've been told (passive aggressively, of course) by my mother in law that I don't dress my daughter fancy enough. Yes, I shop at consignment stores and she wears pants because we play 24/7 and she runs in the dirt, splashes with her table and we walk on the greenway. She wears dresses to weddings and that's it lol.
Inspired by this, my UO is that I'm returning a lot of the pink frilly outfits I was gifted at my shower. I know she's a female, but that is totally not my style...
The funny thing for us is my husband is OBSESSED with pink and frills. I am just lazy lol, onesies are so much easier than "outfits"....I would see so many parents get stressed about dressing their kids, finding matching shoes...etc, for what? music class at 4 months old? Never made sense to me. I don't have anything against girly colors, just the high maintenance stuff.
I don't know whether this was just my moms rule or not but growing up (England) we never ever wore our shoes in the house, or other people's houses. I now live in South Georgia where if you go to someone's house, you only take your shoes off if you're going to be there for a long time.
As far as cervical checks, my OB doesn't like to do them unless she thinks you're in labor. She does, however, do one at 36 weeks for a baseline like others have said. She told me beforehand that it's usually the one and only since they can trigger labor and they're pretty much unnecessary. My OB kills me when she does it! She about loses an arm up there! But when I had to see the midwife for my 36 week appt Thursday, the midwife I had to see (my OB had an emergency at the hospital) was so super gentle I didn't even feel it.
I'm in Oklahoma and we take our shoes off at the door because of sand burs. Stepping on a Lego pain has nothing on stepping on a sand bur pain.
Are those the tiny spike ball things? Those things suck. So do the big spike balls from some of the trees. I don't know the correct name, we've always called them spike balls....
Yup. I grew up in the Midwest so this whole "land of everything trying to hurt or kill you" is just bullshit. My husband is lucky I love him. I miss green grass and rainy spring seasons of my childhood. And being able to walk to my car in sandals and not feel like I'm walking on sharpened Lego needles.
Re: UO Thursday!!!!
I have yet to have someone in public make a comment about me being pregnant or acknowledge it at all and it kind of bums me out.
Dont get me wrong, I'm glad I haven't had to deal with inappropriate comments about size from strangers (just coworkers who think I look SOO small compared to my very petite coworker who is 5 inches shorter than me and was carrying a 90th percentile baby last year and my grandmother) but it makes me worry that people assume I'm just getting fat since so many other people seem to get all sorts of comments. Either that or I magically live in a very polite area of the country which I highly doubt.
As for the shoes bringing in stuff..dogs..bring just as much in
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Along with cankles, my other worst nightmare is that people assume I am just getting fat versus growing the cutest baby in the world...so I have made a point to show off the belly as much as possible with form fitting shirts and the like. I personally don't understand how they could mistake my belly for anything other than being pregnant, but whatever...maybe it is the cankles!! Of course I then have the awesome co-worker that said I looked way further along than 32 weeks...I blame it on having a short torso and nowhere for the baby to go but out. My husband thinks my belly still looks small, so I just focus on that.
I don't understand parents who dress their children up like little dolls, then take them someplace fun and not want them to get messed up. We took our daughter to Disney, and there was a 3-4 year old girl there, all done up in frills and bows and whatnot. And her mom was freaking out because dad let her run through a sprinkler/fountain and get all wet. Let kids be kids!! Barefoot, muddy, wet, dirt on their faces... Best way to be!!
I wont be denying a check because I really feel like it helped me to be more prepared. I was 1cm and 80% effaced and my ob said I could go to term or it could be any day and luckily I was more motivated to get everything ready.
Do you guys never have BBQ parties where people re going in and out? How does that work if you want people to take their shoes off.
I've lived in the northeast my whole life, and the shoes on or off is really just personal preference from my experience. Some people want you to take your shoes off and some don't care.
I now live in South Georgia where if you go to someone's house, you only take your shoes off if you're going to be there for a long time.
As far as cervical checks, my OB doesn't like to do them unless she thinks you're in labor. She does, however, do one at 36 weeks for a baseline like others have said. She told me beforehand that it's usually the one and only since they can trigger labor and they're pretty much unnecessary. My OB kills me when she does it! She about loses an arm up there! But when I had to see the midwife for my 36 week appt Thursday, the midwife I had to see (my OB had an emergency at the hospital) was so super gentle I didn't even feel it.