TTC After a Loss

^^^^TTCAL CHECK-IN : week of May 2^^^^

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Re: ^^^^TTCAL CHECK-IN : week of May 2^^^^

  • @crazypt2285 Hey there, sorry to hear you're having a hard time. I don't really read any blogs (maybe cause I write one and that's all I can take). I did just read a really neat piece on Why Revolutionaries Love Spicy Food, if you're looking for something immediately.

    What I've done to fill the time is start learning how to cook authentic Indian and Ethiopian food. There's a lot of overlap in the spices, so we made a trip to Little India and bought everything and now I grind and make and saute and we eat brand new food a couple times a week. It's totally brand new to me, even though I've been immersed in the kitchen since I was ten and have cooked professionally, which really helps me form new memories and skills to keep from falling into a pit of anxiety and depression. I'm not suggesting my thing is going to be your thing, but maybe try dipping your toes into something completely different to help occupy your mind a little through the rough spots.

    Hugs, lady, we're all here to listen if you need/want. I'm personally totally down to help in any way I can.
    Renee, 34 + Devon, 29 married 08/13 <3
    TTC  09/15
    *TW Loss mentioned*
    BFP 12/15/15 EDD: 08/26/16
    MMC discovered 1/25/16 at 9 +3
    TTCAL 3/2016
    Acupuncture 11/16
    Dx December 2016: unexplained 
    January 2017: 50 mg Clomid + TI =
    BFP #2 01/30/17  Please be a sticky baby!
    EDD: 10/15/17  Measuring ahead! 10/12/17 
    Ambrose born on his due date!

  • @crazypt2285 I check in on a few blogs. One I just learned about is Every Upward. It is infertility / TTC related. The link it to her "top posts". 

    Another one I read is : Balance with B. She talks mostly about food and yoga. She has some health issues that she uses dietary changes to address. She also has a nice instagram account to follow.

    Good luck occupying that brain, this is such a hard time. 
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  • @crazypt2285 not a blog or reading material but I thoroughly enjoyed watching the great British baking show on Netflix as a distraction 
    TW: MMC
    BFP1 12/24/14 - EDD 09/07/15 (D/C 8w1d)
    BFP2 6/12/15 - EDD 2/22/16 (D/C 10w3d)
    ———
    Diagnoses and Treatments
    PCOS (myo-inositol, excercize)
    Indeterminant levels of APS IgM antibodies (baby aspirin)
    Sub-septate uterus (hysteroscopic septoplasty 12/18/15)
    ———
    BFP3 05/02/16 EDD 01/09/17 DS born 01/05/17
    BFP4 01/28/19 EDD 10/?/19 🤞🙏

  • @reneeannemm, I'd love to read your blog if you are open to sharing :)

    DD1 born 5/24/10.

    Missed M/C at 14 wks Feb 2012.

    DD2 born 5/14/13.

    Missed M/C at 9 wks July 2015.

    Expecting someone new 4/17/17.
  • edited May 2016
    @ceclarlinetlo Holy crap, yes. It was the sweetest, gentlest, loveliest thing I've seen in ages. DH and I would look at each and wonder why we were crying happy tears over old men baking bread and piping frosting. We had our Thanksgiving guests watch and hooked them all.

    edit: @MWoodside Hey, for sure. It's not super personal but I'm The Leafy Cauldron. I did talk about the miscarriage on there a bit and will continue to do so, as we were completely public about the whole thing. I feel weird about how hard I work on it, so I often talk using the Royal We as though everything on it wasn't accomplished only by me. I have a medium blog, too, where I have some bits of a play I was writing and recorded everything of the first two days of my miscarriage and the first day after. I should add my self indulgent and angst-filled poetry one day. I get really self conscious about writing, so I stop for long periods of time, but I'd be very surprised if I didn't get everything out and on the internet one day.
    Renee, 34 + Devon, 29 married 08/13 <3
    TTC  09/15
    *TW Loss mentioned*
    BFP 12/15/15 EDD: 08/26/16
    MMC discovered 1/25/16 at 9 +3
    TTCAL 3/2016
    Acupuncture 11/16
    Dx December 2016: unexplained 
    January 2017: 50 mg Clomid + TI =
    BFP #2 01/30/17  Please be a sticky baby!
    EDD: 10/15/17  Measuring ahead! 10/12/17 
    Ambrose born on his due date!

  • @ceclarlinetlo OMG, yes! We love the Great British Baking show. My husband actually got hooked first and made me watch one night. So simple and relaxing. I love how everyone is so good natured on the show too.
  • I started watercolour classes on March. I needed an artistic or hands-on outlet after my MC. This has been perfect for me as it lets me use my brain in a very different way than I do at work, and it is very fulfilling.

    looking forward to read you @reneeannemm
    Married 06.21.14 / TTC since 11.15 /
    BFP 01.03.2016 / MMC 6w5d D&C 02.2016 // BFP 05.06.16 / natural MC 05.12.16
    Benched 06.2016-08.2016 / TTC again 09.2016! On a diet. Cranky.
    BFP 10.02.2016 / NT scan at 12w looked normal / Anatomy scan at 20w everything ok
    Team blue! / EDD June 11th 2017
    DAVID ROGER was born on May 23rd at 37 weeks.

