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Bringing baby to visit Great Grandma

SkiChic626SkiChic626 member
in August 2016 Moms
So, for whatever reason, as paranoid as I was as a FTM, I never gave bringing DD to my grandmother's assisted living facility a second thought.  While I was on maternity leave I visited several times.  No one touched DD other than my grandmother when we were actually in her apartment, and DD was pretty much always either in the carrier or my arms being fed if we weren't inside the apartment.  I'm wondering if I should be more paranoid about doing this with DS now that I "know better?"  Or is there really nothing to "know better" about and I'm just being paranoid now for whatever reason?  My grandmother is 90 but she's very active, travels a lot, has normal ailments but is otherwise healthy given that she's 90 years old.   She doesn't need nursing care yet, but she decided to live in the assisted living place just in case, that way care is close by if she ever needed it like when she fell and broke her hip 2 years ago.  It kinda reminds me of a giant college dorm just with old people lol.  Anyway, the facility is actually close by to my house and she actually drives over some Wednesdays when my mom is there with DD to visit, so she is capable of doing that, as well. Thoughts?  WWYD?  I will note that while she's not my favorite, she is currently my only living grandparent, and I kinda love that DD has great grandparents and want her to know them as much as possible before the inevitable.
DD  <3 6/15/2014
Baby #2 due 8/11/2016

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  • bearsandbeets7bearsandbeets7 member
    It's probably no worse than taking LO to Walmart or out to dinner or out in general. I personally wouldn't think much of it. But, I lost my grandma and grandpa last year within a month of each other so Id pretty much give anything for my kids to know my grandparents.  
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  • charmedlifex3charmedlifex3 member

    Honestly, I think that is something I wouldn't worry about. People generally try to avoid nursing homes when they are sick, because the elderly tend to be more fragile - and I know every assisted living place I have been has been sanitized like crazy for the same reason.





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  • Curls919Curls919 member
    Allisun85 said:

    Honestly, I think that is something I wouldn't worry about. People generally try to avoid nursing homes when they are sick, because the elderly tend to be more fragile - and I know every assisted living place I have been has been sanitized like crazy for the same reason.


    I was going to say the same thing!
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  • SkiChic626SkiChic626 member
    Allisun85 said:

    Honestly, I think that is something I wouldn't worry about. People generally try to avoid nursing homes when they are sick, because the elderly tend to be more fragile - and I know every assisted living place I have been has been sanitized like crazy for the same reason.


    Yeah, I was thinking this, as well.  It was probably riskier taking her to the diner or Target.
    DD  <3 6/15/2014
    Baby #2 due 8/11/2016

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  • kwilliams3402kwilliams3402 member

    Slightly different, but my father-in-law was in ICU and I visited many, many times during the first trimester and beginning of the second trimester.  He had several antibiotic resistant infections, and I just gowned and gloved up, and didn't touch him.  I knew there was a risk of catching his infection, or one of the many floating around the hospital, but I just practiced the best hygiene I could, and never caught anything.  My father-in-law passed away in early March, and I am glad that I risked the possible infection because it meant I was there when he and my husband needed me. 

    I did, however, get a nasty head cold right before Easter, and I'm pretty sure I caught it from just breathing the air of someone who came to our house to visit with my husband who mentioned he had cold symptoms the day before... and I never touched him.

    Pregnant lady and baby immune systems are obviously different, but sharing my experience if it's helpful.

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  • charmedlifex3charmedlifex3 member
    The only worry I would have is great grandma likely won't be able to get the TDAP - that would be my only concern. Which for sporadic contact and if she doesn't hold the baby until they get their shots a 2mo, should be okay.



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  • Nikkoli98Nikkoli98 member
    edited May 2016
    I would feel better about assisted living over a nursing home. Also would also probably avoid during influenza season.  If you are really freaked out, you could always just pick your grandma up and take her out.
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  • ginger819ginger819 member
    Allisun85 said:
    The only worry I would have is great grandma likely won't be able to get the TDAP - that would be my only concern. Which for sporadic contact and if she doesn't hold the baby until they get their shots a 2mo, should be okay.
    I wouldn't even worry much about this. This is why you are supposed to get the TDAP during the third trimester of every pregnancy even if you are current on it. The antibodies pass on to baby to protect them until their shots. So unless great grandma is obviously sick I wouldn't worry. Your risk is still probably higher at the grocery store (a lot of people who aren't around babies or kids aren't current on them). As a whole I wouldn't worry about taking lo there. 


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  • MamaKSquaredMamaKSquared member
    We'll be in a slightly different situation. DH's grandma is our only remaining grandparent between the 2 of us. We lost DH's grandpa about a year ago, so it's important to both of us that she gets to meet baby. She has Alzheimer's and is currently in a nursing home. We plan on taking baby to visit, because it's the only chance she'll ever get to meet it, but we'll use common sense and all the precautions we can. We'll wait until baby is old enough to receive at least 1 round of Tdap, etc.
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  • Stephanie7693Stephanie7693 member
    I wouldn't worry much. I brought my son as an infant to the nursing home to see my 90 year old great grandma, many times. Only family was allowed to touch him, and we kept to ourselves. My grandma also wasn't capable of holding him until he could sit up on his own, but I sure let her touch him all she wanted! Just make sure everyone is washing hands and sanatizing, just because it can't hurt. I do that in doctors waiting rooms and urgent care, because yuck, that's where sick people go lol
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