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September 2015 Moms
imsoexcited915
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Nervous about another - think I'm one and done
imsoexcited915
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I have 2 friends that had very traumatic pregnancies and outcomes. One had an infection and delivered baby at 24 weeks. She was 1 lb. and so many problems and surgeries and never left hospital and lost her little battle at just 4 months old. I was at a benefit for her and saw another friend who has a child who is 17 months and at the same developmental stage and weight now as mine. She was a premie 4 weeks early who has a very severe heart abnormality tetralogy of fallot and has had a zillion problems and surgeries and has a feeding tube in her nose and full time nursing care at home. It's heartbreaking to hear and see these things and to firsthand know someone going through these difficulties. I count my blessings every single day and am so grateful to have a happy healthy child that I think I'm one and done. Being an older mom and just the risk of Down's syndrome alone I don't think I could bear going through all that. Just been thinking about those 2 ladies a lot lately. I think I'd be a wreck with worry through another pregnancy. My DD is perfect and we are so happy and blessed. I at times question her not having a sibling but then find solace that she has 7 cousins all under 5. Just had to share and vent. Thanks ladies.
Re: Nervous about another - think I'm one and done
I have 2, have always wanted 3, but I'm an older mom, too. So I have those same concerns. We didn't think we'd have 1, ivf worked, then 2 was a surprise. I sometimes think that I'd be tempting fate of i tried for a 3rd. We have 2 healthy, beautiful babies, stories like those make me really appreciate how fortunate we are.
Whatever you decide, you're right. Cousins are always fun. My husband is closer to one of his cousins than his brother (they're close in age, have a lot in common).
My daughter's birth and aftermath were very traumatic and the thought of going through something like that again gives me severe anxiety.
Her cord prolapsed at home at 37 w. Rushed to hospital. EMCS on General anasthesia. Her initial APGAR was a 3. Only went up to 5 at 5 minutes. And then days and weeks and months even of them telling us she may have delays due to the nature of her birth and being deprived of oxygen for an unknown amount of time (we're so lucky she made it).
However, so far there have been no delays to indicate any neurological issues. She smiled, laughed, rolled, sat, and is now clapping all ahead of time. Constantly getting remarks from people that she seems smarter and more alert than a typical 8 month old. Pediatrician was finally reassuring at the last appt and said she really doesn't see any sign of trouble so we may be in the clear.
Although it is rare for me to have a second prolapsed cord the thought of it makes me want to throw up. I've had quite rare things happen to me so the statistic don't really make me feel better (recurrent miscarriages (4 in a row)--1% of women; molar pregnancy -- 0.001% of pregnancies; cord prolapse -- 0.003%). I feel like I would be a wreck throughout my entire next pregnancy!
BFP September 2013 - MMC at 12 weeks
BFP February 2014 - early loss/CP at 4.5 weeks
BFP May 2014 - MMC/ complete molar pregnancy at 11 weeks
BFP December 2015 - DD born 8/18/2015
BFP November 2016 - pending...
My grandma had 5 sisters and they've all passed so she's still alone in that regard. But she still has the family she's created and she has a thriving social life with the ladies at her senior home.
My dad is bipolar and he has several brothers and sisters and as soon as he goes downhill they all vanish leaving my brother and I to deal with him alone.