    Architect, Peruvian living in Chile. I love art, opera and good chocolate.
    Started PhD studies in Architecture on 2017.
    Fur mom of a rescued miniature poodle called Luke Skywalker.


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  • kns1988kns1988 member
    @crazypt2285, reading https://twelveweeketernities.wordpress.com/ helped me after my D&E because her losses were very similar to mine. I started at the beginning and stopped reading when she actually got a successful pregnancy, just because I'm not ready to read about pregnant people yet.

    Not sure what your interests are, but these are some other non-TTC blogs/sites that I read:

    https://www.frugalwoods.com/
    https://www.apartmenttherapy.com/
    https://marriedtothetrail.com/
    Me: 29, DH: 31
    Married: October 2014
    Began TTC: April 2015
    BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w)
    BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w)
    BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17 <3
    BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19. 


  • If you're interested in yarn, knitting or yarn-related humour I can suggest many blogs.

    I'll also mention - my BIL has a blog with only one post - written from the perspective of his pup - which I need to get on him to write more entries - it is so lovely - https://dogbiography.wordpress.com/ 
    ---TW BFP and MC mentioned - scroll down past the Lilo and Stitch gif to avoid ---




    Me: 33 & DH: 33
    Married: 07/2006
    TTC: 10/2015
    BFP #1: 11/2015, MC 12/2015 (7 weeks)
    BFP #2: 06/2016, EDD 2/15/2017



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  • This blog is a by a friend of a friend and has given me encouragement after having two losses. It does mention a successful pregnancy, in case you would be triggered by that. https://www.kyleandrichenda.com/third-time-lucky/
  • @reneeannemm, wow your blog is amazing! My husband is vegan so I am going to have him pick out some recipes tonight for me to make for him. Thank you for sharing the link!

    DD1 born 5/24/10.

    Missed M/C at 14 wks Feb 2012.

    DD2 born 5/14/13.

    Missed M/C at 9 wks July 2015.

    Expecting someone new 4/17/17.
  • @MWoodside Oh, that's so funny! Happy to help, if you have any questions; I tend to have different techniques than existing vegan foods. 
    Renee, 34 + Devon, 29 married 08/13 <3
    TTC  09/15
    *TW Loss mentioned*
    BFP 12/15/15 EDD: 08/26/16
    MMC discovered 1/25/16 at 9 +3
    TTCAL 3/2016
    Acupuncture 11/16
    Dx December 2016: unexplained 
    January 2017: 50 mg Clomid + TI =
    BFP #2 01/30/17  Please be a sticky baby!
    EDD: 10/15/17  Measuring ahead! 10/12/17 
    Ambrose born on his due date!

  • HLD3194HLD3194 member

    Thank you everyone! I am looking forward to reading these. I really appreciate you all taking the time to comment. Makes a shitty situation a little less shitty

  • Thats great news @ceclarlinetlo! I will keep you in my thoughts for sure....grow little bean! :) 
  • Oh, @ceclarlinetlo - I totally relate to your anxiety over the US appointment. I've never had a positive outcome from one either. I will keep all my things crossed for you. Truly hopeful this is it! xoxo

    Me: 40, DH: 35 / Married: 2009; TTC #1: 2013

    2013 - 2015: 5 pregnancies —> 5 miscarriages

    TTCAL with RE (RPL specialist): February 2016

    2016: 3 medicated TI cycles —> 3 medicated IUI cycles: All BFN

    Donor Egg IVF Transfer: May 1, 2017

    May 11, 2017: BFP!! Beta #1: 449.1, Beta #2: 844, Beta #3: 1714

    EDD: 1/17/18, it's a GIRL!  <3 E. L. A. born 12/7/2017








  • @ceclarlinetlo, yay! I hope your 6/1 u/s shows a perfect size little bean with a beating heart. Sticky dust to you!

    DD1 born 5/24/10.

    Missed M/C at 14 wks Feb 2012.

    DD2 born 5/14/13.

    Missed M/C at 9 wks July 2015.

    Expecting someone new 4/17/17.
  • HexieHexie member
    2. Status (WTO, TWW, Benched, etc.) 
    WTO, cycle 8

    3. Rants/raves:
    Started P90X3 fitness program to keep my mind off TTC. So far it has been very effective as I feel completely in charge of the process and am able to see the progress. ( All good things that TTC is lacking)
    Rant: due to all the exercises or other unknown factor my BBT pattern got more erratic then previous cycles. Now I'm dreading the mornings when I get another disappointing reading. Then I have to remind myself to stop obsessing over it because it's just another data record and nothing more...

    4. GTKY: What's you favorite sound? smell? and taste?
    Sound of rain coming down in spring. Smell of pine forest on a hot summer day. Taste of candied ginger on winter holidays.
    TTC: Nov 2014
    BFP: Apr 2015 - Ectopic Pregnancy
    TTC: Oct 2015
    My Chart
  • The Great British Baking Show sounds like it was meant for me! I plan on starting that tonight when I get home from work. I need something to make me feel better after the Mother's Day weekend. 
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